Face is the program of the Chinese spirit, as long as you grasp this, just like the braids in the past, the program is open, and the whole body will follow. --Lu Xun
What is face?
Face is embarrassment; face is an obstacle to doing things; from a psychological point of view, face is a person's self-image in order to maintain self-esteem and dignity.
The ego mind is like the basic view of what kind of "I" is in the human subconscious. This is like a photo that is an outward reflection of you, and a self-image is a manifestation of your inner world.
Psychologists point out that as human beings with social thinking, we are born to pursue the approval of others, which is the need to belong.
The weak care about face, and the strong pay attention to the inside
In Gladwell's best-selling book The Outlier, there is a story of the genius Langen.
Rangan has a super high IQ of 195 points, enjoys studying physics and philosophical problems, and has spent more than a decade researching related fields.
But for more than a decade, Langen did not utter a single word, without any impact on academia.
Looking back on Langen's life, although he was brilliant, his experience was very bumpy: he was admitted to college twice and dropped out of school twice, both on the grounds that he had a conflict with the school and felt that his self-esteem was hurt.
When asked why he didn't publish the theories he had studied for many years, he once again said: "I don't want to cater to the tastes of mainstream publishing houses" and "I'm not interested in these." ”
In fact, this is out of his defensive psychology, for his own face, he will not be questioned and rejected by others again, he chooses to isolate himself from the outside world.
If you don't try, you won't fail, you won't lose face, you will always keep your own high, and you will always give yourself the illusion of "it's not that I can't do it, but I don't want to".
The essence of wanting face is inferiority
Face is a mask and a shackle that people design for themselves when they grow up.
"People live in the world, some live to become faces, some live to become limes. And only Lizi can win real face. - "A Generation of Grandmasters"
The weaker we are, the easier it is to pretend to be high in order to save face. In this way, not only did he miss many opportunities, but he also set up many obstacles for himself, making himself weaker and weaker.
And the real strong, can put aside the external troubles and the eyes of others, focus on cultivating the heart, focus on improving themselves, but become stronger and stronger.
Once someone cares too much about their own face, when others attack you, you will be very angry and frustrated, and even angry.
People with strong hearts are well aware of the shackles of face to people, so they like to put their posture lower at the usual time, so as to ensure that they can move forward and backward freely.
The Qing Dynasty literary scholar Pu Songling wrote a couplet: Those who have lofty ideals can accomplish things, break the cauldron and sink the boat, and the hundred and two Qin Guans will eventually belong to Chu; the bitter hearted people will not bear the burden of heaven, and the sleeping salary will taste the guts, and the three thousand Yue Jia can swallow Wu.
The faceless Yue king gougemed his salary and tried his guts, defeated the state of Wu, and made the state of Yue a major power in the late Spring and Autumn period.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Wu and Yue were adjacent to each other, and often fought, and once king Wu led troops to attack the state of Yue, and was cut off by the general Linggu Fu of the king of Yue, and finally died of his wounds.
After King Wu's death, his son Fu Cha succeeded to the throne. Three years later, Fu Cha led his troops to attack the Yue Kingdom in revenge for killing his father.
In 497 BC, the two countries fought at Fu Jiao, the State of Wu won a complete victory, and the Yue King Gou Jian was forced to retreat to Huiji. King Wu sent troops in pursuit and besieged Gou Jian on Huiji Mountain, and the situation was very critical.
At this time, Gou Jian listened to the plan of the doctor Wen, prepared some gold and silver treasures and a few beautiful women, sent someone to secretly give it to the Wu Kingdom Dazai, and through the Dazai, interceded with the King of Wu, who finally agreed to the peace of the Yue King.
However, Wu Zixu of the State of Wu thought that he could not make peace with the State of Yue, otherwise it would be tantamount to letting the tiger return to the mountain, but the King of Wu did not listen.
After the yue king Gou Jian surrendered, he went to the kingdom of Wu with his wife, and the couple lived in a stone house next to the tomb of their father, and did errands to guard the tomb and raise horses.
Every time fu cha travels, Gou Jian will take the horse whip and respectfully follow behind. When King Wu was ill, he took good care of him at the bedside.
King Wu saw him serving himself so wholeheartedly that he felt that he was very loyal to himself and eventually allowed him to return to Yue.
After returning to China, King Yue was determined to wash away his shame of being a prisoner in the State of Wu.
In order to warn himself not to forget his revenge and hatred, he slept on the hard grass every day, and hung a bitter gall in his room, tasting it every day, so that he could remember the lesson.
In addition, he often went to the people to inspect the people's situation, solve problems for the people, let the people live and work in peace and contentment, and strengthen the training of the army.
After ten years of arduous struggle, the Yue kingdom became rich and strong, so the Yue king personally led an army to attack the wu state and successfully won the victory, and the wu king Fu was ashamed to commit suicide after the defeat. Later, the State of Yue took advantage of the victory to enter the Central Plains and became a major power in the late Spring and Autumn Period.
Some Chinese good face, they can't see that the inside behind the bright face is hard work, without exception.
Many people think that face is given by others, but in fact, face is earned by themselves. If you have some strength, others will give you some face.
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