Wen | Zhao Jingxuan
Man Zhen said, "Shi Jun, we can't go back." ”
For actor Pan Yuchen, it is the same.
The love she desperately pursued lasted only two years.
There was no going back.
Despite her parents' objections, she insisted on marrying Hou Yong, a famous actor who was married for the second time.
What was gotten was endless squabbles and cold wars.
In the end, the phrase "male menopause" is used to perfunctory.
For men's "seeing different thoughts",
People always give too much tolerance,
Often laugh at him a "wind flow" can be written off.
After the divorce, Hou Yong lived a prosperous life,
Not only has the cause progressed,
He also married his wife, who was 21 years younger.
But Pan Yuchen took the child to bear all the responsibilities strongly,
What's even more ridiculous is that when she was born again in Nirvana,
I actually received a wedding post from my ex-husband.
She is no longer attached to love, but she has long looked down on everything.
01
It is said that one side of the water and soil nourishes the other,
Pan Yuchen was born in Dandong, a very beautiful place in Dandong, Liaoning.
It also cultivated Pan Yuchen's agile personality.
His father was an ordinary worker,
The mother has no income,
Pan Yuchen also has a younger brother,
The family's livelihood depends on the father's income alone.
Although I don't have to worry about food and clothing, my life is also very poor,
Make a little go a long way.
Father's health is not good,
On a rainy day, my waist hurt so much that I couldn't straighten up,
The young Pan Yuchen looked in his eyes,
She always hoped that she would grow up soon, so as to lighten her father's burden.
After graduating from junior high school, she was admitted to the Liaoning Provincial Art School.
Because she has always had a dream of being an actress.
In school, I studied drama performance, and film and television performance.
She not only studied seriously,
He also often uses his spare time to work part-time to earn money.
3 years in art school,
She never asked her family for a penny.
Her scholarships and part-time earned enough money for her tuition and living expenses.
After graduating in 1998, several literary and art troupes have already taken a fancy to her.
I want to sign a contract with her.
Pan Yuchen also wants to work and make money as soon as possible,
It also relieves the burden of the father.
It's time for her to be full of parents,
How could I not have imagined,
There will be a day when a man argues with them.
Because she did very well in school,
The teacher felt that it was a pity if he did not continue to develop.
He talked to her and suggested that she could go to Beijing to continue her studies.
The teacher's words made Pan Yuchen enlightened,
After a night of thinking,
She decided to enter the Beijing Film Academy.
Her family was also very supportive.
Summer vacation for 2 months, she studied while working part-time,
I saved enough tuition and successfully entered the North Shadow.
Beijing is a paradise of dreams,
People with dreams from all over the world,
I want to take root here.
There are also many excellent students in The North Shadow,
Want to have a place here,
It must be an effort beyond ordinary people.
Pan Yuchen began to take over the drama to make money at school,
But it didn't affect her studies in the slightest.
It is precisely because of the excellent performance in school,
After graduating in 2002, he was retained as a teacher.
This is the affirmation of the school for her,
Since then, she has been able to receive a salary every month.
Not only that, but in her spare time, she also goes out to take on plays to make money.
She herself left only a little living expenses every month,
Send the rest all home.
The other girls all started looking for their own Prince Charming,
But she just wants to make good money,
But love still came to her silently.
02
In 2005, the emotional TV series "Can't Live Without You" directed by Ma Gongwei,
Pan Yuchen met the actor Hou Yong.
At this time, Hou Yong was already a little famous.
The "Big Dye Factory" he starred in also won the 22nd China Television Golden Eagle Awards.
Hou Yong was born as a pig slayer,
Born in 1967 in Lianyungang, Jiangsu Province,
By chance, he was admitted to the Jiangsu Provincial Drama Academy.
During his time at school, I met his first wife, Shen Rong,
At this time, they didn't have much intersection,
But fate tied them together.
After graduation, both were assigned to the Nanjing Repertory Theatre.
With the common time on campus,
Their relationship is getting closer,
Shen Rong looks down and generous, tall and tall,
Coupled with a lively and cheerful personality.
Hou Yong did not know when he had quietly fallen in love with this sunshine girl,
And Shen Rong also has a good feeling for Hou Yong,
Hou Yong is calm, low-key, and very hardworking.
On a moonlit night,
Hou Yong sincerely and affectionately confessed to Shen Rong,
They soon entered the halls of marriage.
In order to take good care of Hou Yong,
Shen Rong gave up her career and became a full-time wife at home.
Just when people think their lives are very happy,
But in the "Popular Movie" saw an article about Hou Yong and Shen Rong,
It was written by the famous director and producer Jiang Ping,
Saying that Shen Rong's health is not good,
After marriage, there will be no children,
And then I can't have children,
But Hou Yong's parents were bent on holding their grandson as soon as possible.
Forced to be helpless, Hou Yong had to divorce Shen Rong.
