The understanding without a bottom line is not kindness, but indulgence in evil deeds

When reading about long live comprehension, the article explains that understanding and love are one and the same thing.

In the morning, when my brother got up, he was afraid that his sister did not have time to eat, so he asked his sister to get up, and as a result, the sister gave her brother a kick in irritation, and then continued to sleep. The brother felt very wronged, so he complained about this matter with his mother, and felt that he was a good person and did not report well. After his mother's enlightenment, the brother remembered that his sister had been coughing at night, and understood that his sister may be physically uncomfortable before he had acted aggressively.

After reading the cases in the book, a problem arose in my mind. The brother understands the sister, so what if the sister does not understand the brother? I think my brother is just stupid, I am so uncomfortable, and I am still there screaming, annoyed to death. It would be nice if he could take care of himself, and he didn't have to worry about his own affairs.

If that's the case, isn't it a bit self-righteous to understand?

Understanding and love are indeed the same thing, but only by understanding each other, it is possible to give love to each other, this is mutual, unilateral infinite payment of sincerity, that is a disguised harm to themselves, everyone's life is their own, there may be countless people who do not like you, but they must learn to love themselves.

Some people say "I love you", but what do they love? Good looking, good figure, but when you are older and out of shape, will he still love you? Will it abandon you like a fool? So we should observe what these people who say they love you usually do, whether he will patiently and gently comfort you when you are sad and sad, or whether he will talk about his unpleasant things at this time in an attempt to divert your attention.

I can't explain what the latter is, because man is not a god, and there are imperfections, but if two people have communicated this problem, he still stubbornly wants to cover his unhappiness over your sadness, then you have to think about it, does he have you in his heart? If a person cannot accept his trough, how can he be worthy of his peak?

Some people on the Internet, with patriotic feelings, boycott the products of certain countries, and think that those who eat, wear, and use the products of other countries are people who have forgotten the revolutionary martyrs and have no sense of national honor, and it seems that only in this way can they show their nobility. But what he doesn't know is that he eats and wears things, there are also traces of other national products, to know that the current world emphasizes win-win cooperation, these people with patriotic feelings, it is best to understand the world well, and then appear to express their own ideas.

Such people have only themselves in their hearts, what do we need to understand them? Your understanding of them will only make them feel that their views are correct, so for such people, you must strike hard to make them recognize the reality, otherwise they will become network keyboard heroes and go around slandering others.

Learning to understand others is a kind of ability that needs to be practiced, and the more important ability is to let others understand the meaning of mutual understanding, you can not understand me, but you do not take my understanding of you, to casually hurt others, people are the first time to come to this world, only this time life, so do not let your understanding have no bottom line.