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There is a law of mutual pleasure in psychology, which refers to the emotional harmony and mutual liking of people, and this liking is mutual and interactive.
Simply put, the probability that you like others will make others like you also greatly increases, which is actually quite understandable, as the philosopher Williams said:
"The strongest desire in human nature is to be admired by others."
When you show respect and admiration and like for others, you meet the human needs of the other party, and it is naturally easier to get the other party's favor.
The law of mutual pleasure can be applied in many ways.
In interpersonal communication, we can use the law of mutual pleasure appropriately to make others feel good about themselves.
For example, if you want to have a good relationship with the class committee in order to expand the interpersonal circle, you can find opportunities to communicate with each other and show admiration for him when communicating:
"If you can be a class committee, you must have your own unique charm and ability!"
At this time, the other party may humbly say "where, where!" ”
But hearing your words and feeling your enthusiasm, the other party is often very happy in their hearts, so that the other party is more likely to slowly accept your communication needs.
Among sales masters, the law of mutual pleasure is more commonly used.
If you rush to recommend products to strangers, it will only make others feel offended, what should you do?
Smart salespeople usually have a good relationship with each other when facing customers, take the initiative to talk to show sincere admiration, praise and like for others, so as to meet the psychological needs of the other party, let others like to talk to themselves, and then mention their own products.
Do you recall that when you go to the store to buy something yourself, is that what the salesperson is like?
Wait until you have a pleasant chat, no matter how the other party recommends the product, you will be willing to listen, will not be so resistant, the probability of selling will be more.
In emotional relationships, the law of mutual pleasure can also be used.
When communicating with the person you like, try to show your admiration for him.
For example, if you find that the other party likes to read, you can say:
"Do you enjoy reading?" I think reading is a good habit, and I think it's great that you can keep reading. ”
In fact, it is to try to find the advantages of the other party, and then send out their own praise, so that the other party will feel your admiration, so that the other party will feel that their value has been confirmed and recognized by you, and no one will refuse to praise and be affirmed.
Therefore, do not always show a high-cold attitude, you can appropriately want to indulge, but too late, the appropriate application of the law of mutual pleasure, may get better results.
However, when using the law of mutual pleasure, it should be noted that the attitude should be sincere, and at the same time as pleasing others, we must also please ourselves, which is the law of mutual pleasure and is to be happy with each other.
If your attitude is not sincere and flattering, others can feel that you are against your heart, it is easy to be disgusted and displeased with you, then you will open the psychological defense mode, will not open your heart to you, and will feel that you are not honest.
Therefore, it is essential to maintain a sincere attitude.
Speaking of this, I believe that everyone has a deeper understanding of the law of mutual pleasure.
The rational use of the law of mutual pleasure in life can sometimes achieve more with less, so when communicating, sincerely show your liking and admiration for others, do not put on an attitude of not being born and not entering, and do not easily criticize others.
How you treat others, others will treat you, you show kindness and like, I believe that in most cases you will also get the friendliness and likes of others.
Well, that's it for today. This article is original by [Lemon Psychology Classroom], pay attention to me, take you to increase knowledge together!