Perhaps it is a difference in hormones or genetic makeup, and the attitudes of men and women to feelings are not the same, and sometimes even the difference between Mars and Jupiter. Men do not see feelings as the whole, put into passion very quickly, tired of withdrawing is also very fast; women often lose themselves in the world of feelings, entangled in self-suffering for a long time. Tang Wan, Lu You's original wife. Talented, known to Lu Youqinser and Ming, and the soul. In the ancient society of the order of the parents and the words of the matchmaker, it was a rare pair of gods and immortals, husband and wife. However, the sentence of creation and uncertainty of fate is really tried and tested. The two have a strong relationship, and should have grown old with a blank head, but encountered other resistance and changes.
Iron bone tenderness is often more moving, and the famous patriotic poet Lu You is such a person. People cannot ignore his heroic ambition of "being a teacher with a real name, and a thousand years of people who can be a bo zhongjian", nor can they forget his deep affection for the country". In addition to these, his love lament is also particularly moving, and the two "Phoenix" have allowed him and Tang Wan's love tragedy to circulate to this day.
Husband and wife love
Originally, there was a lingering intimate relationship between the two people, but as the two people grew older, they were still quietly secretly feeling affection. The two were also extremely matched, just like a pair made in heaven and earth, and finally in 1144 AD, Lu You married Tang Wan, the woman he loved in his life. Tang Wan is a beautiful, gentle, affectionate and talented woman, and Lu You's mother is Tang Wan's aunt. The two are close to each other, gracious and loving, and live a happy life.
Mother breaks up
Lu You's mother was not satisfied with this daughter-in-law, saying that she thought that Lu You was infatuated with Tang Wan, "lazy in learning", and affected the future, but from Lu You's poem "The concubine who wants to give birth to a man", it is mainly because Tang Wan has not given birth for a long time after marriage. "No filial piety has three, and no queen is greater", so Lu Mu asked her son to divorce his wife and remarry. Lu Mu "sent several women" and asked Lu You to leave Tang Wan. Lu You was reluctant to marry, but also did not dare to disobey his mother, so he built a house outside and met Tang Wan from time to time. But under the interference of Lu Mu, he finally gave up Tang Wan. Later, he successively married the Shu Commandery Wang Clan, and Tang Wan remarried Zhao Shicheng. At the age of 24, Lu You and Wang Shi gave birth to the eldest son, Zi Shuang, at the age of 26, the second son, Zilong, and at the age of 27, he gave birth to his third son, Zi Xiu. His family life still seemed to be happy on the outside, but the loss of Tang Wan's psychological wounds could not be healed. The reunion of Shen Yuan in the twenty-first year of Shaoxing (1151) stirred up huge waves in the hearts of the two.
Husband and wife in the past met
On that day, Zhao Shicheng happily took Tang Wan to visit Shen Garden with him, but accidentally encountered a land tour that happened to return to Shen Garden from outside to relax. The unexpected encounter of the three people is destined to be a catastrophe. In the past, when couples met, there was bitterness, sweetness, hurt, and joy in their hearts, but more importantly, they were overwhelmed. Zhao Shicheng knew in his heart that he should have anticipated this scene long ago, and he did not complain, ten years of mutual observance, early relief of his pain of lovesickness as an outsider.
When he saw the two men's confused appearance, he immediately said that he still had official duties and needed to leave first, and he also ordered the people to prepare wine, dishes, pens, ink and paper, and gave them to Tang Wan and Lu You. A song "Phoenix" ended this unexpected encounter. Tang Wan returned to her home and repeatedly chanted the words of the taste of the guan, and the old wounds in her heart gradually cracked and dripped endless blood. On the occasion of mourning, she also wrote a poem "Phoenix" and Lu You's words. Since then, Tang Wan has been depressed, her heart is sad, and she can't afford to be sick. On the side of the sickbed, Zhao Shicheng could not leave every step, ordered people to visit famous doctors, only to seek medical treatment of Tang Wan, but the heart disease was difficult to treat, Tang Wan finally died in tears, and gave up the desolate life.
Lu You died of illness the following year at the age of eighty-six. Long songs when crying, how embarrassing! Love is a thing of the past, and love will always be cherished. Lu You wrote "The Phoenix of the Head", and when he threw it softly, his liver and intestines had long been cut off, and he could not cry. And Tang Wan, this talented and tender female poet, a pair of beautiful and sad eyes gazed deeply at the sentimental Lu You, and chanted word by word with her bloody lyrics, such as cuckoo crying blood, poignant and abnormal. Only teach people to look up to the sky and sigh: this extraordinary, eternally resentful love story, how can it not let human feelings be cut off in the intestines? How not to let people ask themselves poignantly, what is the world's love, until people live and die!