Listen to me! Insist on seeing the end, you will harvest a simplest, most reliable, most regretless answer to life, at least let you let go of some obsessions, from now on to let go of troubles, happy life, no longer be troubled by this problem.
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First, admit the truth: life has no meaning
1. Life is random, accidental, and non-fatalistic
In the past, some religions and traditional cultures liked to explain life in terms of fatalism. Or rather, like to make up your mind about accidental events. For example, in ancient times, earthquakes and floods were thought to be the punishment of the gods on earth, but from a scientific point of view, they were just pure geological movements.
The second is the belief that every node of a person from birth to death is fixed. And many people are convinced of this.
So from ancient times to the present, around fatalism, fortune telling, numerology, divination and other metaphysical professions have developed.
In fact, these are all using people's curiosity and anxiety to find certainty for the future to earn income.
There is no 100% known future in life, and the future is full of variables. For example, no one expected the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020.
People can only change themselves artificially, change what can be changed, such as trying to make money and save money, and use this to improve the control of the future, improve the certainty of the future; but the uncertainty of the future still occupies a large range, such as the natural environment, social changes, the development of the times, which are not within the mastery of individuals.
2. Inspirational outlook on life: Life has infinite possibilities
Many people will be anxious as soon as they hear that the future is full of uncertainty, but in fact, there is no need to worry about it. Compared with the fatalism of the so-called "destiny is fixed", the uncertain life is more like an inspirational outlook on life.
Because having an infinite variety of possibilities means that no matter how bad your situation is now and how low your starting point is, you have the opportunity to live your ideal life.
Although class solidification is discussed every year, every year there will be some dark horses from 0 to 1, and their existence is to punch the face "it is difficult to get out of the cold door". If you have such a big cow around you, remember to invite him to a meal.
Or, give him a thumbs up, it's also very okay!
We officials should all realize that we should not make up our minds early, nor be defined by the eyes of the outside world, whether you are currently a recent graduate or nearly 30 years old, everyone has their own growth track and the highlight of life.
The only situation that makes this possibility impossible is to voluntarily choose to give up.
3. Living in the moment is the optimal solution
Many people will lose themselves on the road to growth, or live in the memory, always associating with the past beautiful or painful past; or living in the future, constantly giving themselves a flag, goals and plans are constantly broken and reorganized, but they are slow to take action.
Sometimes people are too smart and exhaust themselves.
In fact, sometimes people should learn the philosophy of survival from animals.
Zhou Guoping said that it is meaningless for people and animals to live. The difference is that in addition to eating and wearing warmth, people also have to find the meaning of life. The process of finding the meaning of life is itself the meaning of being alive.
Animals live in the present moment. They don't need to think about anything, they only care about whether they have enough to eat, sleep, and which part of the body needs to be tickled.
The same is true of people, when your ability is temporarily unable to support your ideals, it is better to live every day first. The score is not enough, the performance is not good, the income is not high, and then complain about it, staying up late and drinking alcohol is to "expand the area of the wound".
A seagull with an "epiphany"
Smart people are practitioners of "living in the moment".
I didn't understand why many people at a certain age would be crazy about food. It seems that in addition to work, the greatest pleasure is to eat all kinds of food.
In fact, now that I think about it, this is the embodiment of love of life. Isn't the purpose of our hard work to satisfy our appetites?
(Twelve thousand inwardly agree!) Today after work I am ready to rub a good meal, have the same idea as me, trouble double-click the screen!! ）

Second, life needs to be self-appointed with meaning
When a person begins to look for meaning in life, his life is full of meaning.
Everyone has played the game, and there are only two cores of a game - missions and reward mechanics. With these two things, the meaning of the game can be constituted.
The same is true of life, in order to live a meaningful life, we must learn to set tasks and reward mechanisms for life.
We can look at the lives of those around us from God's perspective.
The mainstream values of society tell you to study hard, get into a good university, find a good job, find a good partner, form a happy family, and then raise the next generation and cultivate children into talents.
In the completion of these life defaults, the experience of the process constitutes the meaning of life.
