With the development of the times, some of the popular sayings may not be very in line with the development of the times, but how these sayings come from, the cultural beliefs carried in them, but it is worth studying deeply, can be spread in the folk for so long, presumably not some people's whim, but a long period of cultural accumulation, formed a consensus of everyone, there is a saying that "daughters do not go to the mother's grave, otherwise the door of the mother's family is broken", the meaning of this sentence is deeply imprinted with the imprint of ancient culture.
Ancestor worship activities of the ancients
The origin of the surname of the Chinese is the eight surnames of the ancients, all of which are surnames next to the female character, which is the product of the matriarchal clan society, and at that time people only knew that there was a mother who did not know their father; after the progress of production tools, people entered the patriarchal clan society, and began the social form of male superiority and female inferiority, which was only a model in which the society was dominated by men and supplemented by women, and the status of women was not reduced.
In the Xia, Shang and Zhou dynasties, the beginning of the family world, the land of China appeared on the land of patriarchal blood relations based on the state system, people generally believe that their ancestors and heaven and earth gods should enjoy sacrifice together, the son of heaven and the princes of the family have established their own family temples and shrines, sacrifice heaven and earth and ancestors, large families have established ancestral shrines, smaller people also in their own homes to worship the ancestors of the tablet.
The original intention of people to sacrifice ancestors is that although the ancestors have passed away, but the soul has not disappeared, or disasters have come, or bless the descendants, so everyone has sacrificed their ancestors, praying that the ancestors can shelter the descendants of the family and enjoy the blessings of the ancestors; later, under the influence of Confucian filial piety thought, advocating the filial piety culture of the heavens and the earth, and being born as a human being, we should know how to thank the ancestors for everything brought, and such a custom has been passed down to this day.
Why can't women go
The patriarchal system of the ancients was linked by blood, which is the basic feature of the patriarchal clan society, and when the matrilineal clan society is not as effective as the patrilineal clan society, it is impossible to establish a system of ancestral temples and ancestor sacrifices.
The ancients believed that the sacrifice of their ancestors was to protect their families, and after the daughter got married, she was even a member of the husband's family, and she was to crown the husband's surname, and now it is still popular in foreign countries, for the mother's family, the daughter at this time is already a relative rather than a family concept.
In the long-term development of ancient society, the family relationship between the male and female protagonists formed, coupled with the bondage of the two Song Cheng Zhu Lixue to women, made women basically become vassals of men, no longer as independent and free as Han and Tang women, such activities as going out to the grave to sacrifice are basically irrelevant to women, not to mention, women can not even enter the door of the family ancestral hall when sacrificing their ancestors, and in the husband's family, they still do not want to go to the tomb of their mother's family.
This is the epitome of the feudal era of male superiority and female inferiority, women's status after the new cultural movement was gradually liberated, women from the new start to get free, women in ancient times can not go to the grave, is a social system problem, and later after the liberation of women, some places that favor sons over women, it is rumored that the daughter's grave will cut off the road to the riches of the mother's family.
Moreover, in ancient society, if there was no son in the family to go to the grave, and the son-in-law who entered the family went to the grave, in a sense, the incense of the mother's family was broken.
Since family planning, many families are only children, if the woman does not go to the grave when she returns home, who should sacrifice the grave of the ancestors in the family? Today, although this sentence has become outdated, it is a microcosm of the development of society for thousands of years, and a family is still dominated by men and will not change much.
epilogue
In the current country, the daughter's grave is created by the times, but also a kind of progress, the daughter does not go to the grave of the saying itself is to show that the society is a male-dominated society, and there is no discrimination, but later the shackles of science, giving women more shackles, let people feel that there is sexism, in fact, it is just a misunderstanding.