8 years ago, Wang Lihong flashed li lianglei, an outsider in the marriage circle, which was a sensation;
Yesterday, he posted that he had filed for divorce, ending the marriage.
Regarding the reasons for the divorce, Wang Lihong said very decently;
The two have different ideas and plans for the future way of life, so they decided to separate.
Previously, there were media reports that the last straw that crushed this 8-year marriage was the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Exactly which is true and which is false, we have no way of knowing;
But after all, there is no wind and no waves, and the latter is indeed a problem that plagues many families.
I once looked at a set of data online:
55% of married women think they don't get along well enough with their mother-in-law;
41% of men believe they have a mother-in-law problem in their family.
In China, nearly half of couples divorce because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Although the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to be common, if it is not handled well, it will directly lead to the breakdown of the family.
Teacher Wu Zhihong, a psychology expert, said that the "mother-in-law relationship" is a false proposition, and I agree with it.
Because it sounds like a binary relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but it ignores the essence -
This is the triangular relationship between mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and son;
And the core of this triangular relationship is not the mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, but the son.
It could even be said:
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and the problem is all in the child's father.
There was a variety show before, called "My Favorite Women";
Record and observe the daily interaction of the four groups of families.
Among them, Zhong Liti's mother-in-law has been on several hot searches in a row.
Their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law always give people the feeling that they do not get along well;
But the essential reason is that Zhang Lunshuo does not know how to be a smart husband.
Because of the problem of taking a bath to cover the camera, he complained mercilessly:
"I don't think about other people at all, I'm really speechless."
After Zhong Liti apologized and said that she would pay attention next time;
Or not to forgive: "What is the use of your attention?" ”
During the interview, he was asked if he was afraid of a conflict between his mother and his wife;
He said, my wife will definitely be able to do it.
Then he calmly did the hand-waving treasurer.
Even complained to her mother, Zhong Liti spent a lot of money:
"My wife goes to the supermarket, and every time the car is full, she buys everything."
Mom said she had reminded her:
"I just told her that you don't spend all this money, you have to live a good life."
There is also obvious dissatisfaction between the lines.
I heard what a father said to his daughter:
"After you get married, you quarrel with him, don't tell me;
Because you'll forgive him, but I won't. ”
The same is true for changing to the man's perspective;
Expressing dissatisfaction with his wife with his mother is the biggest taboo in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Because the mother-in-law's attitude towards her daughter-in-law depends on the attitude expressed by the son;
If you frequently express your dissatisfaction, your mother will definitely have an opinion about your daughter-in-law.
The wise husband is the lubricant of the mother-in-law relationship and the glue of the family;
Instead of fuse, before any one aspect, ignite dissatisfaction with the other.
In this variety show, it can also be seen that Cai Shaofen's mother-in-law is not a good person to get along with;
But she and her daughter-in-law got along more harmoniously.
Zhang Jin is very considerate of his mother, but also very considerate of Cai Shaofen;
When encountering problems, it is often comfortable to be at both ends.
Impartiality, and no argument about right or wrong;
I will not follow my mother to blame my wife, nor will I help my wife blame my mother.
Therefore, there has never been a big contradiction between the Hong Kong daughter-in-law and the Chongqing mother-in-law.
In fact, in the early years, our family also had the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law:
My grandmother, very much disliked my mother.
My mother is full of wind and fire, and she lives a very vigorous life;
But in my grandmother's eyes, it was crazy and unruly.
The two of them together, basically can be said to be incompatible.
My dad didn't stand idly by, but always reconciled.
He never asked my mother to go to my mother-in-law's house;
But every time he went back, he would bring a lot of things and say that she bought them.
Later, slowly, my grandmother would express her concern for my mother's body when my father came home to visit;
And when my mother knitted us scarves, she would also knit one for my grandmother.
In this way, they were connected by my father in this gentle way;
Accepting each other, but also learning how to get along.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a particularly delicate existence;
After all, the two are not related by blood, and the only bond is the husband.
Get along under the same roof, life is often plain, there is no big grievance;
It is one inappropriate speech after another, a small contradiction that is not handled well;
Cumulatively, fermentation becomes a big problem.
In the family, every relationship needs to be run-in.
The mother is the first time to be a mother-in-law, and the wife is also the first time to be a daughter-in-law, and it is inevitable to rub out good or bad sparks.
When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law each hold their own opinions and begin to compete in the open and in the dark;
Husbands should not list themselves as outsiders, or as a meal of mud;
Instead, we should find a balance between first covering up the smell of gunpowder and then extinguishing the flames.
At the beginning of starting a family, everyone is a new identity;
Learn to find the most correct way to adjust and get along.
In this way, the family can be happy.
Source: Want Want House