The daily realization of the lack of love and the existence of the love of the wife and the husband lie on the bed, these are two legally together husband and wife, but in the middle of the wife and the husband also lie two ghosts: the wife first

A daily realization

About the lack of love and the love that exists

The wife and the husband are lying on the bed, which are two legally together, but between the wife and the husband lie two ghosts: the projection of the wife to the husband, and the projection of the husband to the wife, so that they are actually 4 people lying together. Everyone feels that the other person is not meeting their expectations, and everyone feels that they have been deceived because their projections have been broken. Due to the pressure of the marriage system and social morality, both parties do not have the courage to choose freely, and freedom is suppressed, so hatred arises.

The wife wants to change the husband, the husband wants to change the wife. Everyone wants to replace the husband or wife with the state they project.

Finally one day divorced, but after 1001 remarriages, the same state is repeated, without the slightest change.

If one day it was really replaced by the person who projected itself, the husband and wife were equally unhappy. Because this person is so familiar, so familiar that there is no sense of mystery.

This is the lack of love

The lack of love is poor, everyone stretches out their hands and needs the other to take love to fill themselves, but the other is empty, love cannot flow out, two empty souls together, they are painful, their pain is not additive but multiplied.

The love of lack and existence is Marlos's theory. The lack of love is painful, but he has the advantage of putting the blame on the other person so that he can find a reason for his lack. But I have always thought that the lack of love is not love at all, and how can asking and begging be considered love? Love must be overflowing, that is love, and if love cannot flow, it is not love at all.

The love that exists is the love that is given, and the love that is given does not need to be reciprocated. He is a gift, a blessing. In the face of this love, you are free

It's also a kind of love that happens to be. The river of love has been flowing, you happen to come to the river, drink this sweet river, the river does not flow because you drink it, nor does the river exist because you come, nor because you leave, the river no longer flows, love exists there, you are coincidental, many people who pass through the river are coincidental.

If you are the river of love and your lover is also the river of love, then your two rivers are intertwined to form a vast beauty. You're both making each other, making each other more like yourself, rather than being asked to be like that. This love is a great unity, and each dissolves into each other. Without you and without me, without us, because this love will become that one, this one is not so simple, here he is broad and deep, full of the mysteries of life, here you can hear the voice of God.