Today, break up The Covered Bridge Dream, a classic 1995 film starring Eastwood and Meryl Streep.
A very simple story is the extramarital affair between a middle-aged man and a middle-aged woman.
Whether these two characters are shameless or touching, the daughters of the woman in the film are controversial, and the audience outside the film is also controversial.
The evaluation of this piece on Douban is very polarized, and most people have praised it - some people say:
"She betrayed her partner anyway, shamefully!"
Is that right? Right.
Do adults have to listen only to the right things?
Of course not.
Nine years of compulsory education taught us what is right, and after graduating from junior high school until the last moment of life, we are actually doing one thing, that is, understanding wrong.
Being able to understand a sinner, being able to read a wrong thing, is a sign that a person has become richer and better.
This is the theme of "The Dream of the Covered Bridge".
This is the beginning, and I will dismantle a batch of these seemingly "incorrect" feelings in the future, and say some incorrect big truths to everyone.
Saying only the right and pleasing words will not help everyone to become stronger and more beautiful.
Open and disassemble.
Mom's affair
In 1995 in Iowa, USA (today generally translated as Iowa), the peasant woman Francesca Johnson (Streep), who had just died, had been a housewife for a lifetime and did not seem to have any high insight.
Her son Michael and daughter Caroline inherited her property, and the lawyer told them that in addition to the house and the land, their mother had a box containing some letters and many notes.
The mother made arrangements for her to be cremated by her son and daughter, and the ashes were scattered under the Roseman Bridge.
Lawyer, son Michael, daughter Caroline and daughter-in-law Betty
It's a bit shocking, Iowa is an agricultural state, johnson's family is a farmer, American farmers are a very conservative group, Ioan Chinese more than 90% are white, believe in Christ, believe that the dead will be resurrected at the time of the last judgment, and are inclined to be buried.
Michael retorted loudly, saying "Who would choose cremation?" If I wanted to be cremated, why did my mom let my dad buy two cemeteries? ”
Caroline whispered, "A lot of people do that. "Cremation is the practice of most central city dwellers.
The daughter-in-law was damaged and broken, and the daughter-in-law of the red-necked family had no good education, and she also cheekily asked the lawyer what the mother-in-law left for her
The son and daughter-in-law are conservatives, while the daughters are progressive.
The answer soon appeared in the relic, because the photographer Robert had scattered his ashes under the Rothman Bridge, and this Robert was his mother's secret lover.
The mother in the photo is smiling like a flower, full of girlishness
Caroline found that the photo was taken in 1965, that is, when the brothers and sisters were sixteen or seventeen, when her mother had been a wife for many years and was no longer young, but her shy look was obviously in love.
The daughter-in-law also found some strange details.
Michael's face changed drastically, and he blasted the lawyer and his wife out, only to read the record with his sister.
It didn't get complicated, their mom fell in love with a National Geographic photographer who came to take pictures nearby 30 years ago, named Robert (Eastwood), and the two got along for four days.
Michael was anxious to kill Robert when he heard this.
Caroline reminds her brother that Robert has been dead for more than a decade and has left most of his stuff to his mother.
Michael was already shocked at this time, and asked his sister if his mother was with Robert...
The younger sister sneered at her brother and said, "You should have seen Peter Pan and Barney Rabbit too much." ”
This sentence is not easy to understand, say two sentences.
Michael, who was almost fifty years old, certainly understood one thing, that if a man left a relic to a woman, they must have been very, very close.
How could two middle-aged people have been talking for four days?
Michael, of course, also understood that if he still had to ask his sister, it showed that he did not want to believe such a thing, who did not admire his parents? Eating melon and eating on the head of one's own mother is not the collapse of the idol, but the danger of personality disintegration.
Rushing to Michael's mouth, it should be a word like "slut"
Caroline was a little lost, she felt that she talked to her mother at least once a week, and she had never heard her mother mention it. She opened her mother's letter and found that her mother had already arranged it, and the letter was written to her daughter.
The mother wanted her daughter to read the letter with her brother, knowing that it might be difficult for her son to understand the affair of extramarital affairs, and that her daughter was a richer, more delicate and more mature person.
"Life is a passer-by, you shouldn't die without letting your loved one know who you are."
The magazine of that year clearly proved Robert's existence, and also let the two children understand what the man who stole their mother's heart looked.
This letter, this box, is a window to re-understand their mothers, and it is also an opportunity for them to reflect and reorganize their lives.
First sight 30 years ago
In the summer of 1965, the husband and his children took their calves to a field competition and went out for four days. Mrs. Johnson, francesca, had a rare long period of leisure.
It seems to be a happy family, with children and daughters, a strong and tall American husband, and an attentive, cooking Italian wife.
The couple does not quarrel, but the cooling of marriage has nothing to do with quarrels, and the passion will fade with the years, and it will gradually become cold because of the accommodation between each other.
