I know a couple, formerly an unshakable Dink family, the two children have not been pregnant with children until their forties, both of them have a very high income, and their lives are very leisurely.
One day, this husband suddenly changed his mind, saying that people must have children to live a lifetime. That's easy to say, but the daughter-in-law is already in her forties, and it is not so easy to have a baby at this age.
Painstakingly gave birth to a girlfriend, the husband and feel that a son and a daughter are perfect, need to fight again, well, the second child under the twin daughter, this older mother, the energy of giving birth to twins can not catch up, you can imagine how difficult and uncomfortable it is. Until the birth of the third child, i gave birth to a little boy, the Dink family who persevered for decades, and finally exchanged for 4 children, but the daughter-in-law in her forties also gave birth to children at an older age, and her body became more and more specially poor, and in the future, she needed to face the hardships of taking care of 4 children.
How do you feel after listening to it? Accountable for that regretful husband? Man's mind can change, and the decisions of his youth are likely to be abolished in the next few decades, but the daughter-in-law's body is greatly affected by his unshakable. There is no doubt that according to the relevant survey and analysis, the higher the income of the family, the greater the proportion of the Dink family, and the more developed the economic development, the greater the proportion of the Dink family. As everyone knows, how much does Dinkel regret in his home for decades? Do you know? Eighty percent.
Of course, this is not a criticism of the Dink family, whether childbearing is a self-decision, respect and wishes, just the original pursuit of perfect freedom of people, why do many people finally go back to the direction of succession?
Economist Chu Yin said 1 ideological point of view, the Dink people hone their human nature, depending on the resistance of human nature, many people often fail miserably. An obstetrician and gynecologist told a true story, when he was diagnosed before surgery, the obstetrics and gynecology department reached a 43-year-old mother, that is her first child, when it came to why she was so old to conceive a baby, the pregnant mother sighed and said, originally the two sons are always a Dink family, one day, the nephew came to visit the home, said aunt, your building is too big, in the future when you are old, is this building all belong to me? The speaker has no heart, the smeller has a heart, why does a child say these words when he is young? I think that the parents of the children will often say so, and when the uncles and aunts die in the future, this building will belong to you, after all, they have no children, and if the property is not donated, there is no doubt that it will be handed over to the nephew. The nephew said that more often, and they gradually considered the future problems. After deciding to simply have 1 child of its own, in the past did not seriously consider the problem of pension and death, suddenly more and more serious, you are helpless, when you are old, time will leak the most cruel aspect, the darkness of human nature is highlighted.
I learned that some people will argue that children born on their own may not be filial to their parents, and some children still expect their parents to die. This is also an accident, and it is also a matter of children's education. If you have children and daughters who are still living in a nursing home, you will see that you still have a chip. Leaving aside this past view of succession, the existence of children is actually a kind of containment. First of all, look at 1 set of data information, in 2018, the bed vacancy of China's community pension service organization exceeded 9.14 million, and the corresponding pension service nursing staff position should exceed 656 to 7.13 million, but at this stage, the vacancy of China's elderly care worker is 4 million to 6 million. It means that a caregiver has to take care of several elderly people, urinate and urinate, feed, slick, wipe the body, and they do those trivial and complicated tasks over and over again, with a very small salary, which will of course cause negative emotions. In fact, the elderly who have children and daughters will have fear, and those who are filial to their parents will come to the door to protect their parents, and the noise is too big for all the homes for the elderly to bear. Children who are not filial to their parents, even if they can blackmail some money, will make them ignore three, seven or twenty-one, and the helpless old man will become the final soft persimmon.
The nursing staff once said that whether you live in a nursing home with three thousand yuan in January or a nursing home with more than 10,000 yuan, all of them are cared for by the nursing staff who have a monthly salary of more than 1,000 yuan, and they only enjoy the welfare treatment of 1,500 yuan. The elderly home will file the information content of the elderly, the above clearly records what kind of position to practice, whether the elderly have children, the recent visit time period, which is a principle with the nursery to record the position of parents and mothers, which is also a principle of them to see people under the dish, purely different, the nursing home is also an hour generation, anyone here follows the law of the jungle, even if your children are not filial to their parents. But their existence is actually 1 kind of coping force, you can not bully others, but you can make yourself not so good to oppress.
But in general, people come to this day with hope, and they also want to walk through this life with face and self-respect. The most critical thing is. You need to figure out what kind of life you need to live and whether you have the belief to follow through. Some people have a lifetime of Dink, happy and happy to old age, some people are full of children and grandchildren, lonely for a lifetime, whether the Dink family, just have the opportunity to be responsible for their own future, but also responsible for the people they like is no longer a problem. After all, there is almost no fixed choice in the path of life, and I don't want to regret it.