He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
Nietzsche said: "For an ordinary person, ordinary is a kind of happiness." ”
Everyone is born ordinary and ordinary people.
The so-called "pretentious" is just that in the process of late growth, it has achieved good results in a certain field and has been labeled as "great" by outsiders.
In fact, from our personal point of view, everyone's vitality and creativity need to be constantly excavated.
Everyone is an ordinary person with flesh and blood, emotion and soul.
Only by realizing that we are ordinary people can we live the rest of our lives.
If from the beginning, a person's "starting point" is high and pretentious, then he may fall more badly in the future.
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There are three realms in life
The first realm: extraordinary
When you were a child, you just learned to talk, you just learned to walk, you just learned to run; the relatives around you all circled around you, and everyone did not skimp on your praise.
When I was reading, I just learned a Tang poem, learned an English word, and showed it to the people around me for the first time after returning home.
So, we exchanged praise like "You are awesome, and you will be a seedling of a college student in the future".
In the process of growing up, the more praise a person receives, the higher his mood will be.
At least at that stage, he considered himself an "extraordinary" person, the best in the crowd around him.
Self-confidence is a good thing, but it is not a good thing to be arrogant like a "frog at the bottom of the well".
At this stage, all the extraordinary things in your body are labels attached to the outside world.
In fact, when you change to a new environment, you will realize that you are just a frog at the bottom of the well, a drop in the ocean.
The second realm: being frustrated and willing to fall
A child has good grades from an early age and has been given great expectations and hopes by the people around him.
However, when he went to the entrance examination, the score could barely go to a bachelor's degree.
At this moment, he finally realized: "It turns out that he is really vulnerable."
He began to overthrow all his past aura, to overturn his achievements, thinking that he was really ordinary and had no shining points.
Looking at the disappointed eyes of the people around him and the attitude of keeping silent about himself, he felt more and more worthless.
So he was silent in this setback, passive in silence, and willing to degenerate in negativity.
But the hero does not erupt in silence, but perishes in silence.
If a person encounters setbacks, if he cannot even pass this hurdle, then he will eventually be mediocre for a lifetime.
Realizing that you are ordinary and an ordinary person is not terrible; what is terrible is that from now on, your life will be mediocre and do nothing.
The third realm: not to be ordinary in the ordinary
Man's whole life is the process of climbing a mountain.
When you walk to the foot of the mountain, see that the mountain is a mountain;
When climbing to the top of the mountain, see that the mountain is not a mountain;
When you climb one mountain after another, the mountain becomes a mountain again.
Such a change of mentality is a manifestation of a person's gradual maturity.
When we are young, we are pretentious and full of self-confidence; young, energetic, energetic, full of expectations and hopes for life.
Subsequently, encountering setbacks, he adjusted his mentality in silence.
And in the last realm, it is to finally admit that you are an ordinary person, but so what?
Emerson said:
"Those who accomplish great things are not great at first."
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Admitting that you are an ordinary person can "accumulate thick and thin hair"
In this world, every great innovation is done by ordinary people little by little.
A person with a high IQ, strong ability, and high social status, these "labels" and achievements are obtained little by little through their own efforts.
In the beginning, how do you know who he is?
Only when you create something that is well known and have good results in a certain field, can you be known later.
For most ordinary people, only by doing well in their own field, focusing and working hard enough, they can get a good life.
What is the life of ordinary people?
First manage your own life, run your own small family, in addition to meeting the most basic needs of life and survival, to pursue higher needs.
"The difficulty of ambition is not to win over others, but to win against oneself."
This sentence is from "Han Feizi".
This means:
A person's highest state is not to be superior to others, but to be better than himself.
If you compare yourself with others every day, it will not make you make much progress, but it will easily make you fall into "narrowness and jealousy".
At each stage, comparing with the self of the previous stage, finding out the deficiencies, and making yourself further, this is the wisdom of life.
What is the greatest maturity of a person?
Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself, even if you realize that you are an ordinary person, you won't feel sad.
On the contrary, as an ordinary person, not willing to be ordinary in the ordinary, and striving to be stronger than every day in the past is the best destination in life.
Today's Topic:
Are you willing to admit that you are an "ordinary person"?
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