Of course, modern people are more active in their thinking and more jumpy in personality, and they do not necessarily have to follow the default trajectory of life in society.
For example, the current post-90s and post-00s will not think that "having children without marriage is an incomplete life" like their parents, nor will they regard marriage and children as a necessary task.
In addition to getting married and having children, there are many things worth pursuing in life, and the meaning is equal or even greater.
After reading many scholars' discussions on the meaning of life, I think that such a consensus can be reached for the time being. That is, the following sentence.
1. Pursue a better future than the status quo
All people are for the pursuit of happiness, and no one likes to pursue pain.
Everyone's definition of happiness is also different, some people think that buying a house and buying a car is happiness, some people think that finding someone who loves me is happiness, and some people think that being recognized by seniors in the industry is happiness.
There is also a kind of happiness called profit and avoid harm, some people think that as long as they are not sick and disaster-free, they can eat and sleep every day, and eating one more chicken leg is happiness.
All happiness has a common essence, which is to pursue a future that is better than the status quo. Whether it's material, wealth, or fame.
Finding happiness as defined by yourself and then working on it is as simple as that.
So, what is happiness as your definition? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area Ha ~
2. Solve the discomfort of the moment
If you are unhappy and uncomfortable in life, what further development can you talk about? Therefore, solving the discomfort of the moment is also a meaning of life.
There are three main ways to deal with the discomfort of the moment.
(1) Seek a balance with the outside world
Our lives are made of people every day, and it can be said that relationships are an important part of the meaning of life. If you can handle interpersonal relationships well, you can reduce a lot of troubles in life.
In fact, whether it is family, friendship, or love, there is a balance point. At this point of balance, both you and the other person can reach a comfortable state. Without this balance, everyone is uncomfortable.
This balance point is the sense of distance. Just like a couple of lovers who have just established a relationship, excessive intimacy can easily lose freshness, and excessive estrangement will make feelings lighter.
Recall that the people we quarrel with are often the closest parents and brothers. Because the distance exposure magnifies each other's shortcomings. Try to give each other some room to maneuver, and your relationship may be eased.
(2) Reach a benign consensus with your heart
Sometimes, people need to exercise a strong mind to make themselves better. Even if it's pretend.
In real life, very few people are 100% satisfied with their current situation, even Musk. Therefore, most people rely on exercising their minds to adapt to the external environment.
In fact, this is also the only way for a person to maintain a sense of happiness for a long time. Learn to release your stress at the right time, cultivate 1-2 interests, try to do 1-2 things that you are afraid of, and have a pleasant trip.
When your mind becomes strong, even if you encounter some lows in the future, you can quickly go out, which means that you experience more happiness than others.
(3) Experience the pleasure of "this moment"
Making yourself feel happy is a way to make life more meaningful. And, there are 3 ways we can feel/enhance the meaning of life.
Material pleasure
Buy your favorite clothes, shoes, bags, digital devices. Reward/treat yourself with substances for a month of work.
The pleasure you bring about in the process of using these goods (the consumer experience) is arguably the most important meaning (greater than the value of the goods themselves).
Physical pleasure
This is the purest way to gain pleasure. Regardless of whether rich or poor, a normal, physiologically perfect person can experience it.
The most advanced is the room experience between couples, followed by skin experiences such as massage and massage, the auditory experience obtained through the performance of musical instruments, the visual experience obtained by being in a magnificent building, and the taste experience obtained through gourmet cuisine.
Spiritual pleasure
If you can achieve the above two kinds of material and physical pleasure, you can naturally achieve spiritual pleasure.
But the highest level is to help others and make yourself spiritually happy.
Those who can reach this realm belong to people with a relatively large pattern, for example, if you give the respondent a thumbs up now, you can feel this spiritual pleasure
Third, how to choose is the most correct?
The older you get, the more pronounced the "dyschool symptoms" are probably in everyone.
In fact, we are not afraid to make choices, but we are afraid of certain abandonments brought about by choices. Because a lot of the choices are single choices, that is, you choose A means giving up B. And both of these are what you like, and there is no better one.
