In the era of "the order of the parents and the words of the matchmaker", the marriage of the children is completely determined by the parents. With the development of society, arranged marriage has gradually become a thing of the past, and free love has become the main way of marriage. However, some notions of traditional arranged marriages still affect many people.
If the object of the daughter's liking does not meet the expectations of the family, it will be strongly opposed by the parents. Jiang Xiaozhang fell in love with a third-married man who was 14 years older than her, and he did not marry. Father Chiang Ching-kuo strongly objected. But in the end, Jiang Xiaozhang still married this man.
Because of their special status and special experience, Chiang Kai-shek's descendants have received the attention of many people. Among them, the experience and life of Chiang Kai-shek's son Chiang Ching-kuo have attracted the attention of many people. Chiang Ching-kuo, born in 1910, was the eldest son of Chiang Kai-shek and was given very high expectations by Chiang Kai-shek from an early age.
In his early years, Chiang Ching-kuo studied at Sun Yat-sen University in Moscow. For special reasons, after graduating, Chiang Ching-kuo was unable to return to China, but was sent to work in factories. In the process, Chiang Ching-kuo got to know Jiang Fangliang.
Jiang Fangliang, whose original name was Finna Ibativa, is a Belarusian. Finna's parents were both Russian nobles. Thus, in the 1930s, Finna was also sent to work in factories. After meeting the beautiful Finna, Chiang Ching-kuo launched a very fierce pursuit of her.
In March 1935, Chiang Ching-kuo and Finna married. After getting married, Finna took her husband's surname and changed her name to Jiang Fangliang. The married life of the couple is very sweet. Soon after, Chiang Ching-kuo's eldest son and Chiang Kai-shek's eldest grandson, Chiang Hyo-wen, was born.
In 1938, Jiang Fangliang gave birth again and gave birth to Chiang Ching-kuo's only daughter, Jiang Xiaozhang. Chiang Hsiao-chang is the only granddaughter of Chiang Kai-shek's grandchildren who has been favored by his grandparents and fathers since childhood. Jiang Xiaozhang, who grew up in love, is cheerful and generous. Because of her family lineage, she can always easily become the object of everyone's attention in going out and socializing.
In 1957, nineteen-year-old Jiang Xiaozhang proposed to his father: "Dad, I want to study in the United States." Chiang Ching-kuo, who loved his daughter, agreed to this request without saying a word. In order to enable his daughter to live a comfortable and stable life in the United States, Chiang Ching-kuo carefully arranged a place for her to live.
Yu Dawei, who had held an important position in Taiwan's Kuomintang government, resigned and took his family to settle in the United States. Chiang Ching-kuo and Yu Dawei were once very good friends. Therefore, when Chiang Ching-kuo arranged things related to studying abroad for his daughter, he asked Yu Dawei to help.
Yu Dawei proposed to Chiang Ching-kuo: "If You let Qianjin live alone in an apartment outside, you will not be at ease." Why not let her live in my house?" My family will definitely take good care of Xiao Zhang. After some consideration, Chiang Ching-kuo agreed to the proposal.
However, Chiang Ching-kuo never thought that this decision, after three years, would make him regret it endlessly. After Jiang Xiaozhang arrived in the United States, he lived in Yu Dawei's home. Because of her special status, the people of the Yu family always took great care of her. It is also because of this meticulous care that Jiang Xiaozhang has a very deep affection for the Yu family.
In addition to his gratitude to the Yu family, Jiang Xiaozhang also developed a love for Yu Dawei's son, Yu Yanghe. Yu Yanghe is fourteen years older than Jiang Xiaozhang, and he has already had two marriages. At the behest of her father, Yu Yanghe also took great care of the little sister of the Jiang family who lived at home, and often took her out to play together.
The close relationship between the two made both of them have a male and female relationship. Because of the huge age gap, the relationship between the two has been hiding both parents. In 1960, Jiang Xiaozhang decided to return to Taiwan and confess his love to his father. Before leaving, Jiang Xiaozhang said to Yu Yanghe: "I will definitely convince my father to let him agree to marry me and you." ”
Jiang Xiaozhang's process of persuading his father was very difficult. After Jiang Chingguo learned of his daughter's love affair, he was shocked. He first gently persuaded, hoping to let his daughter take the initiative to break up with Yu Yanghe. However, Jiang Xiaozhang said very firmly: "Dad, I like him." I must marry him. ”
After hearing this, Jiang Jingguo Boyang was furious: "Yu Yanghe is fourteen years older than you, and in addition, he has been married twice." You are my Chiang Ching-kuo's gold, how can he be worthy of you? I would never agree. However, Jiang Xiaozhang had already decided not to marry Yu Yanghe, and even if Jiang Jingguo cried bitterly and persuaded, he did not let Jiang Xiaozhang change his attention.
In order to get his father to agree to his marriage, Jiang Xiaozhang first asked his mother Jiang Fangliang to persuade Jiang Xiaozhang. Jiang Fangliang is a Belarusian, and she is very open to her daughter's love and marriage. In Jiang Fangliang's view: as long as the daughter can be happy, it is okay to marry anyone. Therefore, she is supportive of her daughter.
For many years, Jiang Fangliang has always played the image of a submissive and obedient "good wife" in front of Chiang Ching-kuo, and she will never oppose any decision made by Chiang Ching-kuo. When her daughter asked her to persuade her husband, she hesitated for a long time before agreeing. However, in the end, in the face of the powerful Chiang Ching-kuo, Jiang Fangliang's persuasion did not play any role.
After his mother's persuasion failed, Jiang Xiaozhang decided to use the killer skill: ask Song Meiling to persuade. Although, none of Chiang Kai-shek's descendants were born to Soong Mei-ling. However, Soong Mei-ling still had a high prestige among Chiang Kai-shek's children and grandchildren. Even Chiang Ching-kuo, who was Chiang Kai-shek's eldest son, had great respect for Soong Mei-ling, the stepmother.
Song Meiling also supported Jiang Xiaozhang. Therefore, when Jiang Xiaozhang asked her to come forward to persuade her, she quickly agreed. Song Meiling said to Chiang Ching-kuo: "Children and daughters are married, and each has its own fate. Since Xiao Zhang likes it, let her marry happily. The old notions of door-to-door pairing, matching and unworthiness are outdated. Whether a marriage can be happy depends on the joint management of the husband and wife. ”
In the end, because of his daughter's resolute attitude and persuasion from many parties, Jiang Jingguo could only agree to the marriage of Jiang Xiaozhang and Yu Yanghe. Therefore, in 1960, Jiang Xiaozhang and Yu Yanghe officially married. After getting married, Jiang Xiaozhang followed her husband back to settle in the United States. In 1961, Jiang Xiaozhang gave birth to a son, Yu Zusheng.
Because his parents are in Taiwan, Jiang Xiaozhang often writes letters to his parents and cares about their lives. Every year, Jiang Xiaozhang takes her husband and son to Taiwan to visit her relatives. Although Jiang Xiaozhang's marriage was very bumpy at the beginning. But in the end, Jiang Xiaozhang and Yu Yanghe still lived a life that satisfied themselves.
Today, Jiang Xiaozhang, who is already in his eighties, still chooses to settle in the United States. After the deaths of his father Chiang Ching-kuo and his mother Chiang Fang-leung in 1988 and 2004, Mr. Jiang rarely returned to Taiwan.