Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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How many of the two people who have sworn to a lifetime at a wedding, with the atmosphere of the celebrant, can really use reality to present the truth of the vow?
In recent years, weddings have become more and more colorful, more and more men and women, the focus of whether two people can love each other to the old is placed on various forms, it seems that the more vigorous the form, the more the two people pay attention to feelings.
But in fact, whether two people can really be happy, the form is just the icing on the cake, and the way of daily getting along is the main thing! It's just that too many people have deviated from the normal track of emotional management, so that they combine in the name of love, and finally betray it in the name of true love!
Two people decide to combine, if it is based on love as the premise, responsibility as the center of gravity, and reverence as the tone of harmony... Then, all contradictions and disagreements are necessary to enhance feelings.
Only those who love on the surface, lack of responsibility, and lack of reverence will use all blandness, disagreement, and contradiction as a reasonable excuse for betrayal.
So, is the person you meet outside of marriage really true love?
Whoever betrays the person in front of him in the name of true love is nothing but a selfish person who is absent from the management of feelings!
There are some betrayers who will say to those in front of them:
I once did enough "details" for the sake of my relationship with you, and your happiness is in the eyes of all! But you made me very "disappointed". There's a reason people's hearts get cold!
Such a statement, probably many people who have experienced betrayal sound no stranger, and some people have even heard betrayers accuse themselves of saying "you are not satisfied"...
But does betrayal really have anything to do with the quality of the original match? Does one person love another person in form for others to see?
It is true that there are some things that are not satisfactory, and the things that are done and the words spoken make it difficult for the betrayer to bear, but this is not a reason for the person in front of him to betray himself.
A person can reduce love to the freezing point because of the contradictions of daily life, so that his enthusiasm is frozen, but it will definitely not be a betrayal of love transfer!
On the one hand, the marriage relationship is not abandoned, and the other side has begun the betrayal of "true love", which is not the fault of the original match. This is just an excuse that the betrayer has forcibly made for his own unbearable behavior!
In the process of marriage and love, when you encounter problems to solve problems, you can stop losses in time if you can't solve them! If you don't love, you can let go and redeem each other, but the relationship continues to betray, which is the greatest malice!
Many betrayers, saying that they have no feelings and no love with the people in front of them, but on the grounds of "I give them a chance and watch their performance", they use their betrayal to create "countless" sense of crisis for the people in front of them, inducing the people in front of them to be generous and surrender to themselves.
In fact, the crisis of the marriage relationship is not an act of betrayal, but the betrayer's heart that has long been blinded by desire.
So, do you still think that the betrayer's "extramarital affair true love" statement is worthy of approval and sympathy? Don't argue, ta purpose is very straightforward:
For sneaky stimuli, for the sake of the body or the desire for money...
In particular, two married people collided with a "spark", which is a kind of trampling on "true love"!
Two married people, the purpose of love is only "one", that is, "take what you need"! Don't admit it! Just take a look at the following two explanations:
First: The "true love" of two married people is more realistic
There are many people who say that days and who have been too long are all chicken feathers! There is no doubt about this!
There are also many people who say that after a long time, the feelings are gone! This is doubtful!
Some people say that two people have been together for a long time, that is, the left hand touches the right hand, and there is a chance to steal, and no one will miss it! This definitely varies from person to person!
Indeed, no matter how much you have loved each other, you can't withstand the trivialities brought about by the blandness of life. However, not every couple of men and women must use betrayal to increase their passion for their ordinary life.
Married people, each with a family will still be "uncontrollable", nothing more than because they have experienced love and love, and the relationship between men and women is more "realistic":
Each has a family and does not act as a "destroyer" to each other. Just take what you need and enjoy what you want to be satisfied! They know better than anyone that after the real union, there will be a chicken feather, and as for the real union, it does not exist.
Because, knowing to each other, the so-called "true love" is just a fig leaf. As a result, two people will become "indispensable" to each other in the days of mutual unrestrictation and mutual satisfaction.
This is also the biggest reason why many original partners have experienced betrayal, but they can't get by and can't be separated! Because, the betrayer did not think about the end of the relationship. The original match is going to end, ta always has countless excuses, the original match makes ta return, and ta starts playing the game of cat and mouse again!
The clever original match will not bother with a betrayer, whether the marriage relationship continues or ends, he can manage himself well. Ignoring the betrayer, I am getting better and better!
Second: the "true love" of two married people is more of a "trade-off"
Some people will always ask: Is it true love outside of marriage?
If someone says "no" at this time, it will definitely attract the rebuttal of the person concerned: If it is not true love, how can there be a feeling of acquaintance and hatred?
For such a statement, we must first clarify a concept: what is true love?
True love, first of all, there is a very indispensable premise: all single!
Love between men and women must be "qualified". If one or both of them are not single, it is "not eligible". Even if it is emotional, it will be restrained.
It is true that after combining with the person in front of you, there may be people who make your heart move outside the marriage relationship, but when you really fall in love, you will definitely restrain yourself for the sake of the family behind each other and in order not to let each other love each other.
True love, mutual redemption, is not mutual "mutilation."
True love other than marriage and love, there is only one kind of "restraint". Also because "restraint" does not bear the name of betrayer. It's just that what we see more often are people who, in the name of true love, do betrayal and uncontrollable desires.
Not giving up the people in front of you is a trade-off between the pros and cons, and the "true love" outside of marriage and love is not abandoned, it is still a trade-off between the pros and cons!
Two married people, standing on the commanding heights of true love, doing things that underestimate human nature in order to satisfy their own desires, what does such behavior have to do with love?
For such a betrayer, the original match only needs to work hard to achieve himself and make himself an economically independent and spiritually independent person, and whether the betrayer can return to himself is never important to him!
Two married people have sparked a spark, and we must be "cautious".
The consequences of how many people's betrayal are their own inability to bear. Don't mistake your inner lust for true love!
If you and the person in front of you and you have not run well for many years, you and others may not be able to live well! You betray the person in front of you for the sake of profit and loss, physical desire, how can you not understand the object of betrayal?
They are all adults, they have experienced the passion and blandness of marriage and love, in fact, love has no foothold in the face of desire and greed!
The betrayer, the one who loves will always be ta himself!
Don't have many illusions about the betrayer, he can betray you, you don't have to fantasize that the ta will put you in an important position in your heart!
Betrayer, don't deliberately magnify the merits of that person outside of marriage. If you use the way you get along with the people in front of you and the object of betrayal, you may not be able to live better!
The family is not willing to give up, the outside is not put, such a foot on two boats, there is only one result of overturning the boat! In the end, after the value needed between yourself and the object of betrayal disappears, the person in front of you does not forgive, and the object of betrayal does not want you, how do you treat yourself?
Come to think of it, the "true love" of two married people is most afraid of the East Window incident, rather than worrying about the desire to control, it is better to manage the current marriage relationship down-to-earth. Life is short, why seek stability in the midst of danger?
Be born as a human being, please be kind! If you love, please love deeply for a lifetime with a sense of responsibility and awe; if you don't love, don't use the so-called "intolerable heart" to drag down the life of the person in front of you.
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