For example, some people delay getting married, not because of poor conditions and can't find a partner, but because there are too many objects to choose from.
Accept the gentle and considerate A girl, you lose the ice and snow smart B girl, and these two personalities of the girl you like, you do not want to give up, so you can only look forward to meeting a perfect object that is compatible with both.
There are so many choices in life like this one-or option that people are maddening, and many choices are not like buying drinks at convenience stores, buying hard drinks, and throwing them away and buying them again.
Life events like choosing a school and choosing a career require you to make the most correct choices to ensure that your future can be maximized and developed as expected.
But in this world, is there really a so-called right choice?
If you are currently in this difficult situation of choice, I hope that the following 3 ideas can give you some guidance, and may eliminate your fear of making a choice, as well as the resulting procrastination and anxiety.
1. Follow your own wishes
Our lives are made up of choices.
In the face of choice, the most regretless decision should be based on the principle of following one's own wishes. Whichever you want more in your heart, you choose which one.
It's like when we were children, when our mother took us to buy ice cream, we would not hesitate to choose a flavor of ice cream.
The reason is simple, because it is what the heart really wants, so it can guarantee a long-term love for it.
For example, choosing a painting job you like may not earn much at first, but what you really love, so you are more likely to become a professional in the field, and the income will become considerable with the improvement of future skills.
From this point of view, the choice of following one's own inner will is also a decision that is responsible for the choice.
2. Not choosing is also a choice
Most people tend to live a stable life, if they are in a safe and stable environment, they basically stop risking the outside world. This is actually a protective mechanism handed down from our ancestors.
Wild beasts run rampant outside, and it is only safe inside the cave where the campfire is placed.
This protective mechanism has also been carved into the genes of human beings with reproduction, and has been inherited into modern civilized society.
Just like the parents and grandparents of our generation, in the face of their children's choices, they tend to choose no choice and conservative choice.
For example, if you go to beijing to work in Beijing or Guangzhou after graduating from university, most of your parents' ideas are to go back to your hometown, or arrange to work in the units of relatives and acquaintances, or state-owned enterprises and institutions.
In the end, the purpose is to seek security.
The advantage of this non-selective choice is safety and stability, which largely avoids the risks posed by uncertainties. But the disadvantage also comes, that is, the life that can be seen at a glance, as if everything is arranged, there is no surprise to speak of, which is probably a kind of imprisonment for some young people who like to challenge.
3. Every choice is correct
There is no right or wrong choice.
I intend to explain this point with the high-scoring science fiction movie "The Man Without a Name".
The film explores the question of how to face life choices. After the protagonist Nemo became an adult, he faced different choices of feelings and derived 3 different lives.
The first life: Nemo meets true love Anna many years later, and the two are reunited again in a foreign land, but this reunion is the last time they meet.
Regret: I can find true love, but I can't live my life.
The second life: Nemo married Jeane, who he did not love but loved him deeply, because of a bet, Nemo felt no happiness in this marriage, gradually gave up on himself, and finally died.
Regret: Finally became a person who was loved by others, but he did not love him.
A third life: Nemo marries her beloved Elise, but Elise doesn't love him and suffers from severe depression. Elise eventually ran away from home, and Nemo was killed in a flood.
Regret: Married to the person you love, but after marriage, you sentenced them to two people.
Seeing this, you may think, as if no matter how you choose, there will be some regrets in life, if you give me another chance to choose, will the result be better?
At the end of the film, Nemo, the first life, lived to the age of 118, as the last person on the earth to naturally age, he said this to reporters, I think this is perhaps the most powerful explanation for solving the doubts of life. I want to put it at the end of this answer.
Every experience is true,
Every road is the right path
"Everything can be a different story"
"And it's equally important"
If you agree with this sentence, give me a thumbs up and let me see you
Finally, I want to tell every reader not to be afraid to make mistakes and not to try, that every choice has its risks and benefits, and that every choice is an experience of life. Do what you really love, boldly pursue the life you want, even if there are some errors in the process, it doesn't matter, because such a life is full of meaning.