When my son was in kindergarten, the kindergarten once invited a Taiwanese early childhood education expert to give a lecture to our parents.
I remember that he told us parents at that time that you should establish a concept that you have children to accompany the growth of a new life, not to let them give you a pension.
For the elderly, you have to plan for your own solutions, and you must give yourself a pension.
When the child grows up and has money for you, you will be happy and then, as an added bonus, the child has no money for you, you should not be unhappy, as if this is a normal thing.
At that time, I listened to this sentence, and I never thought that I would have to rely on my children for the elderly in the future and spend their children's money.
As far as the current society is concerned, it will certainly be impossible in the future, and the children's own life pressure will be very large, and they are counting on your help.
I just want them to be more or less with me, to take care of me when I'm sick, and I'm content.
I may have to prepare a sum of money for them, at least to buy them a house.
If there are still people who think about raising children and providing for themselves in the future, they may really be disappointed.
As for whether the children want to live together after marriage, it is certainly not to live together.
To be honest, I don't want to live with young people, but I also want to make free babysitters for them and cook for them for hygiene.
At that time, it is too boring to pay for their cooking and hygiene for free, and it is thankless.
Then they don't necessarily thank you, and they think you can't do it right here and there, so why bother with that.
The daughter-in-law's daughter-in-law takes care of herself, and she is the hostess.
If only my son could call him to his house for a meal.
If you don't have a private and independent space, I will feel uncomfortable myself.
It is best to keep a bowl of soup at a distance for easy access. You can't live in the same house.
Help them see the kids if needed. But it can only be helped to see, not to take over all of them.
Are you right?