Wen | Gongziyi
I love one thing to say:
We should be selfish, but we cannot be evil.
After reading the archetypal story of "My Sister", I just want to say: Don't push all the evils to the original family, or even to the "inherent evil of human nature", because every step of our adults can be chosen by ourselves.
You should be selfish, but please don't be so "evil" as righteous.
The prototype story of "My Sister" has a total of 2496 words, and every sentence is the selfishness of "defending my own interests", and I am rational about this selfishness. But I can't agree with the archetypal sister who is selfish and righteously evil.
This post is posted intermittently, and the sister of the prototype story added a younger brother to her when she was 21 years old.
She couldn't accept it, feeling that the 21-year-old only child's career was over, and a happy family was broken.
I was born into a patriarchal family, I also have a younger brother, I fully understand, the parents prefer sons to daughters, the sister's resentment towards the younger brother, but also fully understand, the archetypal sister, the rejection of the younger brother. Because, growing up, I also rejected my brother in this way.
What's more, in the case that the prototype sister is already 21 years old, her parents give her another brother, and they have not considered her feelings and her future life, how selfish her parents are.
Therefore, when the sister in the archetypal story, between the lines, is permeated with the "selfishness" of wanting to protect her own interests, I can understand.
She can: "Do everything in your power to oppose it."
No one is a Virgin, and I never advocate girls to be Virgins, especially in patriarchal families, girls who go to be Virgins are tantamount to harming others and harming themselves.
So, at the age of 21, her parents bore her a younger brother, and she could resist, never go home again, or even force her parents to choose only one.
There's nothing wrong with that, it's just a kind of self-preservation for a girl in a patriarchal family.
She can: she doesn't want to raise her brother.
The parents in the prototype of the story had an accident, leaving behind their sons who still need to be raised.
The sister in the prototype resolutely refused to raise this younger brother.
As this sister said: "I have no conditions and no interest".
Because of the selfish behavior of the parents, the birth of the second child, the resentment of the sister, the sister does not love the younger brother, does not want to bear the parents' "selfish choices", too normal.
It has to be said that this is the evil consequence of parents' preference for sons and daughters, and it is also the ultimate feedback of parents' selfish behavior.
She can: refuse to be kidnapped by affection.
When the sister resolutely refuses to raise her brother, the relatives of the masses such as the aunt, uncle and aunt in the prototype of the story begin to kidnap and morally kidnap the sister.
They planned the future life for this sister, just to live for the younger brother, to give everything for the younger brother's life. This sister was scolded by relatives, beaten by relatives, and even cursed by relatives.
At this time, this sister did not give in, but was ruthless and selfish, only thinking about choosing the life she wanted, which was not wrong.
Yes, very selfish, not in line with the traditional "eldest sister like a mother" good sister image, but I have to say that this is in line with human nature.
After all, we all have to live for ourselves, and it is too painful for a man to sacrifice his life to fulfill a younger brother who is full of resentment.
As the sister in the prototype said:
I was the only child of my life, and when I should start a family in my twenties, I was like the eldest sister of feudal society, and I was painstakingly raising a younger brother.
Sorry, I can't do it.
She can: disregard her parents' kindness.
The archetypal sister was raised by grandparents, and her parents lacked her childhood. Her father had spoken to her in less than a hundred sentences.
The original family affection was weak, coupled with the preference for sons and daughters, plus after having a son, he only wanted to help his son compete for real estate.
The so-called father's kindness and filial piety, parents are not kind, children are not filial piety, and then there is a source.
She can: choose her own life.
As Zhang Zifeng in the movie "My Sister" said:
My parents died, and everyone felt that he was my responsibility, obviously it was not me who did the wrong thing, how to calculate this matter.
Her brother should not have been her responsibility, and it was understandable that she wanted to choose not to raise her brother and choose the life she wanted.
After all, she is not the initiator, but the victim.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="41" > but she can't: justifiably evil </h1>
Reading this post throughout, every sentence is selfish to protect one's own interests.
