Text/Tang Ruo
Tang Ruoxin learns original works, and those who violate them will be investigated
Some people have said that life is full of unsatisfactory things, how to face unsatisfactory things, in fact, the most important thing in life is to develop strong resilience, resilience is the root of self-growth, but also determines our own strong fundamentals.
If we want to get out of life's predicament quickly, remember not to blame ourselves and deny ourselves, but to remember the three mature mental methods and cultivate strong resilience.
These mental methods can allow us to quickly get out of internal friction and internal involvement, but have a strong ability to cope with and solve all the troubles and realities of life.
The first mental method: face reality head-on and not fall into the emotional world
In life, there will always be some unsatisfactory things, so when encountering this matter, the best way is not to constantly blame yourself.
When many people encounter difficulties, the first thing that comes to mind is to escape and blame yourself and to deny yourself, and when you continue to deny yourself, your life will fall into trouble.
Because negation brings self-guilt, the most important thing is that emotions have energy, and when you are constantly in negative emotions, your energy is very low, and you simply can't help yourself to improve yourself.
So learning to face reality is the first important mental method for us to improve our inner strength, and when you are willing to face reality, you will find that your inner strength and wisdom will come.
In fact, when people's emotions are in constant internal friction, we are not only unable to change, but also make ourselves worse.
Therefore, when we learn to believe in ourselves and are not afraid to face it, we can see our inner courage and wisdom. For example, some people face loss of love, divorce, unemployment, often difficult to extricate themselves, and then will use drinking, traveling, overeating to escape themselves, these are the results of continuous escape that we dare not face.
Many people are easily controlled by emotions because they encounter unsatisfactory things, such as betrayal in marriage, or partners do not value themselves, they will tend to treat themselves in an emotional way, but this way will not help us to change the status quo.
Truly powerful people, dare to face reality, and know how to actively solve problems with thinking, which is the basis for us to become strong.
For more articles on self-growth and self-improvement, you can follow my column, from the mentality, thinking, habits, relationships, cognition and other dimensions to help you rebuild your inner strong self in a complex jungle world.
Second, look for the positive meaning of everything
If we want to make ourselves stronger inside, we must know how to think about positive meaning from this matter.
In fact, everything will bring us growth and gains, such as when you fail, when you continue to criticize yourself, not only can not help you see the facts and the truth, but also put us into a negative state.
And what is the real growth is to see the growth and meaning that this thing brings to ourselves, we no longer criticize ourselves, but to examine our gains and meanings in this matter, we will understand that there is never a road in vain in this world.
For example, the loss of love is to teach us to learn true love, is to face the gender problem how to really understand each other, rather than just looking after themselves, good feelings are from the discovery of the self and the perfection of the self.
The more perfect everyone is inside, the greater the chance of encountering perfect love. A person with a strong heart will see what the subject of self-growth is through everything in the moment, so as to truly face himself, truly iterate himself, and our lives will have more plasticity.
Positive psychology has found that if a person knows how to distill the topic of self-growth from everything, we often do not affect self-exploration, but embrace the world with a positive state.
Good emotions will bring us positive influence, but also bring strong coping ability, which is the root of our inner strength.
The third mental method is to learn to be flexible
If we want to make ourselves stronger in our hearts, the third mental method we have to learn is to learn to be flexible. When our inner setbacks and difficulties come, we must know how to find ways to deal with them.
In fact, what is the best way and method of growing up in life is to accept the time when it happens in the present and then deal with the next stage with the best mentality, which is the highest state of our growth.
If we are hesitant to accept what has already happened, and when we are still hesitating and tangling, our state will be affected, and naturally our hearts will be very fragile.
Good growth is the process of continuously opening up ourselves, and it helps us to see more possibilities and the rich creativity within ourselves.
For example, if we sit on the wrong foot because we overslept, a person who does not know how to actively let go will always stare at his mistakes and not let go of himself.
People who are strong inside will deeply accept the facts, and at the same time know how to solve problems, such as taking a bus or taxi to reach the destination, to ensure that they do not delay things.
So when you have a flexible state of mind, your positive mindset will allow you to constantly rebuild your future.
In fact, life is never afraid to make mistakes, what is most needed is something we need to do in the moment to make ourselves better.
On the road to growth in life, never forget that we have the right to choose, and we can maintain enough energy to cope with every step of life through positive choices.
People with strong inner strength will not easily criticize and deny themselves, but deeply embrace the present, know how to use self-good consciousness to make the best choices and optimize consciousness, which is the follow-up of our iterative self-life.
Good growth is always jumped out, not from their own small pattern, but from the big pattern, our lives will continue to be rich and rich.
Today's topic, what do you think is the best way to face life and difficulties, welcome to discuss and communicate.