Dear book lovers, do you remember? How did your life become what it is now?
Unconsciously, year after year, month after month, day after day, time and hour, minute after minute, second after second. He gradually changed from a young child to an ambitious teenager, and then gradually moved to the twilight of powerlessness.
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Feng Zikai said: "Life is maintained by 'gradual', only those who are not fascinated by 'gradual', shrink infinite time and space, and have every inch in their hearts can live a 'big life'." ”
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We often feel that life always has to have a goal, and it should always be what we want it to be. For this goal, and in order to achieve the way life should be, we vow to make our parents proud and let ourselves live with dignity, but forget that "happiness" is the irreplaceable "pride" in this world.
When you are white-haired, looking back on your life, you will find that any life that should be like this is not achieved overnight; any life that is born different must be realized after the word "gradually" can obtain true happiness.
Your life is "gradually" getting better
In his essay "Gradually", Feng Zikai introduced such a story: a farmer carries a calf every day and goes to work in the field. Every day, without interruption. A year later, the calf became a large cow, and the farmer still held it unconsciously, jumped over the ditch, and went to work in the opposite field.
Suddenly, one day, the farmer stopped for a day because of an incident. The next day, when the farmer wanted to pick up the calves, jump over the ditch, and work in the opposite field, he found that he could no longer do it.
Many times, our lives, like this "calf", are growing every day and developing in a good direction, but you don't know it.
"If you don't accumulate steps, you can't go a thousand miles." Without accumulating small streams, there is no way to become a river and a sea. ”
Perhaps, now, you feel that reading is useless. But when you get what you want one day because of reading, you will find that it is the "book" that gradually achieves your dream;
Perhaps, now, you feel that it is useless to go to bed early. But one day, when you get a healthy body because of going to bed early, you will find that it is "going to bed early" that gradually blesses you for the rest of your life;
Perhaps, now, you feel that kindness is useless. But when you get help from others one day because of kindness, you will find that it is "kindness" that gradually guards your thoughtfulness.
We believe that the truth remains the same, but in fact we are experiencing changes every day. They more or less change our habits, cognition, and achievements, so that we can gradually get closer to our life goals, so that our lives can gradually become better.
Perhaps, you feel that there is still a long way to go from your life goal, but please do not worry, do not give up, because "one step is difficult, one step is good", life will never let you down, you just need to believe in yourself and unswervingly move forward. "Gradually", your life will gradually enter a better state.
Your life is also "gradually" getting worse
Many people don't want to believe, how can the simple girl of the past suddenly become so sophisticated and deep-minded? Why did the ambitious young people of those years become what they are now?
Ten thousand high-rise buildings rise to the ground, why does it only take a moment to collapse?
In fact, it is not, because everything is "gradually" getting worse, and so is your life.
As Feng Zikai said: "The reason why people can withstand the decline of the situation is also because of the help of this 'gradual'." Because its decay is prolonged for ten years and twenty years, and gradually reached, I do not feel any strong stimulation. ”
"Gradually" will make a stupid boy who does not worry about eating and drinking, and gradually become a penniless tramp, such as Xu Fugui in "Alive";
"Gradually" will make an intellectual who has the opportunity to go to the tip of the pyramid gradually become an unemployed person who has no one to pay attention to, such as Fang Hongwei in "Siege";
"Gradually" will make a happy man with a wife and a child gradually become a widow with a wife and a child, such as Tong Zhenbao in "Red Roses and White Roses".
The word "bad" we can only avoid. Perhaps, you feel that "bad" is far away from you, but you don't know that "bad" has always been there and is gradually affecting our lives. It is pervasive, like a virus, as long as you are not careful, "bad" will gradually swallow your life.
Just as "bad" habits of life will gradually devour your good body; "bad" learning styles will gradually tamper with your good grades; "bad" styles of behavior will gradually reduce your blessings.
We are all "passengers" of life, only as short as a boat ride
Feng Zikai said: "The average person's understanding of time seems to be only enough to dominate the short time of taking a boat; if they only have the life span of the period of taking a boat, perhaps in human society, they can reduce many sinister and cruel battles, and it is not known that they are as humble and peaceful as in the train." ”
Although, our lives are "gradually" getting better, they are also "gradually" getting worse. But that doesn't mean we have to be anxious about it. In order to drive away the impact of "bad" on life, we ran desperately, living a noisy and frightening life, and it was not easy.
Therefore, Feng Zikai will say that in fact, people's understanding of time is only as short as taking a boat.
If you think about it, it does make a lot of sense.
During the boat ride, we know where the end point is and how long we will stay. Therefore, even if the people in the next seat are chatting in a loud voice, they will hold back their anger, put on their headphones, and pretend not to hear; when they see that there are old, weak, sick and disabled without seats, they will stand up and change them to sit down.
However, in this tour bus called "Life", such a smart and generous attitude is easily overlooked. Because we can't grasp the time, let alone dare to miss any of the opportunities, we can make ourselves live more comfortably. As a result, human beings will become anxious, will choose to fight from anxiety, and forget modesty.
"The essence of 'gradual' is time", time will make you successful, but also deceive you. Gradually, you will find that in fact, we are all "passengers" of life, learn to use the short-term living method of dominating the boat ride, to spend a long life, and your life will gradually become relaxed and peaceful.
My feelings about "Gradually"
This philosophical essay was published by Mr. Feng Zikai in June 1928. Today, this novel, entitled "Gradually", is included in the collection of prose paintings "The Taste of Life, I Slowly Taste".
In this anthology, the themes of "Fun is the Nourishment of Life"; "Learning to Live Artistically"; "Wood Knowing Wood Jue, Enjoying Myself"; "Fortunately I Came to the Mountains Without Loneliness"; and "The Most Sound Heart and Eyes Between Heaven and Earth" is divided into five volumes, including 28 essays and 24 paintings by Mr. Feng Zikai. They convey the author's thinking about human nature and his love of life.
For example, in the Big Book of Accounts, Feng Zikai writes:
"It was as if I had seen a very large ledger, which detailed the past, present, and future three lifetimes of the past, present, and future of all the events in the universe. So my doubts and sorrows can be lifted. ”
In "Learning to Live Artistically", Feng Zikai wrote:
"We all harbor this bitterness, and we always want to vent this bitterness in order to have a happy life." The realm of art is the paradise we have opened up to vent the bitterness of this life. ”
In "Contemplating Life", Feng Zikai wrote:
"I seem to see that people's hearts have foreskins."
Through these wise and untainted words, Feng Zikai tells us that our lives are "gradually" getting better and "gradually" getting worse.
As Feng Zikai said: "If life is carried out, not like a hillside but like the keypad of an organ, from do to re, that is, like the child of last night, this dynasty suddenly becomes a youth; or like the melody of "picking and departing" from do suddenly jumping to mi, that is, like the twilight of becoming an old man for youth, people must be surprised, sighed, sad, or painfully feel the impermanence of life, and they are not happy. ”
If our life is a novel, there will be a succession. In this process, although it will be sad to encounter a crisis, it will also be joyful after the crisis is resolved. Being able to look back on joy in sadness and taste sorrow in joy can "gradually" become easier in life.
Therefore, in the moment of impetuosity and anxiety, listen to Feng Zikai talk about his "interesting, hearty, and sentient" life. This "Taste of Life, I Taste Slowly", is a good recipe when you are in pain, a beacon when you are confused, and a cup of tea when you are impetuous.