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Silence is a kind of accumulation of life, but also a kind of great wisdom.
As one philosopher put it:
"The world slanders me, deceives me, insults me, laughs at me, despises me, despises me, hates me, deceives me, how to deal with it?
Just put up with him, let him, let him, avoid him, be patient with him, respect him, ignore him, and stay a few more years. And look at him. ”
At the age of fifty, he has reached the year of "knowing the destiny of heaven", and the sinister complexity of people's hearts and the cold and warm sophistication of human feelings are no longer surprised and stunned, but have learned to accept and face.
Soldiers will come to block, water will come to cover, the past years, taught people, solve the problem is always the most important thing at the moment.
And if you want to cause less trouble, stay away from right and wrong, and keep silent, it is the only "secret book".
02
Be silent in front of competitive subordinates and avoid being rejected.
When people are old, what they are most afraid of is "relying on the old and selling the old."
There is an ancient poem that says: "There are talented people in the Jiangshan Dynasty, and each has led the way for hundreds of years." But at the moment of rapid development, it is often "three or five years for each leader", or even only "three or five days for each leader".
A colleague of mine has worked in a television station all his life. From watching TV and listening to radio is a rare thing, to the later full popularization, and then to television and radio being covered up by the audiovisual content of the computer and mobile phones, he sighed that the production technology and communication technology update behind it are really eye-popping.
Therefore, as the chief cameraman in Taili, he still insisted on learning, such as aerial photography technology, such as new editing software. Because he is humble and studious, his attitude is sincere, and in the face of his competitive young colleagues, he is like a "primary school student", learning in a down-to-earth and silent manner, and everyone is willing to deal with it.
There is credit, let the young people, there is hard work, it is even less squeaky. Giving the opportunity to show to young people and giving the opportunity to evaluate and commend young people seems to be "not cost-effective", but in fact, it is "only profitable and not lost".
Because, when a person wins the support of his subordinates, he can fully use their strength to complete the task. At the same time, a harmonious relationship can make you feel happy, which is something that money and honor can't buy.
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Remain silent in front of self-righteous leaders and avoid being suppressed.
No matter how big the leader is, anyone who cares a lot about his position is particularly concerned about whether others maintain the respect they deserve for him.
Therefore, when we see the leader, take the initiative to show goodwill, and try our best to elevate the leader and demean ourselves to show that the leader is very high-level, in order to win the leader's favor. Or take the initiative to be a "marginal person", and will not make the other party feel bad because of improper words and deeds.
On the contrary, if you always think of giving advice to the leader, and even repeatedly mention your "courage of the year", people who try to let the leader praise themselves are likely to attract ruthless suppression.
"Zhuangzi" tells the story of a monkey to the effect that:
Once, King Wu crossed the Yangtze River and went up monkey mountain. The monkeys were frightened and hid in the deep forest. Only one old monkey did not escape, but instead jumped up and down in the woods to perform its "climbing skills" at a high place.
King Wu seemed to be aroused by the competitive spirit, so he personally took a bow and shot an arrow, and the old monkey caught it, and then shot it again; king Wu was furious and ordered his men to shoot arrows in unison, and the old monkey died holding the tree.
The moral of the story is obvious: the old monkey is indeed highly skilled, but because of the show off, it invites the disaster of killing.
Leaders are mostly dependent on and reject these "old qualifications". Dependence is because we must stabilize this part of the people and let them help themselves to create glory again; rejection is because they are worried that these people will not listen to the call of seniority, and encourage others to "make trouble" together.
It can be seen from this that unless the leader calls names and asks you to talk about it, or is specifically responsible for a certain work, it is best to "keep silent" and use silence to show your "obedient" attitude.
Once there is really something, we must also learn to shirk in three words and two words, not to participate, not to mix, in order to let ourselves worry less about a heart, less of a force.
04
Stay silent in front of strangers with ulterior motives and avoid being deceived.
Over fifty years old, if you are still dreaming of "getting rich overnight", or "stepping on the clouds", it is a very "sick" idea.
Once such a mind is seen through by people with ulterior motives, and often shows an extreme desire for "fame and fortune", it is likely to fall into the trap carefully designed by others.
For example, some people grasp the psychology of parents expecting their children to go to prestigious schools, consciously push relevant text messages, and promise that how much money can be "packaged".
In the face of this "obvious" scam, remain silent and hide far away without heeding it.
But some people can't help but be curious, holding the mentality of "I just ask, but don't participate", and chat with each other endlessly. In the end, I was successfully "trapped" by others and regretted it.
Fifty-year-olds, really don't "make a fool of yourself" anymore. The relationships they have are basically settled, and those strangers who try to get close to them have no other possibilities unless they are "profitable".
05
Stay silent in front of your chattering lover and avoid quarrels.
Teenage couples come and go.
Over fifty years old, most of it has been settled.
Coupled with the rapid aging of physical functions, in the face of the socializing of the wine table and dinner, in the face of a variety of interpersonal interactions that show their faces, they have been unable to cope with it and are quite tired.
At this time, more people began to "return to the family". Do it yourself, buy vegetables and cook, spend weekends with your family, and in your free time, you no longer go out to socialize, but accompany your lover.
Everything seems to go back to the old days, when the "world of two" had just begun.
At this time, the edges and corners of the two personalities have been smoothed out, a look, a subtle action, you can understand each other's thoughts in seconds, there is no need for more words in life, as long as they accompany each other, even if they just sit quietly, one reads a book and reads a newspaper, and one chases the drama and melon seeds, which is also a rare warmth.
Therefore, after the age of fifty, cherish the bits and pieces with your wife.
If there is a person who likes to nag, then let yourself learn to be silent, one is making trouble, one is laughing, this is the most beautiful appearance of love.
06
Conclusion:
At the age of fifty, you are already halfway through life.
Standing at a new starting point in life, it's time to live a different way.
To remain silent in front of irrelevant people is not to consume a small amount of mind, not to waste one's own time.
There are too many things to love in life, and the most important thing is to love yourself and the people around you. Therefore, give the full love that is saved by silence to those who deserve love, and life will return you more sweetness.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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