The water is silent, and the people are steady.
Mature people, like autumn wheat, bow their heads and be silent; naïve people, with their rhetoric, hold their heads high and look no one in sight.
In the Internet age, to see a person clearly, as long as you open the circle of friends, you will know. The words and pictures left behind can best represent a person's true psychology; seemingly unintentional actions can best gain insight into the situation of life.
Generally speaking, the more incompetent people, the more they like to send these five kinds of circle of friends dynamics, and people with ability never send it.
01
Vent your emotions every day and spit in the circle of friends.
Emotions are the most useless things, and if you don't restrain them, you will be troubled by emotions. Every day there are bad emotions, you will lose your temper when you go out, and you will encounter torrential rain as soon as you go out.
It is a quality to have emotions and not to influence others; to vent emotions in the circle of friends every day is a lack of morality.
Think about it, when your relatives and friends open the circle of friends, see several dynamics in a row, are ruining the mood, he will definitely feel that life is bad, and then disappointed in his friends.
There is a children's story: a frog is very depressed because he did not see the sunrise, and when he meets a butterfly, he does not say "hello"; the butterfly thinks that he has offended the frog, it is very uncomfortable, and when he meets a rabbit, he does not say "hello". Just like that, three small animals, a day is very uncomfortable.
In the evening, the frog saw the sunset and the sunset in the sky, suddenly remembered something, quickly found the butterfly, and said "Butterfly fairy, how are you." The butterfly was very happy and said to the rabbit, "Mr. Rabbit, you are so beautiful." Suddenly, everyone was happy.
Joe Girard, a famous American salesman, said: "The weak let the mind control the behavior, and the strong let the behavior control the emotions." ”
Really don't, spread your emotions to others, don't spit on the circle of friends.
02
Tout their achievements and show off their "unwarranted" wealth.
Bacon said: "The good ones who show off are despised by the wise men, admired by the foolish, flattered by the wicked, and at the same time they are slaves to the words they boast about." ”
Showing off yourself is actually the arrogant behavior of Ye Lang, and it is not really a huge achievement.
For example, a person who often goes fishing, occasionally catches a big fish of more than ten pounds, he thinks of himself as a "fishing master", and everyone says how good his skills are. What is even more incredible is that people who have never caught a big fish shoot other people's fish and turn it into a capital to show off.
The wise are low-key, the foolish are high-profile. Those unwarranted achievements, ostensibly putting gold on their faces, are actually smears.
03
Endlessly troublesome others and take advantage of friends.
I have a friend who does micro-business and sends dozens of updates every day.
Because of my friend's face, I have not blocked him. But in recent days, I have decisively blocked him. Because after he sent the circle of friends, he "forced" me to see, he wanted his own ads, more clicks, and got a lot of likes.
For the sake of "false prosperity", always troublesome friends, disgusting.
There are also some people, after sending out advertisements, let all relatives and friends leave messages, touting how good this product is, "fake and real, shoddy"
Occasionally in the circle of friends to accumulate praise, but also interactive entertainment, endless trouble with others, which must be hidden in the unseemly things, need to be respected, not to mention can not be used.
04
He likes to climb the dragon and attach the phoenix, and associates himself with the rich and famous.
I have no ability, but I regard the ability of others as my skill, which is the behavior of "fox fake tiger power".
The day before yesterday, the cousin of the classmate won the third prize in the local singing competition. Classmates bragged in the circle of friends that his family, and a certain singer are relatives, have received many care and guidance. After a while, the cousin will also go to the province to compete, and the chance of winning the prize has reached 80%.
A star who can't hit a piece of eight rods is pulled by his classmates and becomes his own family.
Lin Yutang said: "Have the courage to be your true self, stand alone, and don't want to be someone else." ”
Exposing one's connections may be used by people with bad intentions. People with brains should not expose their connections.
People who have no ability, by climbing the dragon and attaching themselves to the phoenix, take false connections as their skills.
05
Not eating grapes says grapes are sour, saying demeaning words to others.
I don't know when it started, people with poor hearts like to hate officials and hate the rich. He will not look for ways for others to get rich, will not take the initiative to learn other people's wealth sutra, but is just jealous of others' luck.
The idea of pulling others into the water seems clever, but it is actually a manifestation of "dirt" hidden in the heart.
For example, in the unit, the people around him were promoted, and everyone said words of congratulations. He suddenly said, what is remarkable.
Society will not be absolutely fair, but it will certainly be relatively fair. As long as you work tirelessly, you can stand in a good position and sit on an equal footing with high people. Unfortunately, such a truth has become a perverse reason in the hearts of people who have no ability.
06
Conclusion.
How to send a circle of friends is the most attractive?
In psychology, there is a branch called "healthy psychology", which means that all aspects of psychology and the process of activity are in a good or normal state.
No matter what happens and how difficult it is in the moment, you can keep your personality intact, intellectually normal, cognitively correct, emotionally appropriate, reasonably willed, positive in attitude, appropriate in behavior, and well-adapted.
Actively improve the cognition of society, control their emotional reactions, maintain strong willpower, and know how to regulate the mentality at the critical time. Maintain mental balance at all times.
If you don't have the ability, you really don't have to complain or elevate yourself. Let yourself have a healthy psychology, accept reality, take the trough as a place to rise, inspire yourself with positive energy, use kindness to move others, and get help from others.
A person's real ability is not to talk, but to say less and do more, and to work hard.
A person's true ability is to be humble and respected.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.