We look at Francesca played by Aunt May today, and I think that although she has gained 20 pounds, she is still beautiful, but Francesca and her husband's feelings are fading.
This is also what all rift couples have in common, outsiders look, this woman/man is so good, why doesn't this guy still cherish it? In reality, they're tired of each other — you're not them, you don't know what's happened between them.
The two mouths said something flirtatious when they were separated, but there was no real passion.
This shot is actually very clear, there is a slang phrase in the United States, called "love me, love my dog."
Francesca said this more than just for dogs. In a relationship, there must be a party that is not very willing and has low grievances, and this party is the party that is prone to problems.
The next morning, a strange pickup truck came, Francesca was dusting the mat, full of mother-in-law posture, saw a living person coming, and put away the work.
The pickup stopped outside Johnson's house, and the driver got out of the car and asked Francesca for directions. It was Robert, and he was going to photograph the Rossman Bridge with the red corridor.
Looking at the first sight of the two, Francesca had a defensive posture, she held her arms, but you look at her feet, naked and defenseless.
People and people want to like each other, the most difficult point is that both sides must be in a state of relaxation, revealing their true faces, that is, there is real attraction.
The woman held her arms, which was a defensive gesture, but she was barefoot, and there was no way to fortify at all.
This is true both chinese and foreign, Mr. Jin Yong wrote "The Book of the Dragon Slaying in the Heavens", Zhang Wuji took off Zhao Min's shoes to scratch the soles of her feet, and she completely fell.
If a girl wants to refuse a blind date, wearing boots that are thick enough, strong, and bulky works best.
The man is also undefended, pay attention to this unkempt hair, and compare the shape behind Eastwood.
Unkempt-faced and dusty men are also undefended and easy to like others.
Francesca decided to take Robert to the Covered Bridge.
Did Francesca like Robert at this point?
I think she already likes each other, yes, the matter of leading the way can be just a kind housewife's kindness to outsiders, but her performance has obviously exceeded the friendliness.
Robert has a strong "traveler" atmosphere, and I don't know if you have ever experienced this feeling.
In the early years, when you took a sleeper train through a township, you looked at the lights of other people's homes and thought, Ah, I rubbed shoulders with these people, they are in their own homes, they have their own joys and sorrows;
If one day you hear the train whistle ringing outside your home window, you will think, ah, why are these people on their journey? I also wanted me to go far away on that ride.
Home people long for travelers, travelers attract home people, home people warm, travelers sexy.
Iowa is rural.
Travelers have long been an important source of information in the countryside, even after everyone had a radio.
She got into his car, with some kind of anticipation, and leading the way was the best excuse she could find for herself, and though the road was familiar, the face was the new face.
Again, there was nothing wrong with that, and there was nothing to shame Francesca.
No rabbits, no eagles
Robert was an educated, cultured man, so he said a lot of crap. We've written crap before about the application in the workplace.
He complimented the aroma of Iowa's land on his dusty road, which was nonsense.
Francesca had little interest in this low-quality exchange.
Puppies fight to practice hunting, and the communication between men and women is obviously not a love scene, and it is easy to become a practice battle.
Robert is an old man, he knows that all words will not be said to die, he asked a sentence "how many years have you been married", and immediately apologized to prevent the other party from being unhappy or impatient.
Francesca was much more reckless, diverging from marriage and telling Robert that she had been born in the Italian town of Bari.
Chinese are familiar with Bari, especially those who have watched the Italian football serie A in the early years. But most Americans knew nothing, and the folks near Francesca's house never had the ability to talk to her about her hometown.
Coincidentally, Robert was a photographer for National Geographic, and when he went north and south, he immediately talked to each other about Barry.
People with a wide range of knowledge will have more heterosexual relations, as long as you don't hold back and have to show off, but seriously chat with each other.
The two drove to the covered bridge, and Francesca waited for Robert to carry her home, and Robert went to set up the machine.
This sentence is a pun, a pun on a pun, a quip that is a manifestation of intelligence
It was a beautiful day, the weather was very hot, and Robert asked Francesca to go to the car to get soda.
She saw his bag, the life magazine, all kinds of photographic equipment, was slightly stunned, and then flipped out the soda.
Soda shows that he is a very enjoyable person
The man was a traveler, but also a cultural man.
This shot of frantically pouring soda is actually pouring out the fire in the heart.
Francesca, once part of a higher class, once had a job as a teacher, but later resigned at her husband's request and went home to take care of the children. In her life, there should be cameras, magazines, movies and plays, and the current rural life cannot satisfy her.
Now suddenly a person belonging to that world was sent, and she was a little expectant on the one hand, and a little angry on the other hand. There are also cases of mutual jealousy between men and women, a person of the opposite sex is very good, looks particularly perfect, and is likely to hate because of love, unless —
This person can make a little mess.
