Have you ever encountered a strange way of education?
There are some families that will sell their smaller houses and replace them with larger houses because of the birth of a second child, and I have come across such a project, a couple is a college teacher, a son and a daughter, a daughter of three years old, a son of one year old, and what impressed me was their way of education.
Before the inspection, they had finalized the new house, and rented it for a few months in advance, waiting for the old house to be sold and the process of purchase and transfer. On the day of the old house inspection, their family of four all came over, in fact, it is quite rare, because the house inspection is not to buy a house and receive a house, so it is generally a head of household or a family representative.
I remember when I got to the house and waited for about half an hour before the whole family arrived, with dad holding her eldest daughter and mom pushing her younger son in the stroller. After coming, I first apologized politely, saying that it took some time for the child to go out, so he was late, and after a polite greeting, he returned to the main topic.
On the issue of looking at the house, it may be because they are from a teacher background, they are very rigorous, they take out small books, check the details and reasons and impacts with me one by one, and I also communicate with them one by one. At the same time, I have observed a phenomenon that when the daughter is noisy, only the father responds and disciplines, while when the son is noisy, only the mother responds, even if the child is calling for the mother or father.
The most obvious thing is that the middle mother went to answer a phone call, the son disappeared and the mother began to cry, but the father did not seem to see, did not coax, did not hug him, just looked at the son like this, the daughter grabbed the father's collar, dangled around and looked around, as if he did not see this brother. It wasn't until the mother answered the phone and returned to her brother's stroller and picked up her brother and patted her that she stopped crying and didn't see her complaining about her husband.
I couldn't contain this curiosity again, and asked jokingly: "This, you two have a very clear division of labor, ha, one person is in charge of one." ”
At this time, Dad's eyes lit up, and he seemed to be excited: "You can also see that the two of us really discussed before giving birth to a child, having two, regardless of men and women, one person is responsible for a child, the responsibility is to the person, so easy to manage, but also easy to pursue responsibility." ”
I was stunned, he also did not stop, excitedly continued: "We all feel that having a child is a very large investment, the return is not necessarily a big thing, but basically from the perspective of parenting, we all think that many things can still be quantified, but many couples' failures and mutual resentment lies in the unclear division of labor, if there is responsibility, equal to no responsibility, it is better to blame people, so if something beyond the quantifiable scope of consequences occurs in the future, the input and output are not proportional, and it is also easy to be held accountable." ”
"Then I am curious to ask Ha, pure curiosity, what do you mean by pursuing responsibility?" I asked.
(The picture is quoted from the Internet, not the story party)
"In fact, it is the bottom of the pocket, if the child can't do it later, lack of money, or bad behavior, then the person responsible for the child is responsible for the bottom, and it has nothing to do with the other party." The dad added.
In the middle, I noticed that the mother wanted to talk several times, so I turned to my mother and asked, "You both agree with this treatment, right?" ”
"Basically agree, but there is still room for discussion, but in the case of seeking common ground while reserving differences, we can first implement it according to our current stage." Mom replied.
Good guys, I thought that these two were indeed going together, and I didn't know what to ask, and the home inspection that day came to an abrupt end in such an "academic" atmosphere. We didn't have any more contact afterwards.
Just don't know what will happen to the child.
Today's home inspection story ends here.