There are many people who want to get back together after the breakup, but they can't find the right way to save it, so Xiaobian will share with you today how to save your lovers, and it can also help you in the redemption.
First, be calm
First of all, you must be calm, after the breakup to successfully save each other,The most important thing is the time after the breakup, that is, the cooling off period, do not pestering her repeatedly, do not text, call. Just think of it as your own healing period. Stop blindly caring for her, take care of her, and ask for warmth. You have to remember that if she gets used to you, she will always miss it uncontrollably when she loses, and although she thinks of others in her heart, she will still miss it. When she takes the initiative to contact you, you don't refuse, but don't be in a hurry, and chat appropriately. You must know how to indulge.
Second, moderate disconnection, give feelings and room for relaxation
Since the woman took the initiative to say break up, it shows that in her eyes at this time, you are insufficient to completely cover up the shining point. In this case, you are still desperate to save it, and trying to brush the sense of existence in front of her is nothing less than adding fuel to the fire and increasing her negative impression of you. Therefore, we recommend that after the breakup, first disconnect with the other party for a period of time to buffer her negative emotions, calm down and restore rational thinking.
The disconnection period can give women a space to stabilize their emotions, dilute their bad impressions of you, and eliminate their resistance to you. At the same time, you can also give yourself a time to adjust your mindset and leave a room for both sides to ease. The disconnection period should not be too short, nor too long, usually one week is better.
Third, know how to praise
In the period after the breakup, you must establish a beautiful image in the eyes of the other party, let yourself be full of charm and positive energy in the eyes of the other party, you have to understand the other party's personality, speculate on his thoughts, men are hoping to be recognized, praised, and worshiped by women, which will make him have a sense of pride and superiority. At the same time, you should also properly guide him to become a better person, and two good people will appreciate each other. Therefore, you need to show your cute and excellent side gracefully, but also praise his advantages and give a little stimulation and advice to help the other party become better.
Fourth, skillfully maintain connections
Your departure, thus to a large extent aroused the curiosity of the other party, so in the future he interacted with you is very likely, you have to know that just broke up he called to ask you about the latest situation, just want to understand how you are doing, not want to get back together with you, so at this time can not be impatient, cleverly maintain the connection between you!
For his initial communication attempts, do not show cheers, but respond politely, grasp the scale and rhythm of communication, and maintain a sense of mystery and distance! There is hope that there is contact, he has opened a door and a window for you, it depends on how you push it open, walk in, feeling this kind of thing, cut and sorted out, no one can casually forget the other person.
He broke up with you, maybe not because he didn't love, but because he couldn't find a reason to continue, there are thousands of reasons for breaking up, and you all have to stand farther away to see the truth. And as the saying goes, distance produces beauty, temporarily return to the position of ordinary friends, there is nothing wrong, but you can give love a holiday.