I encountered a nude chat scam after a good conflict so sad... What is the "shame" of the deceived? How do you get out after being cheated?

Not long ago, netizens @S reflected such a thing to the "national anti-fraud": I once talked nakedly with others because I was lonely, and I was caught that night, and when the scammer threatened, the psychological defense line was directly breached and completely trapped. At that time, I wanted to hurry up and give money to calculate, which knew that it was a bottomless pit, which may be related to my collapse at that time, and there was no reason at all, so I went to the Online Loan, and turned more than 10,000 yuan seven times and eight turns. Later, I went to borrow money from a friend, who guessed that I might have been deceived and told my parents, who stopped me from making mistakes in time.

I have been blindfolded for two or three days, and now many days have passed, and I still think, thinking of money, I will regret agreeing to the application of the friend; thinking of my parents, I will worry about the impact of this matter on the future; I will also think of the only roommate who knows about this matter, and I feel that it is also awkward to get along with him after this...

I don't know how to completely forget, and I don't want to completely forget, let myself remember sex for a long time. I am so conflicted, so sad, so uncomfortable, what should I do? Reporter Yang Li

Psychologist:

After being deceived, there is a kind of "sense of shame" that it is said that anti-deception is important, and psychological counseling after being deceived is actually very important

Netizens @S have a sense of shame after being deceived, on the one hand regret, on the other hand, they feel that they will be discriminated against, afraid to go to the police, afraid to face. This sense of shame is a bit like a "sense of shame."

Shame, derived from the Greek language, originally meant to be branded, indicating a certain feature of the human body, and later in the field of medicine was referred to as a kind of inner shame experience caused by the disease of patients, such as mental illness patients, AIDS patients, cancer patients and so on may have a sense of shame.

Shame is divided into social and self-shame. The former is the discriminatory attitude held by the public towards the patient, and the latter is the negative emotional experience of shame, fear, and self-guilt caused by social discrimination. Correspondingly, it is also divided into internal and external manifestations, the former is the patient's own self-hatred, shame, resignation, etc., and the latter is the prejudice and disrespect of the society against the patient.

The effect of this sense of shame is also projected on the deceived. For example, after the deceived person finds out that he has been deceived, he feels that he is really stupid, and he is ashamed, self-blame, anger, guilt, helplessness, confusion, loneliness, loneliness, anxiety, irritability, unwillingness and so on. Other people who have not been deceived think that the deceived people have a lot of money, and the victim's relatives often blame them when they know.

In practice, there are many doctors, doctors, teachers, highly educated, Kochi, and company leaders among the deceived groups.

It is said that anti-deception is important, and psychological counseling after being deceived is actually very important.

Lin Zheng, director of the Department of Psychiatry at the Second Affiliated Hospital of Zhejiang University School of Medicine, said that people's psychology after discovering fraud is generally divided into three stages:

The first stage, do not believe that you have been deceived;

The second stage, after being deceived, produces emotions such as wanting to conceal, anger, shame, etc., and this period requires timely behavioral treatment to release emotions;

The third stage is to produce a series of emotions such as depression, which requires emotional treatment, need to find professional help to carry out treatment in this regard, if the mood is persistent for more than 2 weeks, it will become depression.

Therefore, the timely treatment of the second stage is very critical. That is, how to release emotions in time, rather than letting emotions spread and lead to depression.

Police:

Once you have been deceived, don't be embarrassed, call the police immediately

The police said that in the "pig killing plate", because the scammer disguised in the early stage, providing a high concentration of emotional value for the victim, the victim will gradually "take the bait", knowing that after being deceived, he feels that he has been deceived, and there are other emotions in his heart, such as this emotional value is not adapted, unreal, and feels like a dream.

Like the above @S encountered naked chat fraud situation, because naked chat is a disgraceful thing, say it out for fear of moral condemnation, but back to the essence of naked chat fraud, you are facing a fraud gang, they are organized, there are behind-the-scenes manipulators, as well as "psychological consultants", there are "psychological consultants" to guide the script, are assembly line operations, and the bottom of the gang you contact, are also trained, acting according to the script, with the success rate is getting higher and higher, the skills are also more and more improved, People with a weak sense of prevention cannot be their opponents.

