The idiom of everyone's boudoir is from the "World Speaks New Language Xianyuan", "Gu Housewife Qingxin Yuying, since she is the show of the boudoir." ”
The "Gu housewife" here refers to Zhang Xuan's sister, who married the Gu family, so she was called "Gu Housewife". Zhang Xuan thinks that his sister is very good and can be compared with Xie Daoyun. There was a nun named Jini, who was very familiar with Xie Daoyun and Zhang Xuan's sister, and someone asked her which of these two women was more outstanding, and Jini said: "Madame Wang (Xie Daoyun) has a dashing and handsome demeanor, and is very reclusive and graceful; Gu's housewife is pure in heart, white and lustrous, and is a very excellent woman in the boudoir." ”
Everyone must first come from the clan to deserve this title. According to this standard, most of the women in "Dream of the Red Chamber" are everyone's bridesmaids.
From the elderly Jia Mu to the young Qiao Sister, they all came from a famous and prestigious family, and they were all raised in the deep boudoir from a young age, living a life of fine clothes and jade food, and got a very good education. However, even if they live in a similar environment, they often live a different life because of their different personalities, and they also have completely different endings.
The most honorable girl in "Dream of the Red Chamber" is Lin Daiyu's mother, Jia Min. Jia Min's delicacy, even Lady Wang, who is also a lady of everyone, was envious, "Your sister Lin's mother, when she was not out of the cabinet, how pampered and habitual, how golden and jade noble, that is like the body of a Miss Qianjin."
According to the rules of Jia Province, each lady in Jia Province has two big ladies who are close to her in charge of the ring, five or six little ladies who go back and forth and sweep the house, in addition to a wet nurse and four teaching grandmothers. After they moved to Daguanyuan, each person added two more grandmothers and four little girls to their rooms. In this way, there are at least a dozen people around each lady.
Every move of these ladies and girls has slaves to serve, and wherever they go, they are followed by a group of people, and they are extremely particular about eating and dressing.
However, it was obvious that such a standard was still far from the standard of Lin Daiyu's mother at that time, and even Madame Wang could not look at it. Therefore, when Wang Xifeng proposed to remove the servants around these little sisters-in-law, Madame Wang was the first to object, saying, "These sisters are pitiful enough."
What kind of life will these qianjin ladies who have been carefully cultivated by the family clan live after marriage? In "Dream of the Red Chamber", it can be said that a more comprehensive summary of the life of the ancient people made. Among them, the smartest one lived like Jia Mu.
Jia Mu's life can be said to be a model of a happy woman. When she was young, she had a firm relationship with her husband and was extremely loving; she gave birth to three children for her husband and sat firmly in the position of the grandmother of Jia Province. On top of the butler council, Jia Mu also showed the shrewdness and ability she deserved. Even when Jia Mu was old, what happened in Jia Fu, it was up to Jia Mu to come forward in order to completely settle down.
As the daughter of Shang Shuling, it is clear that Jia Mu has also been well educated by culture. She has a good aesthetic, loves all kinds of music, and can match various styles of "concerts" at will, which makes the listener refreshed.
Therefore, Jia Mu has become the most popular old lady in "Dream of the Red Chamber" and even in ancient literary works. This cheerful and optimistic old lady, when she was young, was also an enviable boudoir, she lived out the way everyone should be, and became the most successful boudoir.
However, in "Dream of the Red Chamber", there are also many negative models, although they are born in a famous and prestigious family like Jia Mu, but they obviously do not have the wisdom of Jia Mu, even if they marry into the door of the right tycoon like Jia Mu, but let their lives step by step towards sadness.
Wang Xifeng is such a woman, So is Madame Wang, and Xia Jingui, the daughter-in-law of the Xue family, they are all once everyone's bridesmaids. However, they have lived a different life.
Wang Xifeng is ostensibly a very intelligent woman, who manages the housework in an orderly manner, and is shrewd and strong, not under Jia Mu. However, she did not have the tolerance of Jia Mu, but everything was too harsh. This was the biggest failure in Wang Xifeng's life, and because of this, she fell into a sad end of "one from two to three people".
Madame Wang's situation seemed to be better than Wang Xifeng's, but she was much more confused than Wang Xifeng. Only because of Madame Wang's time, Jia Fu is still relatively prosperous, Jia Fu can be maintained. However, the confused Lady Wang finally forced away her son Jia Baoyu and made her old age extremely desolate.
Xia Jingui is a completely different kind of lady, although she also reads and reads, she is more harsh and more arbitrary than Wang Xifeng. Xia Jingui's ending, the first eighty times of "Dream of the Red Chamber" was not written clearly, but it is conceivable that with what Xia Jingui did, her ending was definitely not much better.
In ancient times, everyone lived an extremely noble life in their mother's house, which is completely exquisite and luxurious that we cannot imagine today; however, when they left the cabinet, they each embarked on a completely different path, and the wise people lived like Jia Mu, and the unintelligent people, the fate was desolate, unimaginable.