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Roman Rolland once said: With friends, life shows its full value; a person lives for friends; keeps his life intact, not eroded by time, but also for friends.
Indeed, friends are indispensable to everyone. When you are sad, when you are sad, when you are frustrated, when you are happy, all kinds of emotions are indispensable to share with friends.
Women, in particular, have their own girlfriends, and two people can sit together and chat, and they feel happy and happy.
However, after the age of 40, women will find out sooner or later that they do not need friends in life, and there are few true friends around them.
And the reason, in fact, is very simple.
Shakespeare has a saying: Friends must be in harmony with each other, that can be said to be true friendship, you have sad things, he also weeps, you can't sleep, he can't rest in peace; no matter what difficulties you encounter, he is willing to share with you.
But how many people can do that? It has always been the icing on the cake that there are more flowers and less charcoal in the snow.
01 Suffering is always easier said than done
The example of "inserting a knife in the ribs of a friend" is not uncommon, but it is also rare. There are very few friends who can really help each other.
Just like what 42-year-old Jinlan experienced. She experienced ups and downs in the first half of her life, and at the age of 36, she lost her husband and supported a family alone. At the age of 38, she lost her sick son again, and her life fell into the darkest hour.
In such a difficult situation in life, she struggled. At that time, she felt that her only light was to be with her best friend Shuxian all day.
She was glad that god had deprived her of her love and left her with a trustworthy person, which gave her renewed hope for life.
However, when she learned that Shuxian was with her all day and greeted herself warmly, she told her other friends about her behind her back, saying how miserable she had been, and even expressed that her life was due to her personality and her retribution.
To tell the truth, Jinlan was devastated when he learned this. Her renewed hope was once again extinguished.
Imagine two people when they are young, so good that they change skirts.
When they first looked for a job after graduation, because Jinlan's family conditions were relatively good, they lived in the city and there was no restriction on finding a job. And Shuxian's family is in the countryside, it is not convenient to work, and it is also very troublesome to find a job. So JinLan let Shuxian live in her own home for two years.
Later, after the two people had experience, they came out to work alone, and did not earn the first bucket of gold in the first year, not to mention, but also lost tens of thousands of yuan, Jinlan took into account Shuxian's situation, all of which was borne by himself.
The two of them are actually very complementary, Jinlan wind and fire, the mouth is strong, it is not forgiving, and the lady is as its name suggests, gentle and quiet.
Those who are familiar with the two of them are envious of their friendship, and JinLan once thought that her husband and children were not by her side, and that with Shuxian there, life was also a comfort.
Unexpectedly, at this age, friendship gave her a headbutt, making her deeply aware that it is really not easy to help each other in times of trouble, and true friendship is even more rare.
Most people laugh when you have something sad, and when you can't sleep, she sleeps sweetly. It is rare to be able to do it when you have difficulties.
02 True friendship is always precious and rare
It is rare to have a confidant in life, and it is precisely because it is rare that it is precious.
Marx once said: Life cannot be separated from friendship, but it is not easy to get real friendship; friendship always needs loyalty to sow, irrigation with enthusiasm, cultivation with principles, and care with understanding.
But our current people, accustomed to fast food life, do not want to sow seeds, do not want to irrigate, do not want to cultivate and care, and what is more, always have a current attitude towards friends.
Think about how long you have not been in touch with your friends now that you are busy with work, and think about the good friends you think you have not taken the initiative to contact you.
As we grew up, we began to get busy, each with our own circle of life, with fewer and fewer common topics, fewer and fewer opportunities to meet, and fewer and fewer active chats.
Although we meet again, there will be a sense of familiarity, and we can talk about everything and say nothing, but you and I both know that when the feelings are light, they are light.
You don't know anything about my sadness, and I don't care about your sadness. When two people no longer experience something together, they will not resonate and cannot have a real understanding of each other.
True friendship, real friends, is what you need to take care of with your heart, no matter how busy, you must remember each other, no matter where you go, you are eager to share with each other, which is actually a truth to love.
But we always ignore these, and even use friends, only to go to the cold and warm, such feelings, can not last, can not let you experience the feeling of true friends.
True friendship is always precious and rare. It is not so much that we may not need friends in the future, but that we do not need false friends in the future, and those true friends, we will always need, because that is equivalent to a spiritual beam of light.
03 Learn to be your own friend and make yourself mature and strong
Friends are hard to find, confidants are hard to find. Instead of trying to find true friends, learn to be your own friends and make yourself mature and strong.
As Jinlan, who later reinvigorated himself, believed, no one can accompany you for a lifetime in this life, only you will always be by your side and bear your sadness.
A woman, if immature, is difficult to meet all difficulties, a woman, if not strong, it is easy to be crushed.
When you are in the darkest moment of life, when the abyss is ahead, you will find that the only thing that can really save you and truly understand your personal feelings is yourself.
It is also at that moment that you will wake up, friends this thing, there is nature is very good, there is no and not impossible to live.
Sometimes loneliness is not beautiful, it is often more connotative. When you can enjoy loneliness and live a life without friends, your loneliness, seemingly lonely, is better than prosperity.
Women have passed the age of forty, personally experienced some things, will realize that in our life, we do not have to force friends, we actually have no friends, the real confidant can meet but can not be sought.
Our energy is also very limited, and instead of wasting our time making friends, we should wait for people who are related. Of course, in this process, do not forget to let yourself mature and strong, able to bear the fate to bring you sorrow or joy.
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