Robert picked a handful of wildflowers to offer, obviously quite proud of his move, but his mouth said, "Is it outdated?" ”
Francesca was so childlike that she gave him a shot at once.
Francesca laughed, and the joke played well:
1. The distance between the two people is shortened;
2. Relieve your own tension;
3. Dissolve her resentment.
After this joke, Francesca and the other party became the same class of people, can catch each other's words, can throw the stem, everyone can intersect equally.
Is Francesca smart? Brilliant, of course.
Robert is smarter.
He has been working at National Geographic for so many years, can he not recognize the small wildflowers in the United States?
Let the wildflowers fall naturally to the ground, and his rank is higher.
How to pick a good feeling
At the end of the work, Robert drove Francesca home, and the two began to match each other by first name instead of last name.
Say goodbye and break up, and never see each other again. But Robert wasn't in a hurry to invite anything.
Don't get beaten, after all, this is someone's village.
Francesca got out of the car and took two steps, as if remembering something.
"Let's go inside and have a cup of iced tea."
Notice this finger pointing to the sky, as if remembering the movement of things.
She actually struggled internally for half a day, using this gesture to cover her shyness.
If you have the opportunity to meet someone who likes you and has not yet pointed it out, if you see this gesture, it will be inseparable.
Robert certainly understood, so when he entered the house, his conversation changed, and he asked Francesca's family, and she replied, The Bulls were running.
Normal chat, the answer is "Bull run, great", talk about Bulls. But if you are extremely interested in the other party, you can stop all branches and ask the other party's personal information directly.
After she answered "one and a half years old", she realized that the other party was not talking about cattle
Francesca mentions her own situation, her husband Richard joined the army to fight in Italy (presumably the Occupation Army of World War II), married him herself, and came to the American countryside.
The people here are simple and her family is respected by everyone, but there is nothing here that she dreams of.
Two questions:
1. Is it to seduce the other person by telling the disappointment in life to a person of the opposite sex who has a good feeling for himself?
2. Can Francesca find a more suitable person to talk to? (There were no psychologists in rural America in the 60s.
As mentioned earlier, these auxiliary threads help everyone understand this wrong person, forgive her is not our business, it is her husband Richard's business, appreciate literary works, do not take a guard ruler to the card.
She left him for dinner.
She was already very addicted to this man.
At dinner, Robert told an adventure of his encounter with a female orangutan, which should have been an old passage that he had told his friends countless times, so the performance was very good.
The bottom of this baggage is "engagement.".
If men and women want to go from friendliness to romance, the topic of conversation is bound to touch on "sex".
Rude, unimaginative men tend to reach it in the most direct way, like a walrus that weighs a few thousand pounds to mate.
But rich, graceful males will show their feathers like peacocks. Robert's use of past experiences and the animal world to introduce this topic is the clever place.
Undefended men, undefended women, clever expressions, are now at a fork in the road.
Whether the relationship is simple sex (one night affair) or a relationship (extramarital affair).
Someone might say, "Does that make any difference?" Not all adulterers and adulteresses..."
Not really.
One-night stands do not involve the exchange of feelings or sexual concepts, extramarital affairs or extramarital love, and I care a lot about this exchange process.
Robert said to Francesca, "We haven't done anything wrong, you can tell the kids." ”
Years later, michael and Caroline read this, and Michael was still reluctant to accept: "He drunk her, took advantage of the opportunity..." "He mentally controlled her..."
It is more comfortable to blame the whole sin to outsiders.
"No, he's not that kind of person." Caroline said.
"He slept with someone else's wife." Michael argued weakly.
"Yes, but others are not bad." Caroline said.
Caroline felt that this Robert was very much like her husband
Robert believes that marriage is a great hypnosis in the country, leaving all men and women in uncomfortable situations for a lifetime.
This one is a bit too shocking.
The two men had a slight skirmish, and Robert got up and said goodbye.
Francesca's confrontation had its merits, and she felt unworthy of Robert. A "foreign marriage beauty", no longer young, peasant woman, abandoned the dream of youth, the children are so old, how to go a round in front of this love field master?
But for Robert, Francesca was a dusty gem, she didn't know how high her charm was, and the land and the man were also suppressing her charm, making her willing to tie herself here.
They say goodbye, the romance is over, and Francesca needs to do more if they want to restart a conversation of mutual trust.
An invitation letter
If two people are half pushed and half pushed, they can't get together.
Most of the time, women fall in love before men.
As soon as Robert left, Francesca began to toss and turn.
Considering that this is a letter she wrote to the children after many years, this expression is very bold.
She did not take the name of men as celebrities and well-informed, and relied on men's heads, but really faced her own desires, which is the real big woman.