Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong's divorce drama has been very lively in the past few days. It turned out that after Wang Lihong responded to the first wave, he was still waiting for him to respond in detail.
As a result, before Wang Lihong could further explain in detail, Li Lianglei dismantled it repeatedly, beating Wang Lihong without the ability to fight back. Finally, he tried to end everything with a simple paragraph, claiming that "no more explanations and justifications will be made" Since Wang Lihong's divorce, this statement has been the second time, and I don't know if Wang Lihong is "wolf coming" again this time, and whether there is a follow-up confrontation between the two sides.
However, Wang Lihong's abrupt style of playing is really a bit out of the ordinary. Will you respond one by one if you say yes?
Li Hong, do you know that your way of never giving a specific explanation is the most hated by girls. In addition to Li Lianglei, there are at least two actresses waiting for you to respond, have you forgotten?
Xu Ruoxuan publicly shouted for clarification from her husband so that her husband would not be suspicious.
By2 Sun Yu claims to be your former legitimate girlfriend, and nine years later, he still can't get a public certification from you, is it a little too miserable? You go against the grain and say, "Arguing about the past is meaningless," will make people instantly angry.
Of course, the parties chose a truce, and we ate melons and the masses did not understand it, and there was no way. However, in the light of what we have seen so far, there are also some interesting phenomena worth pondering.
Clearly define emotional manipulation and break the first shot of mental inhibition
During this time, from "Female Psychologist" to "Sleeping Garden", the film and television dramas on the theme of psychologists are very popular. The divorce drama between Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong also makes their story have some unique colors because both parties have seen psychologists. Today, Li Lianglei used the psychological term "emotional manipulation (gaslighting)" to fight back, and suddenly raised the height of the whole thing.
Who would have thought that eating a melon would still encounter a psychological proposition? There is no doubt that there is a real concern for human mental health. From the discussion of facts to the speculation that rises to philosophy, it has to be said that among all the celebrities' divorce melons, the pair of Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong is really unique.
Regarding "emotional manipulation", in fact, it has appeared in many emotional disputes, but we have eaten melon so many times, this concept is still the first time it has been clearly put forward. Leaving aside the writing for the time being, Li Lianglei is already different from other parties.
Men who fight divorce are often better at using this "emotional manipulation" to degrade the woman's personality and suppress the woman's self-confidence. And then by creating human design and mental mechanisms, it is often possible to conquer invincible and invincible, and ordinary people have no way to take them.
I don't know, these people are the monsters in the middle of the external strength. This time, Li Lianglei responded with psychological terminology and pointed out the man's language routine to the point. This caused Wang Lihong to surrender again. Netizens translated Wang Lihong's latest post: Don't dare to sharpen your mouth, please don't hammer.
I have to say that even if Li Lianglei is not a perfect victim, her dismantling of these routines is also the first time in the entertainment industry to divorce, which is equivalent to defeating magic with magic, which is really wonderful! At the same time, she did this, but also for other women in the emotional PUA, has a certain enlightenment effect, Li Lianglei in this divorce incident brought positive significance, has not only in the personal rights protection.
Logical trap: I don't talk to you about things, I just want to ask you why you scolded my mother
So how to understand "emotional manipulation" in layman's terms? Share a very common scene, men and women quarrel, but where girls are angry but scold a dirty word, it is over. Nine times out of ten men begin to endlessly scold you for this and start beating you to settle accounts. He will repeatedly ask you why you scolded the mother, as for the original thing, everything is covered, and everything has become the woman's fault. Isn't that infuriating?
To paraphrase the words of The Sleeping Garden, that's it
Explain in words that netizens understand, that's how you talk to him east, he talks to you about west, and at the end he's tired, a sentence sends you away, and the explanation you want will never be solved. Jimei, look at these descriptions, is the fist going to be hard.
He just sang "Descendants of the Dragon", but she was really Japanese!
Of course, the most terrible thing is the transfer of contradictions. They often use some absolute justice to achieve their goal of suppressing each other. Raise the contradictions of the family to the contradictions of the nation, use the patriotic feelings of simple netizens and the hatred of gender antagonisms, so that their personal contradictions are diluted to the greatest extent, so that the public opinion cannon is aimed at the woman, and they successfully get rid of the golden cicada.
Smart as Wang Lihong, in fact, he also secretly poked and poked to make this kind of conspiracy that many men are accustomed to.
Looking at the long articles he posted, it was really very confusing. The humility of the words, the thoughtfulness of the thought, is not this still the high-quality idol that once was? Who would have thought that netizens were eating Wang Lihong's overturned melon, but Wang Lihong himself was still addicted to maintaining the human design?
It wasn't until he accidentally revealed Li Lianglei's original name that his intentions were recognized. It turned out that he wanted to tell everyone about Li Lianglei's nationality! All torn up, there is spare time for the big guy science popularization, it is really hard wang big brother.
However, fortunately, most netizens are not stupid. How the top stream of the Zhang surname was blocked is still in front of us. Everyone's attitude towards a certain country is obvious to all. Students trapped in one room still have a patriotic traffic code. Not to mention the male stars who have many military divisions around them? Unfortunately, people are not as good as heavenly calculations, Wang Lihong himself is an American, born with insufficient confidence, it is really a laughing skr person.
However, both people are foreigners, which is Li Lianglei's luck. If Wang Lihong is not, what will be the result? I'm afraid it will make him succeed again. Therefore, he played Li Lianglei's original name, which is really a very sinister move.
What's even more frightening is that Wang Lihong and his father also have a Shang fang sword. That is, husband and wife, the man will say the golden sentence: woman, greedy for money, she is for money.
As soon as this word came out, it was simply invincible. Public opinion generally turns to the man. No matter how much the woman says, it will be like falling into a trap, and it will be difficult to exonerate.
Fortunately, this time netizens have awakened. They have said bluntly, divorce does not talk to you about money, what to talk about? More netizens sent long articles to explain the legitimacy of divorce and money. Talking about money is only one of the rituals that must be done in divorce, and it is the financial support that full-time mothers should receive to have children, rather than being confused with private morality alone in an attempt to occupy the high ground of public opinion.
I have to say that under the double insurance, It is really not easy for Li Lianglei to break through Wang Lihong's double-sided attack. This is inseparable from the rational support of netizens.
summary:
This time, Li Lianglei ended the farce centered on their husband and wife with a seemingly all-win record. However, the suffering she suffered in this married life will take a long time to be healed. We can't say she's a perfect person, but we can't ignore the positive significance that comes with her.
We can't help all those who are trapped in "emotional manipulation", but I hope that the netizens who are watching her can break the inhibition of thinking and not let themselves fall into self-doubt when facing difficulties in the future.
I also hope that netizens will not be fooled by people again. Family affairs should not rise to the level of state, and talking about money is not an original sin. Affirmation and respect in the family, the party who gives more physically and mentally, is the basis for cultivating the underlying goodness of people, and it is also the beginning of empathy.
In fact, a lot of entanglements, but one feels taken for granted, one feels unfair. Before I had time to understand, let alone appease, I staged similar dramas again and again. When we can't find the superficial truth, it may be good to realize that "nothing is wrong" is just a false proposition.