Reciprocity, let him know that it is in his favor to do so

A psychology professor did a little experiment:

He took a random sample from a group of unknown people and sent Christmas cards to the selected people. Although he also estimated that there would be some echoes, he did not expect that most of the people who received the card would give him a return. And in fact, they don't know him!

The person who gave him the card in return did not even think to inquire about who this strange professor really was. When they receive the card, they automatically return one in return. Maybe they think that maybe they have forgotten who this professor is, or why this professor sent them cards. In any case, you can't owe people's affection, and it is always not wrong to send one back to others.

This experiment, though small, proved the role of reciprocity in psychology. It is the eternal law of human society, the basis for all kinds of transactions and interactions, and we should try to repay in the same way what others have done for us.

If a man helps us once, we should also help him once; if a man gives us a birthday present, we should also remember his birthday and buy him a gift at that time, and if a couple invites us to a party, we must also remember to invite them to one of our parties.

Because of the influence of reciprocity, we feel obligated to reciprocate the favors, gifts, invitations, etc. we receive in the future. The interaction between people, just like sitting on a seesaw, can not always fix one end high, the other end low, that is, to alternate high and low, a person who will never suffer losses, refuse to give in, do not reciprocate with others, even if he really wins, gets a lot of benefits, in the long run, he must be a loser, because no one wants to play with him.

Ancient China paid attention to the exchange of courtesy and courtesy, which was also a manifestation of reciprocity. This seems to be an unwritten rule of human behavior.

If a person asks a friend for advice, and the two of them meet for dinner, then the bill should naturally be paid by the person asking for advice, because he is the one who asks for it. If he does not understand this truth, but instead lets the other party pay, it is very indecent.

Among friends who are not very familiar, you ask others to do things, and if you do not return in time, the next time you ask for someone else, it seems unnatural. Because people will doubt whether you have a sense of return, whether you are grateful for his efforts to you. Timely returns can show that they are people who know how to repay the favor, which is conducive to continuing to communicate with each other.

And if you don't return it in time, it will bring you some trouble. You have always owed this affection, and if the other party suddenly has something to ask you in turn, and you feel that it is not easy to deal with, it is difficult to refuse. As the saying goes, "Listen to others when you eat." It can be said that in order to maintain a certain degree of freedom, you had better not owe a debt of affection.

Of course, between friends who are very close, they do not have to return immediately, which may seem strange. But it doesn't mean no return, it's just that the time may drag on a little longer, or there is an opportunity to return.

Maintaining friendship between friends follows the law of reciprocity, and the same is true between love. In fact, there is no absolute selfless dedication in the world, unlike the songs and poems. Love is also about reciprocity and mutual benefit, and both parties need to maintain a balance of interests. If the balance is severely upset, it can lead to a breakdown in the relationship.