He also said that when signing the divorce agreement, Hou Yong hugged his headache and cried,
It can be seen how much he is reluctant to give up this feeling.
It is also this passage that makes Pan Yuchen have a good image of Hou Yong.
Now this sentient and righteous man stood before her,
The two also collaborated on a TV series together.
Pan Yuchen was full of admiration for him.
At this time, she didn't think about it.
She and this man still have two more years of marital fate.
03
I don't know when it started.
When Pan Yuchen saw Hou Yong, he would be inexplicably nervous,
Her heart seemed to be struck by something,
Always floating in mid-air, shaking.
She longed to see him again,
Hou Yong is tall and tall, and his eyes are affectionate,
Lips are thin and cool.
The high and cold temperament, the wisdom of a mature man,
He no longer exudes his unique charm all the time.
Pan Yuchen is not deeply involved in the world, and his thinking is simple,
Hou Yong seems to be a light in her world,
Illuminated her whole atrium,
Hou Yong to this optimistic and hard-working girl,
It's also very good.
She would often take the initiative to give her some acting skills.
After the filming of 24 episodes of the emotional drama "Can't Live Without You",
Both felt a sense of loss in their hearts.
All reunions are reunions after a long absence,
In 2006, they collaborated on "Battlefield Soldiers",
After a separation,
Both of them cherished this reunion even more.
The two quickly came together,
Feelings are full of temptations for many women,
People who are trapped in it are always unable to extricate themselves,
In Pan Yuchen's heart,
Eager to erase the pain of Hou Yong's divorce,
She wanted to see him smile and wanted him to be happy,
Just because I love him.
This is also characteristic of kind girls.
She had no idea that Hou Yong had already walked out of that marriage.
She even had a 3-year relationship with an actress before that.
Pan Yuchen and Hou Yong were deep and fiery, and when the wind and snow were in the moon,
Her family is still looking for a good person for her.
After all, she is not young,
Man large marriage, woman large bride,
Elders always have this in mind.
Pan Yuchen's love for Hou Yong is serious,
She wanted to be with him for the rest of her life.
But Hou Yong was 11 years older than her after all,
He was also divorced once.
Pan Yuchen thinks about what kind of method to use every day to think about this matter with his parents.
to make them acceptable.
In the end, she chose to bring Hou Yong to her mother on her birthday.
She wanted her mother to accept this son-in-law.
And help persuade Dad.
But Mama Pan did not feel Hou Yong's sincerity at all,
In her senses, this man is not reliable,
She pulled her daughter aside:
"You're a good girl, why not find a boy your age?"
After all, he is married twice, and he is still older than you, so right, there will definitely be contradictions in the future. ”
Despite my mother's bitter persuasion,
Nor can it stop Pan Yuchen's determination:
"Mom, I love him, I just want to be with him, if not with the person I love,
So what is the meaning of life? ”
In her concept, not giving up is her obsession with love,
It is loyalty to a loved one.
Dad sat in front of the house in silence,
Seeing my daughter so insistent,
He took a sharp sip of his cigarette:
"Since you insisted like this, Your Father wouldn't stop you, but if he treats you badly, you must tell Your Father."
Looking at Dad's growing old face,
She nodded tearfully.
This relationship has always been Pan Yuchen's efforts,
For Hou Yong, even without Pan Yuchen,
He can also find the girl who loves him.
But Pan Yuchen's dedication to love,
He was still very impressed.
In 2011, Pan Yuchen put on a white wedding dress,
Happily holding Hou Yong's arm.
Their feelings have finally come to fruition,
Her heart was filled with excitement and relief.
What better place in the world than marrying "Ruyi Langjun"?
But at this time, she didn't expect anything,
She ignored her parents' objections,
Also to insist that love gets not the harmony of the qinser,
It's not a froth.
The life of chai rice oil and salt is a chicken feather,
She will eventually have to pay for her youthful ignorance.
04
After marriage they had a daughter,
A family of three that should have been happy,
Didn't bring them any joy.
For this relationship,
Hou Yong was already with fate, compared to the emotions paid by Pan Yuchen,
He did have a lot less.
Pan Yuchen is such a woman who likes to go all out,
Study, work, love, family...
She was unequivocal and serious.
Return to the blandness of the family,
Coupled with the long-term filming is too tiring,
People have a lot of pressure in middle age,
Hou Yong's temper became irritable and irritable,
The two have long lost their original sweetness,
There was not even communication.
Pan Yuchen did not understand, the marriage that clearly came together for love,
Why is it still deteriorating.
She would love to communicate well with her husband.
But there was no chance.
It's ironic to think that he and his husband don't even have a chance to communicate.
Sometimes it's hard to say two sentences,
The child cried again, and Pan Yuchen was busy coaxing the child,
Hou Yong walked away impatiently.
The distance between them is getting bigger and bigger.
