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There are still a few days to go before the New Year, and I didn't expect that some couples would not be able to survive the year.
On January 28, the couple of Huang Xiaoming and Baby finally officially announced their divorce.
I didn't feel much shock after seeing the news of their divorce, after all, they had already been said that divorce was not once or twice. Everyone found that there is no law, and most of the couples who are said to be divorced are divorced, what does this mean? In the entertainment industry, the so-called rumors are never empty, and everything has already been forgotten.
The Weibo copy of the two of them officially announcing the divorce is also very consistent, both of which are "grateful for all the past, the future is still family", and then they also @ each other separately. Their respective studios also issued divorce statements, saying that they had decided to separate peacefully and that they had already completed the divorce procedures, and that they would raise their children together in the future and accompany them to grow up.
Two people separated very calmly, there is no tearing each other, peaceful breakup is very good, so that you can also leave a good impression on each other, in the future, although the two people can not live together, but still will bless each other. Peaceful separation is also conducive to the growth of children.
They all thanked everything in the past and wrote their expectations for the future, saying that "the future is still family". I would like to discuss a topic with you about the divorce of the two of them here: after the divorce of the former loving couple, can the two people still be family?
Huang Xiaoming and baby were married on May 27, 2015, announcing that they had officially become husband and wife; on October 8 of the same year, the two of them also held a grand wedding at the Shanghai Exhibition Center; on May 27, 2016, the first anniversary of Huang Xiaoming's and baby's license to marry, Huang Xiaoming also showed his love on Weibo "There I am"; on January 17, 2017, baby Shun gave birth, and Huang Xiaoming also sent a Weibo saying that "the little sponge came, the mother and child were safe".
The two of them were rumored to be divorced on December 6, 2018, when some insiders rumored that they were divorced, and then there were two people who were not in the same frame, even if they were in the same frame, they were inseparable, which caused some people to say that they were divorced.
Now, they finally dare to respond positively, officially announcing the divorce, presumably because there is no business interest exchange.
Celebrity divorce is not like us ordinary people, they have to dissolve the common business interests to be officially announced, but it can not be said after divorce.
Their marriage still has not survived the "seven-year itch", the seven-year itch is really a curse of marriage, two people have been together for too long, maybe they are tired of each other.
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After the divorce, do you still have any contact with your ex? Seriously, there is no way for a normal person who has children in a marriage to be a complete stranger to his predecessor. Because two people have children, for the child, you are his closest relatives.
Even if you are divorced because you can't get by, as the parents of your children, you still have to do your duty to your children, rather than ignoring them.
I once wrote about a divorced couple who used to be enemies but became friends because of their children after the divorce.
Zhu Lin divorced her ex-husband because of personality incompatibility, the two people quarreled at both ends for three days, Zhu Lin did not want to continue in such a marriage, so she proposed a divorce. At the time of the divorce, the ex-husband was reluctant to give her the child, and the custody of the child was taken away by the ex-husband, who was only three years old at that time.
In the six months after the divorce, in order to get revenge on Zhu Lin, the ex-husband has not let her see the child. Zhu Lin hated, countless times would think of her own children at night. She was thinking, "Without Grandma, two big men can take care of a child." "Zhu Lin couldn't help but worry, it was her child, born in October, desperately born. Even if she doesn't have custody of her children, she still feels sorry for her children.
Half a year later, to Zhu Lin's surprise, her ex-husband came to find her.
"I thought well, the child still has to follow you, the child's grandfather will not take the child at all, I still have to go out to earn money, no one to take care of the child." I also don't want my kids to be left-behind children. ”
Zhu Lin agreed, she didn't care who the custody of the child was, she just wanted her child to grow up healthy and healthy.
When the child was brought by her ex-husband, Zhu Lin cried on the spot, she had only been gone for half a year, and the child was yellow-skinned, trembling, and timid. Zhu Lin asked the child, "What did Grandpa give you to eat?" The child said, "Daddy goes out to work, Grandpa doesn't care much about me, Mommy, I miss you so much." ”
"I'm sorry, but my dad, a big man, doesn't take children at all."
To Zhu Lin's surprise, her ex-husband looked at the two of them and cried, and actually apologized to her.
No matter how hard and tired she is, she has to take the child with her, Zhu Lin figured it out, even if she will be very tired and busy, she will also take the child with her, and she really can't see the child suffering anymore. Even if the custody of the child is in the ex-husband,but she can't manage so much, because she is the mother of the child, the only thing the child can count on. You let her give the child to the ex-husband and the child's grandfather, she is really not at ease, men really do not take care of the child.
Zhu Lin took three years, the child is four or five years old is a very naughty time, because a few years ago with the child's grandfather raised some bad habits, it is also difficult, sometimes will be childish nonsense, but she is more endured, because it is her child, she has nothing to complain about.
In the past three years, Zhu Lin has watched her children get better day by day, and she feels that she is worth it. The child has grown taller, and his clothes are clean, like a normal child. Before, children were like "street children", no one cared.
Since the child was brought to Zhu Lin, the ex-husband would call for living expenses on a monthly basis. Sometimes Zhu Lin said that there was no money, and he would give more. When her ex-husband is not busy at work, he will also take her out with her children. Strangely, divorced, the two of them became friends because of the children.
Not the kind of friend who has a heart, but as long as two people encounter something about their child, the two of them will still discuss it together, after all, they are the closest people to the child. I'm not a big advocate that divorced couples become enemies, especially if you have children between the two of you. No child wants their mom and dad to be enemies, which is a harm to their original family.
Mature divorced couples should be: even if divorced, they must be responsible for their children, and do not forget their responsibilities because of divorce.
Judging from the story of Zhu Lin and her ex-husband, Huang Xiaoming and baby said that "the future is still family", which means that for children, they are still family, as long as it is about children, they still have to solve it together, after all, children are common children between them.
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Writer Yan Lingyang once said in the book "I Am Divorced": "Many divorced couples have to contact and communicate frequently because of their children's education and other issues, and over time they have unconsciously established a new type of child-centered relationship, in which they find that each other understands each other more than before, humility and humility to each other, like half a friend, but also like half a relative." ”
This sentence is more applicable to the current relationship between Huang Xiaoming and baby, and the two of them are the best partners in raising children.
How the relationship between two people after divorce depends on what they are separated for, and if the two people are peacefully separated, then after the divorce, they may not have much resentment towards each other. Anyway, they used to be husband and wife, but in the future, the two people lived their own lives and lived their own lives. There are also some divorced couples who are still in a good relationship when they have not found a significant other; but as long as they find another half, they may not be as close as before because of the relationship of the other half.
After divorce, can you still be a family member?
This kind of "family" is only for the children, and you two are really separated.
Get together and disperse, live your own life, and start a new life.
It is also good that the two of them have officially announced their divorce, and it is not necessary for someone to spread that they are divorced, and in the future they can also be more free and no longer be bound by marriage.
Bless them and start a new life for each of them.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the cold and warm of the world, looking at the world.