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Friendship is actually very simple.
A netizen posted:
"I'm the kind of person who can eat alone, watch a movie alone, go shopping alone, and sometimes have afternoon tea with others, but for me, socializing is not a necessary activity, no friends is not shameful in my opinion, and networking is a meaningless concept." 」 If I were friends with you, it would never be because of loneliness or profit or anything, but because I really liked you. ”
In fact, these words made me understand that true friendship is so simple, clear, and pure.
The word "friend" can be said casually by everyone, but not casually.
In the company, I naively thought it was easy to make friends in the office.
I remember that there was a sister Zhang who was very good to me, when I first entered the company, she took me to familiarize myself with the responsibilities of various positions, taught me how to use the equipment, how to write a work log.
Without her, maybe I would have to fit in and get into the work state, which would have been a very difficult process.
At that time I really thought that we were very good friends.
But what happened later made me realize that the human heart in the office was really complicated.
At that time, the leader temporarily decided to hold a meeting the next day and informed Sister Zhang that it was already eleven o'clock in the evening.
Zhang Jie sent WeChat and said to help notify colleagues, so I opened the list of employees, called one by one, sent messages, one of the salesmen, often outside to run business, very capable, but usually attendance is not active.
In the evening, the salesman told me that the next day the meeting could not be attended, so I relayed it to Sister Zhang, and Sister Zhang's reply was to know and would inform the leader.
At the next morning meeting, the leader saw that the salesman did not come, and directly asked Sister Zhang: "Why didn't Xiao Li come, didn't you let you notify?" ”
Unexpectedly, Sister Zhang immediately shifted her gaze to me and asked me: "Didn't you let you know?" You didn't notify? ”
In fact, this is not a great idea, it can only be said that people's hearts are very chaotic, and the heart of prevention is indispensable.
Later, Sister Zhang apologized to me, but I couldn't believe her anymore.
Are we friends? Count, don't count.
After all, our relationship is superficially passable, but privately there is no vendetta.
I really don't like her, and the communication with her, is life, but it doesn't involve emotion.
02
Friendship, what to maintain?
Between friends, what do you rely on to maintain feelings?
Seriously, ending a friendship is actually quite easy.
Distance, time, and even the slightest misunderstanding can make two people turn against each other.
In reality, one second is still a girlfriend, the next second becomes a love enemy, such a story is not uncommon.
Regardless of men and women, friendships are easily affected by external factors, quickly deteriorating and collapsing.
So, what is the secret to running a friendship?
One depends on character, the other depends on intentions.
If two people go in both directions and use their hearts for each other, the character is not bad, and the friendship will not be easily corrupted.
Conversely, if two people have a ghost fetus, they can easily be jealous of each other.
Suspicion is often a direct factor in defeating friendship, and when you lose trust in a person, no matter how much effort the other party makes, it is impossible to shorten the distance between two people.
Unfortunately, once the human mind begins to float, it is difficult to control itself.
03
Don't forget your original intention, get along simply.
Don't always expect too much from your friends, know that your friends are just like you, very ordinary people, and nothing remarkable.
From the beginning, you met and knew each other, just because together you were both happy.
It is life that makes each of you complex, become expectant, have demands, and then breed dissatisfaction.
Do you need any complicated patterns of getting along between friends?
Of course not, as long as you don't forget the first encounter, don't mess with your thoughts.
Simple, you don't have to be tied to each other, you can appear in time when you need each other, and work together in the days to come.
Plain is the real life.
May the affection not be betrayed, and may the ending be worthy of paying.
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