Text/Themi Mama (original article, welcome to share and forward personally)
In recent years, the second and third children have been opened one after another, but the high and low fertility rates still cannot cover up the fatigue.
For many families, the reason why they are not willing to invest time and energy in having a second child is also very simple, that is, the current pressure of social competition is too great.
Not only do we have to withstand the economic pressure of mortgages and car loans, but more importantly, in raising and educating children, we must pay more than the older generation before.
But any problem is not absolute, not that every family is not suitable for having a second child because of all aspects of constraints, on the contrary, there are 3 kinds of families after giving birth to a second child, life is sweeter than honey, if there is you, steal the fun.
01. A family with a good overall economic status
We often say: "The economic base determines the superstructure", and if we apply this sentence to a family, we can say: "The economic base determines the harmony of the family".
As the saying goes: Poor couples Pepsi lament.
When the two children are in love, they can't feel the hardships of chai rice oil and salt, but once they are married and have children, it is a trivial matter when they just enter the house.
If there are various conflicts in the family due to financial pressures, then having a child is the best outcome.
On the contrary, if the family's economic situation is good, and it can maintain the high-quality operation of the family life after coping with the child's eating and wearing at all stages, interest learning costs, travel and entertainment, then be bold.
Because after there is no worries about money, the family focuses on cultivating family relations and the future development direction of the family, so when all members of the family can have their own goals, then the operation of the family must be healthy and positive.
Therefore, after giving birth to a second child, it is more conducive to the harmony of the family, and the brothers and sisters can also have a spiritual mutual help and soul sustenance, which can be described as a very good family combination.
02. The main members of the family in good health
There is a saying: Having a serious illness destroys a family.
In the current social environment, this situation often occurs, so whether you can have a second child, in addition to economic problems, also depends on the physical health of the main members of the family.
The main family members include: the parents of the older generation, the husband and wife and the big treasure.
First of all, today's young people have their own careers, wholeheartedly at home with a baby, after all, in the minority, unless the family economic situation, more than 70% of the family, unless ordinary families are difficult to achieve the goal of full-time baby.
So at this time, the health of the parents of the older generation has become the primary condition for whether they can have a second child, if the body is good, then after the second child, they can also change each other's belts, so that one parent will not be too tired, and greatly reduce the pressure of young couples.
Secondly, the degree of physical health of both husband and wife should also be considered, if one party is not in good health, then giving birth to a second child will easily bring new problems to the family, and when a family is in a mess, it is better not to give birth.
But it is still the sentence just said, as long as the main family members are relatively healthy, then boldly have a second child, both parents can also be happy, husband and wife are also relaxed, the family is also lively, why not enjoy it?
03. Families with a high degree of harmony
In fact, it is difficult to get along with people, and it is even more difficult to be in a family.
How to promote intimacy? How to maintain an intimate relationship? How to unify the education of the next generation?
Problems such as these may arise in a family, once there is a problem, it must be solved, and at this time, it is often a family with a high degree of harmony, and the problem solving will be simpler.
So how to consider whether your family is harmonious or not?
In fact, don't look at the things on the face, the things on the face, it is easy to be hit in the face by reality.
So what do you think?
First, look at the average level of education of the family. If the proportion of education is higher, and the average degree is relatively high, then basically encounter problems, can be solved with a more understanding method, and in the education of children, to have a second child, can be more rapid and efficient to achieve unity.
Second, look at the process and method of solving the problem.
Some people say that to look at what a person has in mind, you don't look at the result, but look at the process and his behavior and methods.
The way to solve the problem determines whether you are a personality with the same attributes, and once you don't, then you will encounter many, many problems in the process of daily getting along.
On the contrary, if both of the above are satisfied, then the harmony of the family will be higher, and in the past, this was called family culture.
The unity of family culture can better educate excellent children, and after giving birth to a second child, it will be more harmonious and harmonious.
Mother Themi's message:
In the view of Mother Themi, people's life is very short, life is a lifetime, grass and trees are spring, so we have children, we hope to make the family more complete, and to be prepared for childbirth and education, rather than coming with the wind and going with the trend.
Therefore, whether to have a second child, this is not just a question of one more child, we should see a deeper family problem, only in this way, the second child will appear at the right time, and this family will also be happy and happy.