Someone said, "Be nice to yourself, that's the person who will be with you the longest." ”
There is not one thing in life that is worth dwelling on. If you don't know how to let go, then what you desperately get is to bind you, not to complete you.
When people reach a certain age, they must learn to do subtraction and let themselves go, which is really smart.
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No quarrel, what is lost will come back in another way.
During the Ming Dynasty, a man named Zhu Youfeng, holding a bouquet of flowers, went to listen to the lectures of the Zen master Guangyuan.
On the way, she and the oncoming Li Nanshan collided, and the flowers scattered on the ground. Zhu Youfeng was very angry: "Look, what to do?" ”
Li Nanshan said, "Just say sorry, why are you so fierce?" ”
They do not give in to each other, and the voice of accusation is getting louder and louder.
Zen Master Guangyuan rushed to hear the noise and said, "Recklessness is not right, it is not right not to accept an apology, for a small matter, it is not worth destroying a beautiful state of mind early in the morning." ”
Soon, the two noisy people stopped and shook hands.
The flowers that are destroyed will not change back; if you make a whole day, you will waste a whole day's time and disrupt the original plan.
What to fight for? We're just "fighting for a breath." That is to say, for the sake of unwarranted "qi", we grit our teeth and argue with others and confront the world.
"Lao Tzu" wrote: "Husbands are only indisputable, so there is no worry." ”
A person who knows how not to argue, sorrow will naturally be far away from himself. Even if something is taken away, don't be angry, because as long as others enjoy it, it is not wasted.
Disputes are actually people pulling each other. Always arguing, like two teams in a tug-of-war game, fighting until exhausted, have not let go, the final ending, I am afraid to die of exhaustion.
Let go, the road will be wide, and no more squeezing the canoe bridge.
02
If you don't stay up, you actually end up.
A lot of people think that no matter how hard it is, as long as you survive, you win.
In fact, some suffering is meaningless, and if you survive, you will only destroy yourself, and you will not become a great instrument.
For example, a piece of tea that has been soaked in boiling water many times, you continue to torment it, is also tasteless. It is better to give it up and manage the tea garden, so that there is still a chance to get new tea.
"I really can't stand it, just forget it", people who can do this really understand.
As the saying goes: "Suffering is not bitterness, pleasure is not pleasure, it is just your momentary obsession." ”
If the direction is wrong, you are still insisting on moving forward, what is the point? Your suffering is nothing but self-pleading.
Actor Wang Zuxian, after announcing his withdrawal from the show business circle, said frankly: "Life is not the only stage, you change a stage is still the same play, life is a play." ”
When you retire from an industry, you can say with relief, "I really did it." ”
Giving up is actually to give yourself an explanation, to draw a "perfect" end to all the suffering. If you persist all your life and don't know how to give up, then you will live a particularly tired life and be hurt by actions such as "unwilling and unflinching".
People will grow old, and one day, it will be "a coffin". It is better to retire from success, enjoy a quiet life, and live up to the rest of your life.
03
Without saying anything, the more silent the more powerful it is.
Liu Yong wrote in "The Charm of Speaking": "Replace questioning with care, blame with suggestions, and replace blunt words with suggestions." ”
When people interact with each other, you don't say a word, not dumb, but in another way, tell others what you are thinking, what you want to resist, and what you want to do.
Of course, in the midst of right and wrong, you can also leave quietly without causing yourself any trouble.
To be a person, instead of gritting your teeth and insulting others, it is better to grit your teeth, hold your breath, and be a better self.
The best revenge against those who hurt you is not an attack on words, but that you have become particularly good, and the other party is "ashamed of yourself".
Only the man who does not speak, but sweats like rain, can burn and shine.
We just notice the successful people, talk about it, but ignore the hardships of their hard reading. I don't know, they used to be people sitting on the cold bench.
Be a person, say less, save the strength, you can do something else.
04
Don't want to, messy feelings, originally do not belong to you.
The feelings that make you think wildly have nothing to do with you. For example, if you meet someone who hates each other late, you always think that there is still a chance to reunite. As everyone knows, he is someone else's lover, and you are only one side of the same.
Friends who are drifting away, you still contact him every day, in fact, it disturbs other people's time, "dislike" words, others did not say it.
The contradiction between brothers and sisters, you always think about, shows that you are not generous at all, too calculating. Flesh and blood love is pure, and there is no need to doubt it at all.
When the break continues, it is chaotic. Don't think about it, all people, will be gentle with you.
05
Once, the painter Feng Zikai took a chicken and took a ride from Shimen Bay in Tongxiang to Hangzhou.
Along the way, worried that the chicken would not be able to bear the pain of labor, he lifted his clothes and built a seat for the chicken. When he arrived in Hangzhou, he released the chickens.
Feng Zikai's behavior is incomprehensible.
Later, Feng Zikai said: "Releasing life is to protect life, and protecting life is to protect the heart." ”
A word awakens the dreamer. If you can let go, then everything will protect you and make you better.
People who have a long road in life and seem to be unwilling to accept defeat are actually inferior to those who know how to bend over backwards and seek perfection; those who seem to be on top are not as good as those who are willing to be ordinary.
The people who really live happily are not those who want to win everything, but those who "do good deeds and don't ask about the future".
The rest of life is not long, let the come, let the should go, can stay in life, is the best.
Let go of a thought, all kinds of nature, and encourage everyone.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.