So, once you've been scammed, you have to call the police right away! Don't feel embarrassed, feel ashamed, only by calling the police, it is possible to bring fraudsters to justice, and it is possible to recover the money you and others have been cheated of. After being deceived, the chat records, transfer records and other evidence are collected and provided to the police in a timely manner.

Netizens:

This "encounter" is telling you about problems in emotional patterns

We have sorted out some netizens' comments, some out of the predicament, some are struggling, I hope to inspire you who are in this predicament.

Netizen @ who believes: I was deceived by more than 300,000! I'm going crazy. I believe the words of the liar? And I believed it again and again. Now the salary of going to work every day pays off these debts! All are online loans and interest! This money should be a deep lesson for yourself!

Netizen @ Xiaoyou: There is no perfect victim in this world, as a victim, you have not done anything very wrong. This year, who has not met a few scumbags. Being deceived by the "pig killing plate", to take this experience as something you must experience in the growth process, this "encounter" is to tell you the problem in the emotional pattern - your desire for emotional value, the other party a little warmth, will make you head, unable to judge rationally, unable to make the right choice. Therefore, reflecting and adjusting yourself from it is the greatest significance of this experience of being deceived. The next time, when you meet again, you can rationally judge the real situation of the other party and be able to distinguish who is really sincere to you.

After being deceived, how to get out of the predicament of low mood?

Fu Seoul, the famous "duanzi hand" of "Strange Story", said on the show: Adult unhappiness is not as simple as dropping a lollipop, it is a continuous state. Sometimes, the collapse of adults is a moment, and behind this moment is the accumulated pressure and negative emotions.

Being deceived has become an inducement for many victims of scams to collapse.

A fan said that after he found out that he was deceived, he would often shed tears silently, once, he encountered his parking space being occupied, crying in the car, sometimes chatting with people, laughing one second ago, and not laughing out the next second. In fact, this emotion, even if not deceived, every adult has experienced it to a greater or lesser extent.

Finding someone to talk about their emotions and vent some emotions is also the first step out of the depression dilemma, but this object of talk should be selected, and the more you don't understand, the more depressed you will be. We have consulted a number of psychologists to give you some advice:

Write about the experience of being deceived

After knowing that you have been deceived (the "behavior therapy" stage), you must face reality, learn to face this obstacle, you can write out your own experience of being deceived, which is a way of emotional catharsis; it can be published anonymously, so that more people know and prevent, and helping people is also a positive emotional feedback.

Choose the right person to talk to

You can talk to the people around you, it is recommended to find a family member or a very trusted friend, do not cry everywhere. You can talk to your parents or the closest people (such as lovers) and they will either scold you, but they will not let your things become the talking point.

Huddle therapy together on the shore

Chen Yali, a police psychological counselor at the Hangzhou Municipal Public Security Bureau, suggested that victims can be treated with group behavior therapy, and that the experiences and experiences of victims can learn from each other.

Just like alcoholic beverage abstinence parties abroad, where everyone gathers together for treatment, everyone naturally forms a group relationship and atmosphere of closeness, cooperation, mutual help, and mutual support.

But to participate in hugging each other, you also need to be screened, don't be with people full of negative energy, or with people who don't have the right three views and want to make quick money by opportunism. Instead, it is to choose the kind of people who have been deceived but are now coming out on their own, or who are trying to move forward, and everyone comforts and encourages each other to go ashore together.

Fill in the losses early

Then there is the timely compensation for losses.

Many victims are cheated out of their savings, some victims are cheated of money is loan loans, these loans are to rely on their own to repay, they do not know how to earn back the lost money, according to their current salary level do not know how long to repay, the thought of this, the mood collapsed.

There is no other way but to work your own to make money and fill in the losses as soon as possible.

You can calm down, analyze yourself, what hobbies you have, what you are good at, what you know, and what resources you can access. Can these help you find a breakthrough?

Remember, don't go online to do the brush order, the brush order is often attached to the scam! Don't be fooled again!

Most importantly, don't always drill the horns. Because things have happened, there is no way to go back to the past. You can't punish yourself for the fraudster's fault, and if you want to take your life lightly, it will give the cheater a bargain.

In fact, some adults, when encountering difficulties, are also careful to vent and reduce their clothes and food, so it is not a big deal.

Now that the crooks are so cunning, we can't guarantee that we will never be deceived, and if you have a similar experience, you can share with us how you got out of the predicament.

【Source: City Express】