In a popular variety show, when qin Hao talked about his daughter being bullied, he couldn't help but cry.
Yi Nengjing said: "There was a boy who bumped into a grain of rice while playing. The rice grain went to the teacher, and the teacher asked the little boy to apologize to the rice grain.
During the dance lesson, each child has a small circle in front of him. The grain of rice stood there, and the little boy came over and forced the grain of rice to the wall, standing in her circle. Rice grain stood at the wall, very strong did not cry, and still greeted his mother very well. ”
Speaking of this, Qin Hao couldn't help but cover his face and cry. Waving his hand to ask Yi Nengjing not to continue talking, he said, "My heart hurts, and I feel bad when I say it." ”
Every child is a person on the tip of their parents' hearts, holding it in their hands for fear of falling, holding it in their mouths for fear of melting, not to mention being bullied.
Every step of the child's growth is a test for our parents, and the social barrier is needless to say, how many parents have broken their hearts.
Your friendly and loving can only be a flash in the pan, and the martial arts scene of you coming and going is the eternal theme.
How to deal with this scene, in fact, the test is still the parents' IQ and emotional intelligence.
What if your child is always being bullied?
Children whose parents are overprotected or weak are more likely to be bullied in groups.
When a child is bullied in kindergarten, parents avoid saying something like this
"It doesn't matter, you're the older brother (sister) and you let him" "It's just a little thing" kind of thing
Otherwise, it is easy for children to form a flattering personality and become more and more cowardly.
Therefore, when children are bullied, as parents, "support without showing up" is the best solution. Parents can teach their children to do this.
1. Learn to dodge and call for help
We need to tell our children to respect others and learn to protect ourselves. When you are bullied, you must first learn to avoid or push away the violators, and at the same time shout for help and resistance to protect yourself from being violated. Whether it hurts or not, tell the teacher or parent and seek help from adults.
2. Fight bravely
Encourage your child to use strong language to clearly stop bullying when they are being bullied.
For example, say "No" loudly and imposingly.
Teach children to defend their legitimate rights and interests in a respected way, learn to express their needs correctly, and resist provocation and offense with a firm attitude.
Tell your child that when you are bullied, a strong momentum is the armor that protects you. Parents can use the simulation method to exercise their children's ability in this regard.
3. Learn to negotiate
Guide the child and shout at the aggressor, "Why are you doing this?" ”
Parents can use the simulation method to exercise their children's ability in this regard. During the game, the child will understand when it is time to compromise and when to fight.
4. Learn the method from picture books
Parents can use picture book stories to guide and subtly tell their children the right approach in the process. Most importantly, tell your child that Mom and Dad are strong and have enough ability to protect him and give your child a sense of security and courage.
Whether it is hitting someone or being beaten, it is actually an experience of growing up
, is part of the social interaction between children.
In this process, parents are more likely to analyze and communicate with their children with a peaceful attitude, and find ways for children to learn the ability to respond to the scene when facing bullying.
Share parenting experience and grow up with your child [Than Heart]