At 23:08 on December 17, 2021, Li Lianglei posted nearly 5,000 words on Weibo to expose the real reason for her divorce from Wang Lihong, which surprised netizens. The full text of Weibo is as follows:
First of all, I want to thank every one of you who is willing to take the time to write a warm message that cares about me. My heart was heavy, so I haven't been able to answer them all. I want to let you know first that it may be a small gesture for you, but it means a lot to me. Thank you for giving me great comfort and strength during the most difficult times of my life.
Writing this letter was the most difficult decision I've ever made... Life is really not easy. I think that only by facing it with such courage and frankness can everything return to zero, and we can have our own chances of rebirth. I also hope that my sharing can bring you who are deeply involved in it or who are about to step into this journey to have some reflections.
When I stepped into marriage I thought we would be family for the rest of our lives, so I gave everything I had for our family wholeheartedly. Because you are ten years older than me and want to have many children, one after another, so I give up my work and my personal life, and everything is centered on you and the children. Most of the time we got married, I was either trying to conceive, getting pregnant, or breastfeeding and parenting after childbirth, and in the process of experiencing a lot of changes in my body and mind, most of which I faced alone. Of course, I also like children, and I myself have to promise to give birth, but if I had known that after I gave birth to these three children, you would have left our family because I wanted to live a "single" life, and I would need to live a pseudo-single life with three children, and I would not agree. You also know very well that my biggest dream from childhood to adulthood is to form a harmonious family so that my children can grow up in a complete and loving family. But, I have no regrets, because our three children are my everything, which is God's greatest grace.
Modern women, unlike the women of the past, do not have the opportunity to educate, and have no choice but to take on the role of wife and mother in the family. We are fortunate to have the opportunity to receive higher education, have knowledge, knowledge, and also have the opportunity to see, have the ability to make a living, and can also contribute to society. Women, both in the past and in modern times, choose to be housewives who give their all for their families, although in essence they are "unpaid" jobs. However, this is only the assignment of family members' roles, and it is also an important support for the family, even a year-round, 24-hour multiple role (e.g., nanny/teacher/cleaning aunt/driver/manager/partner/special assistant, etc.). The salary for this job should be added to the opportunity cost of not going out to work at your ability. This should be the remuneration that all housewives deserve through their own efforts, not by gifts or alms. The person assigned to this role should not be entitled to never have the financial capacity or savings, and the party who works outside the home should not receive all the benefits and rights. This will form an unequal relationship, but also make women in a weak position, even if the boy cheats or domestic violence, it is difficult to have a voice.
I think this is something that our generation needs to reflect on together. Many of the housewives around me do not have their own savings or income in their households, and they usually feel embarrassed to use the money earned by my husband, and I will look at my husband's face with money, and I will never dare to say that I want to take care of my parents. If women talk about money, they will be condemned by our society as a city servant or question whether they are gold-worshiping women, but just trying to make money for boys. Women who have long been family-oriented and have not worked outside the home are usually overwhelmed if they have done nothing wrong but are forced to divorce because the man has no legitimate reason. So girls! Be sure to take precautions, I never thought I would experience this, and you may feel like I can't! But it's not wrong to plan for the future of yourself and your children!
Married to you for so many years and constantly suspected by you and your family: Humiliation and cold violence. At the beginning, I was forced to sign an unequal prenuptial agreement, you want to protect your premarital property, I can understand and fully accept, but the marital property is our common effort, but also we each do a good job and get it, the house is in your name, the car is in your mother's name, the property transfer is very clean, I am afraid that I will take any "advantage" of you. Of course, you don't give less food and clothing for children, but over the years, I have never used your money to buy any luxury goods and live a simple life. Even I am the only one around you who encourages you not to take business performances, shows, or advertisements in order to make money, life is very short and only do what you love. Spend all your time doing music healing for everyone... Changing the world is your mission and only you can do it. There is no shortage of money in our family, and we do not need a more luxurious life. Why should I be subjected to the suspicion and humiliation of you and my family for a long time? The person who now has all your money and doesn't let you use and provoke us is not me. I know it will make you angry, but I sincerely want you to open your eyes and see clearly. I know that you have been depressed because you want to be smooth to the point of lying on the ground for a few days and can't move, and I have seen you lose a lot of important things in your life because you want to be smooth, and at the age of 37 you still can't make any decisions on your own, and you feel very depressed and powerless, unable to do what you want to do, unable to control your work, feelings, or finances. You complained to me for help, I reached out, I simply thought I was saving the person I loved, but then I looked back and found that I was just a pawn in your hand, and you used my compassion and love for you to make me your shield. You hide behind me and use me little by little to help you regain the rights you want, in the process you are white-faced and I am black-faced. To seize power, for me there is no benefit, the beneficiary is only you. You are the boss, and all business decisions are made directly by you, because the people who are obligated to help you because you have needs are only in the middle of the execution.
