"I didn't expect this kind of bridge to happen to me, I have the same name as my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, the first smell feels very funny, and I feel very uncomfortable in my heart." This is the complaint of a sister in our marriage preparation group, in fact, I want to say that I am also in this situation, we are just different surnames, the rest are the same, it is indeed very awkward, but I think it is not necessarily a stand-in. And listen to me in detail.
There are probably two points in this situation:
1. Am I her stand-in? This kind of stand-in bridge is mostly seen in film and television dramas or novels, but it also exists in real life, after all, art comes from life, and life is often more bloody than TV series.
2. When he calls me, does his ex-girlfriend come to mind? I believe that any couple wants to make each other and the ex clean, it is best to completely forget the ex, only each other in their hearts. But that's the case. Ah, who is he shouting, will he think of his ex in his heart?
It is impossible to be completely indifferent to this kind of thing, and we can only find a way to reduce this awkward feeling and find out whether it happened by coincidence or deliberately. We can start from the following points:
1. What is the reason for the duplicate name, is it a coincidence or deliberate, in general, you can judge it this way, your name belongs to the kind of very popular well, such as Zhang Wei, if this is the case, the reason is a coincidence, because the probability of the duplicate name is too large, I think back to it as if I am like this, hey, I don't want to mention my name, and I am too lazy to change, haha. If it's not this popular name, then think back to the bits and pieces of the two people, and then have a good talk and solve the puzzle.
2. Do you know if your boyfriend still has an ex in mind? How we broke up before. This is very important, if it is a difficult breakup, then really eighty percent will think of the ex when calling your name, if it is a bad kind of breakup, probably really love you very much, because my ex is a scumbag, I am annoyed to hear his name, if this can still be with you, it is really love you.
3. Reduce the number of times to call names, most couples are love names, you can call only between the two of you, both sweet and avoid embarrassment. Really from the moment I knew that I had the same name as my object's ex-girlfriend, I knew why my object gave me a nickname as soon as he was with me
Whether the boy really loves you, in fact, it can be clearly felt, the premise is that the girl does not fall in love too much, and in love, she must also learn to stop the loss in time, you say?
Finally, I made a crooked move, the name was originally a code name, you have to feel that the diaphragm deserves to be uncomfortable, so change the name of the object to your ex, and return it. Haha, just kidding. In this case, it is better to talk to your boyfriend, otherwise you will be tempted to think about this aspect when you quarrel in the future.