The ancient Greek philosopher Socrates, a figure who "eats dog meat and is proud of the secretary", always dressed scruffily, stands on the streets of Athens to sell the wisdom of life. The audience was surrounded like a lottery ticket, and there were a large group of dead-hearted admirers. The old man loved philosophy and light wealth, and was dismissive of the variety of goods in the market, and he once told his disciples around him with his mouth open, "I don't need anything here." Later, Westerners followed suit, believing, "Nothing is needed, most like God." ”
Unfortunately, Socrates is not a god, although he put the "cow" to the ceiling, but there is a small problem - afraid of his wife. The wives in the family were noisy and noisy all day long for trivial matters, and they either beat or scolded. It is said that a basin full of dirty water was also viciously spilled on the husband's head. What about philosophers? I had to obediently stand next to each other and suffer alive. In fact, it is the most difficult for men to survive two hurdles: one, women; two, themselves. Emperor Yang Jian of Sui was also not exempt from vulgarity.
Yang Jian's wife, the Dugu Empress, sat in the main harem, but she could influence the affairs of the imperial court. Blowing the "pillow wind" to Yang Jian is her best trick. Blowing the wind and making sex and messing around are two different things, if there is no brain, insight, even if you sleep next to the emperor every night, it is just a beautiful doll, an empty vase. The lone queen blows the "pillow wind", which is both reasonable and important, without a trace, even if you want to pick a bone in the egg, it is difficult to find a little flaw. Yang Jian was even more impressed, frequently nodding his head. The Dugu Empress had already become half of the Sui Dynasty's home.
Some people may ask: Why? Could it be that Yang Jian is full of heads, why do you ask a woman to lead the nose? Where's the word! Husbands and wives cannot fight for status by men's fists and women's tears; they must be reasonable. The Lonely Queen occupies the "reason" in everything, and the emperor, who is the mouth of a hundred rivers, also blocked her. Flipping through the "Book of Sui" and "History of the North" can uncover the mystery, in fact, the lone queen's control of men is not mysterious, she has three "tricks":
First of all, cultivate virtue and show mercy.
The Ming Dynasty has a "Record of Tongues", which records a famous quote by Chen Jiru: "A man with virtue is talent, and a woman without talent is a virtue." This sounds like a word game, but it puts "morality" in the supreme position. Virtue is the same thing for both men and women, if you don't put it on, no one can look up to it, and no one will play with you. The clever and clever lonely queen, who is willing to give up this beautiful "line head" of this set of salty clothes?
From the yellow flower girl to the young woman who left the cabinet, the first lesson was to teach her husband and son. Loving husbands, raising children, and making any marriage a career. Yang Jian was so busy that he had long become the "eyeball" of the lonely queen, and the woman waited carefully, as considerate and caring for a baby. When the emperor was about to go to the court, the empress accompanied the same car, and the couple held hands and shoulder to shoulder, which was very happy. Before reaching the palace, the emperor went in to work, and the queen waited quietly below. In order to be more appropriate, the empress also appointed her confidant eunuchs to follow the holy car, in case the emperor did anything out of the ordinary, it was better to remind and try his best to correct it in time. As soon as the meeting dispersed, the empress greeted her in front of the steps, and the two sons "slept with the anti-Yan and took care of each other happily"...
The LoneLy Empress not only served the emperor "fine work", but also was soft on others. Whenever Dali Temple executed death row prisoners, she always had to shed tears with the families of those prisoners who had left their lives and deaths. The empress's parents died early, and she heard that who was alive in the high hall was happy for others, and also sent greetings and greetings every three to five minutes, or sent some small gifts - in the era of strict hierarchy, the harem mother could hold her subordinates so high, who is not grateful? After a long time, the reputation of the lone queen's virtuousness and benevolence spread to the streets and alleys.
Second, live tightly and do not love money.
There is a joke about how ordinary people dream of becoming emperors. People in Hebei think that they should eat a meatball dumpling every day; Shanxi people feel that they must cut noodles with a knife, cut more green onions, and pour more vinegar; Shaanxi people are willing, lamb steamed buns, spicy pipe is enough... The emperor's house, there are four seas, they want what they want, they have.
The variety of conjectures is generally good, but there are exceptions. For example, the lonely queen, don't look at you as the mother of the country, still live a life of frugality, hardship and simplicity. In the "History of the North", similar details abound: Northern Qi has just perished, and in the final analysis, it is the death of dogs and horses, eating, drinking and having fun. Someone offered Yang Jian a very luxurious "Qibao Car" and a very delicate makeup mirror table. The two items are exquisitely handmade, to the point of "absolutely beautiful". He wanted to give his wife a hard time, but on second thought, forget it. "After, it's not gorgeous", the reward thing is not guilty of hot face sticking cold ass. After pondering for half a day, I simply demolished the "Shippo Car" and did it.
The Lone Queen is the grand master of the inner court, and her financial management has reached the point of slamming the door. Once, Yang Jian had diarrhea and urgently needed one or two hu powder, but this thing was not a daily necessity, and he couldn't find it after rummaging through the harem. Of course, the queen belongs to the people who enter the house, and should occasionally be generous, such as inviting someone to a table, rewarding some gadgets or something. The empress often said that it did not count, because there was no item in the palace that she promised.
As the saying goes: "White wine red face, gold touching." "Not greedy for money, not loving small, easy to say, the general generation simply can't do it." The LoneLy Queen followed her word, which made her famous in one fell swoop.
The Sui Dynasty and the Turks once set up trade markets on the border, and the furs of the north and the fish and salt of the south all circulated here. The general manager of The Town Guard Youzhou accidentally got a box of precious large pearls, worth up to eight million taels of silver. In order to curry favor with his superiors, the governor of Youzhou consulted with the empress, hoping to buy these jewels and send them to the inner palace. DuGu clan waved his hand one after another and refused. She said: "I can't use these jewels. If you must express it, then use this money as a salary and distribute it to the soldiers who have made meritorious contributions to the side. When the news came out, hundreds of officials went to the table to congratulate each other. Even Yang Jian secretly admired: "My wife is really too tall!" ”
Again, know how to advance and retreat, and do not favoritism.
"If you want it, you will suffer, but if you don't want it, you will be just right." How many people can completely put aside nepotism and buddy righteousness? Especially when it involves flesh and blood affection, how can we bear to kill each other? Reading the "Book of Sui" records two cases, it shows that the lonely queen is good at weighing the pros and cons, especially treating people and things, always dripping water, quite decent.
The Governor of Dadu, Cui Changren, had committed a crime, and he was originally the Empress's close brother. He should have been slashed with a knife, but Yang Jian took into account his wife's affection and specially released a horse. Unexpectedly, the Dugu clan not only did not appreciate it, but also coldly blamed: "The affairs of the state can be taken care of for selfishness!" The empress hung her face and made a fuss, and Cui Changren finally obediently took the knife.
Just after the case was completed, the Queen's half-brother, Dugu Tuo, had another east window incident. He is the youngest son of Dugu Xin, and he hates his father's youngest girl. He actually hired several witch gods in a vain attempt to use the "cat ghost witch" to curse the queen to death. This is a terrible sin, of course, to kill! Unexpectedly, the queen went on a hunger strike. She was very dissatisfied with this ruling, and after three days of starvation, she pleaded with Yang Jian: "Tuo, if you are stupid and harmful to the people, concubines do not dare to speak." Now sit as a concubine, dare to ask for her life. "It makes sense, the emperor was repeatedly nodded by her words, and in this way, Dugu Tuo retrieved a life from the palace of the King of Yama.