Chilling is that in the end, you say, I want you to believe you, you say it's up to you to speak, you will protect us, you and your team are fully prepared for marketing/commenting/manipulating media and theory. The result? You, only protect yourself. You used your connections and media connections to use me as a shield to protect yourself by attacking me. You are the one who did the wrong thing, but my mother and I carried all the arguments and negative news, and you were alone. I asked you if you could help me clarify that these news are not facts, you said, because you have said in the statement that you will not respond, so it is not convenient to make any more responses, and I understand. outcome.. After an hour of brushing the news, what you see is that you have been derailed, and you immediately make a big move to clarify yourself. It turns out that we are the only ones in your mouth, not us. You say that your reputation is precious, have you ever thought that a woman's reputation is also precious. I still have a long life to live. You have always been the one who protects you the most, will not say a bad word about you, and I will never say much about my family and good friends. But in order to preserve your own high-quality image, you do not hesitate to create rumors and slander me, you use the same routine, hiding behind relatives and friends through them to bully me in various ways, just because if the problem is not on me, but you decide to leave irresponsibly, you can not maintain your high-quality image.
I won't help you carry your cross again. At that time, Wu XX was also a clarification of the big move, and the results were obvious to everyone. You and she have no unusual relationship, and the two of you have a psychological number. The relationship between men and women in showbiz and your three views also subvert my insights, objects /former objects / and their friends, everyone... All are "good friends". Knowing you at the age of 16, thinking back on everything in the past 20 years, suddenly became clear, everything was traceable, but I turned a blind eye. I was a minor, you were 26 years old, you asked me on the phone, said I was beautiful, my speech was ambiguous, and it was more than an hour to talk to me on the phone. In the years since, you and I have often flown, and we have occasionally met in the same city. I remember once you asked me to watch a movie, we sat in the front, and when we left the scene, we found that your gossip girlfriend was sitting at the back of the movie hall, and we watched the same movie together. Later, when you were still dating your ex-girlfriend, you called me at two o'clock in the middle of the night and asked me if I wanted to go to your house to sleep with you. I thought it was strange to refuse, but I didn't think much about it. You said then you came out to find me, and that night we were out chatting until the morning. I also found out later that you were still with your ex-girlfriend. Later after you broke up we met again in the same city, you were considerate to me, helped me with my bag, took me out to play, we got along very well, and then you took my hand. Because you're a quality idol, I don't have any wariness, we naturally got together and had a relationship. The next morning you said you didn't want to talk about feelings.
I had never encountered such a thing, and I was surprised at the time, but at the same time, because you also sincerely shared with me a lot of your loneliness and inner secrets. I thought that your image was so good, it should be hurt by something to do so. So we are actually in love like the average couple, can be together, connect all day without being in the same city, have a lot of good times, and will say I love you, just no name. You said that you weren't with anyone else either, and just didn't want to talk about feelings for a while. It turns out that in fact, characters like me, you have such "friends" in many cities. You have also been photographed taking girls home for the night, and you have also been photographed summoning prostitutes, in fact, these have real hammer films, girls clearly say your floor and household name, out of the elevator also turn left into your home, these you also have to admit to me. You admit that these are your problems and you have no way to control yourself. I proposed separation, and you called for a few weeks to say that you would not be like this again, and that I would be your "only" in the future, and we would slowly move towards the road of forming a family together. One day you didn't call me at the end of your Shanghai concert, and you couldn't find you in the morning. Later, it was found that you had been drinking and partying with your gun buddies all night, and you had also taken pictures of various milk stickers and lip licking. After the marriage is also a continuous exchange, you already have me, received a series of nude photos from her to congratulate you on your birthday, but also a happy response, promised me that I will not come back and forth, but also from time to time to find you coming and going, but also continued to pass some ambiguous messages, once the business performance with her did not want me to go with, and then she also sent ig about you, called you "Honghong" and deleted. There is a girl who is also your gun buddy, and she is married and has children and wants you to cheat on her husband with her. Your past of dating makes me feel uncomfortable, because the girls you get along with after our marriage are all kinds of seduction to you, you are also enthusiastic response, if you are frank, you really don't need to lie to her husband. I said I felt uncomfortable and normal social connections were acceptable, but I would feel uncomfortable inviting her to our house, could I not? You are very angry about this, saying that after that, you will not have to hold a Christmas party, and even if you know that you have violated the law, you will "rush to her house to find her party." I was pregnant and about to give birth, and your dance teacher "friend" summoned you to say he was sad to think you were together. Another female "friend" also heard us crying together in front of me for an hour and said that she also thought you were together. Later, I found out that you recorded the characteristics of various prostitutes you recruited, including several staff members who looked like us. Even after going through so many things like that, I am still willing to choose to forgive you and accompany you, just in another way, not to expect to change you, to let you live the lifestyle you want freely, I quit your life, I took the children at home waiting for you, and when you want to come back to meet us, I don't argue with you. But you still have to leave selfishly, the reason is that because if you meet a girl you like, you don't want her to be wronged and said to be a little third, so you are determined to divorce. If I don't want to divorce, you will try to bully me in all kinds of ways, even humiliate me, and fabricate facts in front of relatives and friends to slander me.
