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Photo/ Stills from the movie "Norwegian Forest"
Every time I watch Haruki Murakami's novel "Norwegian Forest", I will be particularly distressed by the girl named Midoriko Kobayashi, who is extremely honest about love, and loving someone will give everything, even if the other party's heart is not in her own.
But because of this, she always let herself suffer a lot of grievances, obviously very hard in love, but the other party always does not care, every time she meets with each other, she is expecting him to find his own changes, so she stories wearing some clothes that are different from usual, or directly changing her hairstyle.
She did this only to get the other person's attention, hoping that the other party could say to herself: You look good in this way, and your new hairstyle is cute.
But unfortunately, there was no change from beginning to end, no matter what kind of changes she had, the other party had not noticed it, and he was like this because he did not love, because he did not love, so he did not care, so over time, Midoriko gradually died.
Once she wrote to the other person, "You are always curled up in your own world, and I knock on the door and call you vigorously, so you quietly raise your head and immediately return to the original state." ”
Love is not a one-man one-man show, if one person is desperately paying, but the other person is indifferent, then time will always be cold, so in the end Midoriko gave up and no longer loved. Until the other party feels unaccustomed, takes the initiative to think of her, and takes the initiative to find her.
Why do I feel so bad about Midoriko? Because she is a particularly real girl, and it is easy to find archetypes in real life, people like them, on the surface, look big grin, do not care about many things, but in fact, the heart is particularly delicate.
They fall in love with a person, they will give everything, wholeheartedly good to each other, even if they know that the other party does not like themselves so much, it does not matter, enjoy love, there is no regret.
On the other hand, the male protagonist Watanabe, he knows that Kobayashi Midoriko likes himself, and he is also trying to accompany himself, trying to get his own favor and attention, but he does not respond to her, because he does not like her so much.
I didn't like it so much, but I enjoyed the feeling of being liked by her, so I was always ambiguous, and Midoriko was hurt a lot, and the reason why Watanabe was so swaying was because he had another person in his heart, Naoko.
Naoko is the girlfriend of Watanabe's best brother, Kizuki, but Kizuki committed suicide at the age of seventeen, so he will always be seventeen. Naoko and Watanabe, on the other hand, have been growing, and at the age of twenty, they have drunk alcohol and are together.
Since then, Naoko has lived in Watanabe's heart, and even though they have not officially confirmed their relationship, Watanabe has always been obsessed with Naoko, so much so that he completely ignored Midoriko, who had loved him for a long time.
Watanabe has never been able to find the so-called true love, but because of two words: hesitation. He never knew what he wanted, couldn't sort out his thoughts, couldn't find his direction. He loves Naoko, but Naoko doesn't love him, and later he's not sure if he loves Naoko, so he shakes up again and begins to have a crush on Midoriko.
Later, he is with Midoriko, but he still thinks of Naoko. The more he hovered between the two girls, the farther he was from his true self.
He hesitated and couldn't make up his mind about everything, simply because he didn't understand himself, and this was the main reason why he missed out on true love, so in the end, he was still alone until he was in his thirties.
Did he not meet true love? No, he met but couldn't grasp it, because he didn't understand himself, there was always too much uncertainty, and the more he wanted everything, the more he couldn't get anything.
As he later said himself: "In fact, she was a very gentle girl, but at that time I took that gentleness for granted and did not cherish it in the slightest." ”
Yes, her tenderness is true, and her feelings for herself are also true, but she didn't understand it at first, and she didn't understand it until she lost it, and it was too late.
In fact, this is not the first time that Haruki Murakami has expressed this view, he believes that many people can't find true love, not really can't find it, but even if they find it, they can't seize the opportunity. They are always wavering, hesitant, have all kinds of concerns, and will regret it until they lose it.
I also remembered seeing a short article published by Haruki Murakami in a magazine, which corresponded to this theme, and the title of the short article was called "Meeting 100% Girl", which mainly told two stories about the encounter.
The first story tells of an encounter in which the boy meets a girl who is ready to send a letter, and he is sure that he has a heart for her, almost at a glance.
But he hesitated, did not dare to come forward to talk, thinking about it or thinking that it was too rash and stupid, so the girl left, he missed this fate, and may never meet such a person in this life.
The second story also tells about an encounter. An 18-year-old boy falls in love with a 16-year-old girl, they are very sure of each other, they have a love for each other, so they break the worries in their hearts and get together. But each other is full of doubts and hesitations: is it true that love is so easily obtained?
They could not overcome this hesitation, tossing and turning, or chose to separate, but did not expect that this separation is a farewell. Because they experienced the flu, completely lost their memories, and the love they once had, as if it had never existed, had completely disappeared.
More than ten years later, they met again on the street, and a spark flashed in the moment of passing by, but this feeling was too weak compared to that of teenagers, so that without saying a word, they completely disappeared into the sea of people, and they never saw each other again in this life.
When we see these two stories, we will feel so sorry, our life seems to be very long, but in fact, it is only a few decades. In these decades, there are not many people who can meet amazing times, there may be only one in a lifetime, missed, and there will be no more.
If there had been no hesitation, if there had been a little more courage and self-confidence, perhaps this regret would not have happened. It's just that life doesn't have so many ifs, missed, really is a lifetime.
I remember that the famous host Yang Lan once said such a passage: "Sometimes the joke of fate is that you have been hesitating, and when you finally make up your mind, it is time to end the curtain." ”
Yes, in life, there is not so much time for you to hesitate and wander, you are not ready for anything, you dare not start hastily, but life is not a rehearsal, every day is live broadcast. The man is gone, the fate is over, and no regret will help.
In the final analysis, many people are not unable to meet true love, but not active enough, not brave enough, not confident enough. If you don't have so much hesitation, if you don't have so much uncertainty, maybe try it once and you can change the whole ending.
Watanabe in Haruki Murakami's "Norwegian Forest" is actually the epitome of many people, and his treatment of love is undoubtedly a negative example, and Midoriko's frankness, directness and boldness are really worth learning.
This novel is the most classic and famous masterpiece of Haruki Murakami, and we can not only find the shadow of youth, but also re-understand love, no matter from which point of view, there is no reason to miss it.
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