Hou Yong gradually began to stay at night,
Pan Yuchen put the child to sleep every night,
And he began to count the time for him to come back,
One second, one minute, ten minutes, one hour...
How many nights have I fallen asleep like this.
It was hard to wait for Hou Yong to return,
Pan Yuchen is still too late to be happy,
Hou Yong ran to the guest room:
"I was so tired today, I slept in the guest room."
Pan Yuchen knew that it was because the child's crying at night would disturb his rest.
No matter how she excuses her husband in her heart,
But a person's heart is not in you,
How can you not feel it?
In the dead of night,
Recalling this journey, Pan Yuchen also felt very aggrieved,
Having a baby without anyone to take care of her,
I had to confine myself at my mother's house,
At home, Hou Yong never helped her share the housework.
With children, laundry, cooking, grocery shopping...
It's all one person.
I thought my husband would understand everything she had given,
What you get is always an impatient expression.
There are some things that can only be truly realized by experiencing them.
The so-called love is not a flower before the moon, nor is it a mountain alliance sea oath,
But in the most ordinary life,
Let's share and feel the bits and pieces along the way.
After countless desperate nights,
She was completely dead set on the marriage.
Their marriage has also come to an end,
If love is still there, they will stay together for the rest of their lives,
If love is no longer there, then boldly admit it, so that it can be gathered and scattered,
It is also a kind of commitment.
However, after the divorce, Hou Yong told a truth that made people cry and laugh.
05
In 2013, they were officially divorced.
For this divorce, Hou Yong has his own statement,
Because people reach middle age, they take on too much pressure,
He suffered from "male menopausal syndrome",
Some men are stressed because of their work,
Or life is irregular,
Menopause will be advanced, so Hou Yong suffered from such a condition in his forties.
This is also the reason why he has a temper and defecation after marriage.
For such a statement,
Pan Yuchen sneered at this man in his heart,
Why not generously admit it,
It's a matter of feelings.
Because before they divorced, Hou Yong would post some declarations of love on Weibo,
Obviously, those words were not sent to Pan Yuchen.
It wasn't that she didn't know, it was just that she chose to ignore it.
Looking back on these two years of marriage now,
Her heart was full of remorse and guilt for her parents.
They're single again,
It's just that Pan Yuchen has a daughter.
In order to be able to earn the living expenses of mother and daughter,
Pan Yuchen had no choice but to entrust the child to the care of his parents,
At this time, Hou Yong went through 3 months of treatment,
And pay attention to the balance of rest and work,
His "menopausal syndrome" has been completely cured.
In 2016, Pan Yuchen's daughter was 4 years old.
I reached the age of kindergarten.
She took her daughter to her side,
Work every day, take care of children,
She attaches great importance to the education of her children,
Let the child practice calligraphy, learn to swim,
When idle, I will accompany my children to climb the mountain,
Read her the story.
Except for working hours, the rest of the children are with their daughters.
"She lacks her father's company, so I have to compensate her twice."
For Pan Yuchen, Hou Yong said a paragraph after his recovery:
"If I had gone to the doctor earlier, maybe Pan Yuchen and Pan Yuchen would not have come to this step."
When others mentioned Hou Yong's words to Pan Yuchen,
She just said coldly:
"When it's over, you can't go back!"
Maybe Hou Yong is just talking,
If he really regrets it, he can prove it with his actions.
Besides, they have a daughter.
But Hou Yong did not.
In 2017, "The Name of the People" set off a boom,
Hou Yong plays a corrupt official in it.
Superb acting skills, once again conquered the audience,
It was also in this year that Hou Yong married his 21-year-old wife Wang Rui.
Although he is an outsider, his appearance and temperament are not inferior to those of big stars.
What is even more ironic is that Pan Yuchen actually received Hou Yong's happy post.
Looking at the big red happy post, it seems to be like a fire burning,
Extremely glaring.
Pan Yuchen threw it directly into the trash can,
If you love, go all out,
If you don't love, everything about you has nothing to do with me.
brief summary:
Now Pan Yuchen is also in his 40s,
From a girl who is ignorant of love,
To an independent single mother,
She sensed the impermanence of emotions,
After the divorce, Pan Yuchen no longer has fantasies,
She became calm, composed,
Like a proud snow cold plum that is not afraid of the cold winter, the big blossoms bloom!
She never saw any sadness in front of her daughter, and she never cried.
Instead, it's more about happiness and hope.
Someone advised her: "You are still so young, why don't you look for a man again?" ”
Pan Yuchen just laughed and did not answer,
She didn't want a man to rely on,
But if you meet a non-good person,
What is the point of remarrying?
Marriage is different from love,
It takes two people to run it together,
Just one person's efforts, it loses balance,
When Pan Yuchen was young,
Thinking that to love someone should be fully committed,
It is time to give it all,
It's her character.
But now she understands a truth,
No matter how much you love, you have to love yourself first!
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