Time flies, whether you want to or not, you have come to the battlefield of middle age. The youth and recklessness gradually faded in the baptism of time. The beautiful youth slowly came to an end.
Responsibilities and obligations are rapidly approaching you. It seems that overnight, it is also like a frog boiled in warm water, when we are aware, the arrow has to be sent on the string, and we can't retreat.
Countless nights, too busy to sleep, and early mornings to wake up in the moonlight. Children, the elderly, work, family, everything is higher than the mountains, deeper than the sea, but they all like to come to us together.
Balancing this word is like a satire that is simply impossible to complete. People always have the illusion that as long as they work hard enough and persevere enough, they can achieve the so-called balance.
There is no such thing as balance or perfection, the first thing we have to do is accept. This is the most tragic scene of middle-aged people, we have been working hard, we will always be hit, there is no peace in the world, hello I am good everyone when the time comes.
1. Accepting calmly into middle age, mental adjustment is an important lesson
It's a non-stop arena where you can only move forward, you can never go backwards, because there are still family members behind you that you have to guard. Accepting this reality, maybe we can go a little smoother.
Like the countless difficulties we have faced before, this time the difficulty is higher, first to accept, and then slowly to complete it, this is not what we have been learning all the way?
The reason why we are uncomfortable and miserable is, in large part, is because we cannot adapt to and accept the current predicament. Unable to face so much sudden onslaught, with an aging face, and time no longer belonging to you, we seem to be divided.
We must divide our time and energy into countless parts, but we must not have our own share. Running, toiling, hardship already makes us tired, if we add complaining, anger, anxiety, depression, then we will only fall deeper and deeper at this stage.
Never come out of the frivolous skin, and live yourself into a greasy, indignant, and bleak appearance.
Even if you don't have to face it with an accepting mindset, things will not decrease, but will increase more because of emotions. It is better to accept it calmly, solve it slowly, and use a peaceful attitude to straighten out and smooth out life.
Acceptance is not a compromise, nor is it synonymous with depression, it is a change of mindset. From an unsuitable, overwhelming amount of trouble and responsibility, the only way to cope, a positive, more calm, rational way to deal with it.
No matter how difficult life is, there is no obstacle that cannot be overcome. Like Yu Hua's wealth, life took almost everything from him, but he was not taken away by these, but learned to accept and try to live. He lived longer than those who had oppressed him, than those who had been richer than him.
2, live to learn from the old, always maintain competitiveness
People's life expectancy is gradually increasing, but our expectations of ourselves generally do not exist after thirty years. The so-called stereotyping may start from the age of 3, the old saying is not: "Three years old to see the big, seven years old to see the old, twelve years old to set for life." ”
In the recruitment brochure, where have people over 35 years old gone? There will be no going there, it is still floating in society, and it is still running for life. However, I spontaneously lowered my lower requirements and found a job that I thought I could handle.
However, in disguise, it continues to peddle what little remains of relative youth.
When the age comes, the self-conscious memory is also poor, the skills are not good, and it is a good thing to think that I can work in a factory until retirement. But often the technology changes, if you give up to continue learning and further education, the elimination will come unexpectedly.
When life becomes chosen and chosen, then we can only face wordless embarrassment and frustration. When I arrived here, I remembered that I was remorseful, and the time that had been wasted and consumed would be regretted too late.
Xiao Wang of the design department of S Company is a graphic designer with many years of work experience and quite skilled. Even so, she still did not stop learning, she not only taught herself photography, but also learned video editing. What she learned helped her a lot in her work.
Let her go from an ordinary employee of a department to a director of the department in less than a year. At present, she is also running her own side business, becoming a veritable little rich woman.
It is said that choosing a career is a lifetime. Such times are quietly becoming a thing of the past. Always maintain the motivation to learn, so that you can be competitive at any time, is the trend of this era.
Never give up on yourself, if, the current career, is what you love and have been pursuing, then continue to work hard, if not, then do not be discouraged.
After the age of 20, our brains will decline? Rest assured, when you study, the corresponding brain area changes and will not stop.
So, whenever we are, we all have the right to choose, as long as we are willing to learn. Even if people reach middle age, life can still have the right to choose.
3. On your own track, go down calmly and firmly
A colleague once asked me such a question, so-and-so is so young, more than ten years younger than you, envy, right? I chuckled and shook my head, without a trace of envy from the bottom of my heart.
The road I have walked, you have not yet walked, the road you have traveled, I have walked. This road of life is only sooner or later, we will all walk through. However, walking and walking, there are also a thousand differences.
People have passed middle age, less enthusiasm, vitality and momentum, that kind of light pace, cheerful smile, gradually disappeared. In its place, the heaviness of life, the traces of time, and the fading smile.
I don't know when it started, but I haven't really smiled for a long time.
What about you? Will there be a hint of fatigue in the smile?
On the track of middle age, there is no longer the word youth, but on the road of anxiety and fear, it is getting farther and farther away. If, at this time, we still look at youth at an inopportune time, it will only aggravate our own pain.
The past will let him pass, live in the present, stop in the future, maybe the next wonderful, will meet unexpectedly in time.
Every year's recruitment season, on the university campus, enterprises recruit one after another, and even the raging epidemic has not stopped them from replenishing their pace of fresh blood.
Many companies and managers, who like to recruit employees who have just graduated, think that they have passion, do not grow old, and work is more creative, but instability is their common problem.
It is undeniable that middle-aged candidates will indeed have some solidified thinking, it is difficult to plan and persuade, and their style of conduct has its own set of guidelines and is difficult to change.
In work, having experience, calmness, and being able to shoulder responsibilities are also the advantages of middle-aged people.
Choose our own track and play to all our inherent strengths. There is no one-or-no, we can calmly walk our own path on our respective tracks.
4, all kinds of life, to learn to forget
"Dear drops, there is no one else out there." Zhang Defen wrote this sentence in the book "Meet the Unknown Self". All kinds of appearances are just thoughts in one's own heart.
What we have in us and can't put it down, we will all see it in others.
What we want is a violent betrayal of the love drama, so we see it. We want to have a bumpy, life growth path, so we have worked hard to do it.
Some people will say, I don't want it. That's not what I want, but have you heard the voice in the subconscious? What are they talking about? Are they pessimistic or optimistic? Are they negative or positive?
I am a typical, child who grew up poisoned by television. Especially those Qiong Yao dramas and romance dramas, there are no ups and downs of the plot, how can anyone watch it? Therefore, I take it for granted that love is like this, with exaggerated conflicts and irreconcilable pain.
So much so that my first love is more exciting than the TV series every day, if not, I will create various plots to fill this gap. Imagination, at this time, exerts endless power, simply more wonderful than any TV series.
As a result, it just made me live worse than death, and I was in great pain.
When people reach middle age, the only advantage is that they have traveled more roads, more responsibilities, and more things to be busy. These plots have been forgotten by me, so that life after marriage is not too bizarre and painful.
However, we have to forget more than that. Rather, they are the old-fashioned, stubborn thoughts and thoughts that have accompanied us for decades.
At this time, forgetting is only the beginning, with positive, mindful thought to paint it, to paint it, to re-describe its original happiness, completeness, wonderful appearance.
Middle-aged is a barrier, even an insurmountable obstacle, which is wide, deep, as if one foot down, will swallow us up. However, this is only an imagination. A poke will break the imagination, walk over, you will find that the road is under your feet, is extending into the distance, boundless.
Don't let anyone define our middle age. It is still vast and boundless, there are endless possibilities, it still has the brilliant colors of youth, enough for us to bloom the most dazzling light.
Run away for half a lifetime, return is still a teenager!!