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As the saying goes: "Greed is cheap, eat big losses." ”
In the eyes of ordinary people, taking advantage of things is not worthy of admiration. Being a person requires generosity, and all unjust gains cannot be desired.
Scottish historians have said: "The bravery we hope for and praise is not to die with dignity, but to live courageously." ”
When a person enters old age and his life has gone downhill, he will find that the real decency is to live well, and to think from multiple angles about the idea of "taking advantage". Grasp the scale, cheap things, do not occupy the white.
The following kinds of cheapness can be taken advantage of, and taken for granted. As the saying goes, you are not embarrassed, it is someone else who is embarrassed. Don't think about it, make yourself happy, and the days will be smooth.
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Take advantage of your children, and neither of you will feel guilty.
There is a saying in the Cai Gen Tan: "The Father is kind and filial to the son, even if it is appropriate to do so to the extreme, he must not have the slightest thought of gratitude." ”
Parents give a lot to their children, and when their children grow up and become adults, they should "ask" for returns. Whether it is financial difficulties or sickness difficulties, they all need to be cared for by children. Feeding and feeding back are all deserved, not "courtesy exchanges".
After reading a message, an old grandmother in Zhuzhou is more than eighty years old. She said on an online platform: "I live a very lonely life, and my children are not around. After a lifetime of hard work, I sent my son to Guangzhou and my daughter to the United States, and they were all very busy. In the past, my children said that my meals were well cooked, but now I don't want to eat them myself. ”
After reading Grandma's words, do you feel that the children are too prominent, and none of them can be relied on.
In fact, whether the old man is doing well or not, there is a more important factor - stubbornness. Many elderly people are not willing to bother their children, preferring to be wronged themselves.
Children take their parents to the big city to live, the old man is unwilling; ask for a nanny for the old man, the old man is afraid of spending money... Coming and going, the old man's loneliness and loneliness are actually self-inflicted, and you can't always say "children are not grateful."
In the TV series "Thirty Only", Gu Jia's father pulled his daughter up alone and suffered a lot. Gu Jia wanted to take her father to her side to live together and take care of it. The father stubbornly wants to go to the nursing home, making it difficult for the daughter to be a person.
When people are old and should trouble their children, they should say it generously, don't be embarrassed.
Taking advantage of children is actually giving children more opportunities for filial piety. Lest they leave behind the regret that "the son wants to be nurtured but does not wait, and the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop."
In ordinary life, the clothes sent by children should not be put away, they should be worn; the money given by children should be spent, and should not be saved all the time; children should call, don't be impatient, don't worry about phone bills; grandchildren send things to you, and then continue, don't be embarrassed.
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Take advantage of your lover and live together.
Tu Lei, the teacher of love, said: "You can look down on the whole world, but the only thing you can't look down on is your lover, because it is the two of you who want to hold the hand of your son for a lifetime." ”
What does it mean to hold the hand of a son? It's not as simple as holding hands, it's about telling us that whatever's in the house can be shared. It doesn't matter whether the thing is in the left hand or in the right hand.
If you divide your left and right hands too clearly, you will be particularly uncomfortable.
The Ming Dynasty literary scholar Feng Menglong wrote such a story: During the Song Dynasty, there was a woman named Xin Yaoqin, who was separated from her parents for many years because of the war. She went to Lin'an alone and was sold to qinglou by a neighbor.
In order to survive, Xin Yaoqin endured her grievances and tried to ask the rich man for gold and silver treasures. A few years later, she left the Qinglou, married a young man who sold oil, and gave all the money to the young man.
People are selfish, but two people who love each other want to be selfless. If not, there would be no way to live. Even if you save money for your own house, it is to leave a way out for the family, not to escape the family.
Therefore, between husband and wife, learning to take advantage is actually the embodiment of sincere love and frankness.
Yours and mine are indistinguishable, like two fish, leaning on each other, keeping each other moist, staying up together in a hard life, and living a good life together.
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Taking advantage of "living habits" is a manifestation of thrift and thrift.
One of my neighbors, Uncle Huang, goes out at six o'clock every afternoon and goes to the supermarket to pick up "leftovers."
Some people joked that Uncle Huang had a pension and slammed the door so much.
Uncle Huang said, "What do you know?" When you don't have any money on hand, you will know what is the benefit of cutting the door. ”
Originally, a few yuan a pound of dishes, to Uncle Huang's place, it was only half price or less. It is this one, Uncle Huang can save five or six hundred a month.
Taking advantage of the supermarket, on the surface is very embarrassing, but in fact, it is a manifestation of living a life.
Young people do not have time to choose things, but the elderly are relatively idle, avoid going out to shop during peak periods, and when there are few people, picking cheap things is "more than one swoop".
Zhuge Liang once said: "Quiet to cultivate the body, thrift to cultivate morality." ”
Thrifty and thrifty old man, high morals, everywhere he goes, is very decent. Whether he left his money to his children or to the poor, it was worthy of praise.
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In "Cai Gen Tan", it is said: "Scholars have a conscientious mind, but also have a period of dashing fun." ”
True learning requires serious thinking, positive action, and an extraordinary mind to understand in an eclectic way. In this way, the more knowledge you have, the more flavorful life will be.
Therefore, when we see the three words "taking advantage", we must not only immediately think of various traps, but also see the benefits.
Of course, we must understand that everything has a degree, and excessive is harmful. It is okay to take advantage of it, but it is not possible to get cheap and sell well, let alone fall into the trap of cheapness.
May you and I, a cheap life, also live a noble life.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.