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Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei are a very loving couple in the entertainment industry, in 2013, Wang Lihong broke out and li Lianglei, an outsider, was married, and in 2015, there were airport staff who revealed that Wang Lihong's wife Li Lianglei changed her name to Wang Lianglei, that is, she was crowned with her husband's surname.
Li Lianglei gave birth to a daughter not long after getting married, and later gave birth to two children in succession, and the two gave birth to three children in 5 years.
I thought that their family of five could live happily for a lifetime, but I did not expect that on December 15, 2021, near New Year's Day, the two after 8 years of marriage were revealed to be divorced, and Wang Lihong also admitted that the two were applying for divorce.
When love comes, it is indeed vigorous, Li Lianglei changed her name to Wang Lianglei when she married Wang Lihong, just like the classic "Titanic", "take your surname, name me" as affectionate, very romantic.
Li Lianglei became a good wife and mother soon after marriage, gave birth to three children for Wang Lihong, and wholeheartedly taught her husband and children at home!
Vigorous love always has to slowly return to a peaceful family life, when returning to family life, there will be a lot of conflicts in the values of the two people's outlook on life, Wang Lihong himself said that there are too many places that have been insufficient in marriage over the years, after all, he is fighting for a career outside, and Li Lianglei herself has children at home, which is indeed very hard.
Divorce is a decision made by two people after they are very deliberate, and the education of children after divorce is the most important.
After the divorce of the husband and wife, these taboos should be avoided, otherwise it will hurt the child's heart
Taboo one: Divorce hides the children
There is a clip in the recent hit TV series "Female Psychologist" that high school student Yuna wants to commit suicide, and the reason why she committed suicide is because her father and mother want to divorce, and her parents are hiding from her, but in fact, she already knows it, she thinks it is her own reason, and uses her own method, with the method of hurting herself, to save her parents, hoping that they will not divorce.
Therefore, after the divorce, if the child has grown up and understands things, they must tell the child truthfully, but when telling the child, they must be more euphemistic, and tell the child in a way that the child accepts.
Taboo two: Say bad things about the other party after divorce
For example, in front of the daughter, say " blame your father is useless, so your mother will divorce him, and you must not marry a man like your father in the future", or "Men are bad, don't be like your mother when looking for a man in the future, polish your eyes, and marry when it is appropriate." ”
Mothers often promote such a concept with their children, which can easily lead to the child's disgust with men in the future, and it is difficult to find a good home after marriage, and it is difficult to have a sense of happiness.
Taboo three: After divorce, do not allow the other party to visit the child
The breakdown of the marital relationship represents the rupture of the relationship between the husband and wife, and does not represent the rupture of the family relationship between the child and the father and mother.
Therefore, no matter which side the child is with, let the child see and talk more with another person, so that the child has a stronger sense of security in his heart, and the child can clearly know that even if the father and mother are separated, it is not that they do not want me, they still care about me, they still love me.
The national average divorce rate in 2020 is 39.33%, and China's divorce rate has risen for 16 consecutive years.
That is, 4 out of every 10 couples are divorced, and one or two of these couples may have children.
It is not terrible to become a child of a single-parent family, the terrible thing is that parents do not pay attention to the child's mental health when educating their children, as long as they pay attention to the child's mental health and give the child unconditional love, the children of single-parent families can also grow up to be very healthy and happy.
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