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Before I start today's topic, let me tell you a story:
When it comes to the calligrapher and painter Zhang Daqian, the first thing that comes to mind is his snow-white beard like a waterfall, and people also honor him as "rán gong".
One day one of his little apprentices raised an ingenious question: "Master, your beard is so long and so straight, how should you put it when you sleep to keep it undisturbed?" ”
Zhang Daqian was stunned after listening to the apprentice's question, and when he slept, he never considered how to place his beard!
So at night, Zhang Daqian began to tangle with the position of his beard, how to change his posture was not steady, he knew that this was a meaningless problem, but he couldn't sleep.
I believe that everyone has the same life experience, we often compete with a thought that suddenly arises from ourselves, sometimes the idea is ridiculous, we also know that it is impossible to happen, there is no need to tangle, but we just can't control it, so as to produce some troubles that can't be shaken off.
Just like some people often suspect that their hands are not clean, worried that bacteria will bring harm to themselves, so they keep washing their hands;
When you feel unwell, you wonder if you have an incurable disease and so on.
It's hard to control this invisible thinking, and if you talk to others, it may be difficult for others to empathize, and they may say, "You think too much, just don't think about it."
But in fact, it is difficult for you to get rid of these thoughts, and the more you want to get rid of them, the more you can't get rid of them, and you fall into a vicious circle of negative emotions.
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In fact, the Japanese psychologist Masama Morita explained this psychological phenomenon as early as 1920:
This is a type of "obsessive-compulsive thinking" that we all have, and points out that curing obsessive-compulsive thinking also means eliminating disturbing thoughts.
So if you want to reduce unnecessary worries in your life, start with reducing obsessive-compulsive thinking. Here are a few ways to share:
First, re-recognize "obsessive-compulsive thinking."
Now let's think back:
Do you remember what meals you had and what drinks you drank last month?
I'm afraid you have long forgotten that this kind of thing that can't hurt you in daily life often doesn't cause you trouble.
So what kind of thoughts become your annoyance?
It may be that when cutting fruit, we are worried about cutting our hands, standing on a high place for fear of falling down, etc., because our body has a self-protection mechanism, and in the face of dangerous things, it will instinctively produce fear, which is very normal.
So, when you look at "obsessive-compulsive thinking" in this way, it is seen as a body reminding you of danger, an ordinary psychological phenomenon that occurs under normal conditions, but it will reduce your nervousness.
Second, distraction.
When you have obsessive-compulsive thinking, the best thing to do is to ignore it.
It's like someone deliberately provoking you, the more angry you are, the more proud the other party is, and the more irritating you are;
But you ignore him, you don't care what he says, and slowly he will feel bored and will not come to you for trouble.
So we can distract ourselves, like listening to music or reading novels, and put your "obsessive-compulsive thinking" aside, and maybe soon you'll find that it's gone naturally.
Third, you can use meditation to adjust your mind.
If we can't eliminate "obsessive thinking", we may as well accept it, find a quiet place, close our eyes, and look at your thoughts as a bystander, the existence of these ideas is not a serious problem, do not interfere, do not stop, so that your heart will slowly calm down.
Obsessive-compulsive thinking isn't that scary, and when you can go with the flow and don't mind, you're less anxious and miserable.
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