I understand this selfishness, and to some extent, support this selfishness and the denial of the six relatives, because when we talk about feelings, we should talk about fairness.
As a victim of this incident, my sister did not do anything wrong, but she had to take responsibility, which is unfair, so it is completely understandable that she chose to be selfish and chose to defend her own interests.
However, just because we have been hurt, we cannot completely disregard the lives of others and ignore the interests of others.
You know, there is an essential difference between selfishness and evil.
Selfishness is instinctively defending one's own interests, but evil is hurting the interests of others.
Took up two properties
The sister in the prototype has two properties in her name.
A big set that her grandfather left for her before he died. A small set is that her parents transferred to her name when they divorced.
These two houses, the sister in the prototype, are rightfully occupied. She rightfully sold the two houses, paid a down payment in a first-tier city, got married, had a daughter, and lived happily ever after.
She felt that this belonged to her, to her daughter, and that her brother should not have it.
But none of the two suites were earned by herself.
These two suites originally belonged to her relatives, her grandfather and her parents. Because of her blood relationship, she was able to own these two apartments.
Especially her parents' house, her brother originally had the right to inherit. It is understandable that she did not want to raise her brother after the death of her parents, but she took all the property left by her parents as her own, and she felt that she was right, which was not only selfish, but evil in human nature.
She hurt the interests of others, and that other person was still a young life without any support.
She was the victim, the little life, the same victim.
The sister in the prototype pushed this evil of her own to the original family and to the "inherent evil of human nature".
But I would say, don't make excuses for your "evil." You are an adult, and the mistakes of others do not excuse you to hurt innocent people.
And that brother is not only an innocent person, but also a double victim.
You shouldn't leave him a penny.
Regardless of whether his brother is dead or alive.
When the younger brother in the prototype was born, the sister in the prototype said this sentence:
Nor could I have strangled him.
When her parents died, she looked at her infant brother and completely ignored the life of this young man:
I didn't care about my brother's eating and drinking, he was crying with hunger, and his diapers were already full of shit and urine.
Even, she didn't even think about finding a better adoptive family for her brother, she was like throwing off the garbage, letting someone else take her brother away. She also felt that she did not collect money for how noble it was, and she even felt that the more ruthless she was, the more she should be.
We can be selfish, but our selfishness must have principles and bottom lines, at least to do it, without harming the lives of others.
Obviously, the sister in the prototype has become indifferent enough to completely ignore the death of her brother.
Feel right.
For the girl's abandoned brother, the corresponding legal provisions appeared in the comment area of this post. And the most desperate thing is the attitude of the sister in this prototype to these legal provisions.
He rightfully ignored it and gave some examples of "other people doing bad things". Between the lines, I am so selfish, I am so bad, I am "human nature is inherently evil", I just ignore the law, so what?
As long as I'm doing well on my own, that's it.
A person, you can be selfish, but you can't be selfish, you don't have a trace of good thoughts, you can't rationalize all your "evil" because you are selfish, you can't be evil, and you still feel that you are evil.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="77" > "initiator" and "human nature is inherently evil". </h1>
For this incident, we should most denounce the initiator: the parents.
It was the selfishness of the parents, the preference of the parents over the daughters, that led to this whole tragedy. This pair of confused parents is the most condemnable person.
But regarding the original family, I would like to say this sentence: the grievances we have suffered in the original family cannot be a reason for us to be bad people.
Parents do the wrong thing, you are wronged, it is one thing.
You do the wrong thing, hurt others, justify being a bad person, it's another thing.
The former, you can not choose, and the latter, you can choose completely.
The sister in the archetypal story wrote this sentence:
People are selfish, human nature is inherently evil, selfishness is nature, it does not matter whether it is only born or not.
She herself chose to be the latter, and blamed her own evil on her nature.
The Three Character Sutra has clouds: at the beginning of man, nature is good.
In fact, to be a bad person, the choice has always been in her hands.
And we can not be our virgins, but please don't be an "evil" person.