I have given you everything you want, even if you are no longer irresponsible and ridiculous, I have not even said anything more about the relatives and friends around me, the same smiling face, gentle and firm to guard our family, only hope that my forbearance and forgiveness can be exchanged for family harmony, children can grow up in a harmonious and happy family. The result is your absence. The absence of children's birthdays, the absence of important holidays. Every time I left for several months, I watched my child cry in my arms with broken hearts, and my heart was broken. I found that my repeated insincerity was just a bad example for our daughters: I thought it would bring happiness to the children, but it turned out that it was only in exchange for their gains and losses: Disappointment after disappointment. As long as it is something that cares, there will be time. To paraphrase Mrs. Science: Absent people always have excuses. Love and care are expressed in deeds. You said you loved me, you say you loved children, I heard, but I didn't see. Love and care are reflected in behavior, not in words.
One of the reasons I decided to stand up was that I didn't want girls to go through the same thing as me, and I felt that the world needed more reflection. Powerful people have always manipulated the media, and the media has manipulated the masses, leading to deviations in social values and controlled discourse. Although this industry is very large, I sincerely hope that in the future, powerful people can be prohibited from controlling and arguing through marketing and maintaining their own personalities, so that public figures can be presented to the public in their true appearance and the facts can be seen. I also feel that I have a social responsibility to confirm that others will not follow in my footsteps without my knowledge, and that I have the same experience.
Finally, with regard to crowding in, I will not choose to be friends with anyone or not be friends because of my identity, and I will not "rely on him" to get my current life. I don't need to, and I won't suffer any humiliation in order to take the living expenses with him in the future (although I deserve it, but I don't, thank you). I can raise my children well by my own efforts.
You said you wish I could not ruin your acting career, I want to say that I never wanted to do it, so I endured until now, and I am also very heartbroken to need to go this far. But if your acting career is affected, it's the choices you make, not me. I want us all to be born again and be all right. You can get rid of the habit of not being healthy for you physically and mentally, focus on your music, fame and fortune and all kinds of objects can not bring you your true happiness, only take you to a bottomless abyss: I hope you can also be honest with yourself, don't care about the world's eyes, and be with the right people.
From now on, I will be kind to myself, I will be born again, and I will be the strongest reliance and the best example for children, so that they know that even if they fall to the bottom of their lives, they can get up again on their own strength.
Walk to the end of the water and sit and watch the clouds rise. In the abyss, every day after today, it will only get better and better. This sentence encourages you and encourages all of you who are experiencing the tribulations of life. May we believe that Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it
The days ahead will not be easy, but I will rely on God and the light in the depths of the tunnel, and every one of you who is with me, to bravely go step by step. If you're also going through it, I hope we can communicate and share strength with each other.
Thank you for taking the time to read the full text. Hopefully, this article will have a little inspiration and meaning for your life, and maybe this is also the meaning of my experience.
Li Lianglei
Late at night eating melon, Li Lianglei's sister's text made people tear up. However, as long as you try to confess yesterday, you will definitely be able to climb back out of the quagmire! I wish that all women can have a broad vision and a strong heart, can endure loneliness and hardships to make a living, but also can bravely seek love, do not compete for dust and warmth, and are not afraid of sorrow and joy.