For new parents, the most devastating thing is when the baby cries. Especially babies under 3 months of age, their expression ability is very weak, and they can only communicate with their parents through crying.
In the CCTV program "Challenge the Impossible", Robert Hamilton, a pediatric expert from the United States with 30 years of experience, said that the challenge is to soothe a crying baby in 5 seconds.
At first, neither the host nor the guests believed it, because almost everyone had had similar experiences. When the baby is crying, no matter what method you use, it will take at least tens of seconds, or even minutes, to get it done. And Dr. Hamilton's challenge of 5 seconds of reassurance is indeed a bit of a distrust.
After the challenge began, the host preferred a baby who cried the most, only to see Dr. Hamilton do a simple 4 steps:
1. Pick up the baby and fold your arms across your chest;
2. Gently hold the baby's arm with one hand and hold the chin up;
3, the other hand to support the diaper, that is, the baby's ass;
4. Tilt towards 45 degrees and shake the baby back and forth.
It lasted less than 5 seconds, and the baby miraculously stopped crying. Immediately after, the same method was used for several other crying babies, and the same very good soothing effect was achieved.
Experts with 35 years of clinical experience in maternal and child care explain this method:
Babies have memories, and when he is in his mother's belly, he crosses his hands and curls up, tightly wrapped by the womb. When you repeat this action, the baby recalls how he feels in his mother's belly and will feel safe, so he will stop crying.
Of course, this method is only suitable for babies under 3 months of age. Because when the baby is older, their weight increases, their emotions are rich, and their previous memories are gradually blurred, and when they use this method, the effect is not so good.
Babies crying is a way to communicate with their parents
Newborns cry for an average of 1 to 4 hours a day, and they are using their cries to talk about their needs, such as: sleepy, hungry, painful, uncomfortable, and so on. To achieve "effective reassurance", it is still necessary to continue to judge the real needs of the baby.
1, hungry
When the baby is hungry, the crying is not slow or urgent, it is more rhythmic, and the mouth will make a sucking action. When you put your hand around his mouth, he will immediately turn his face around and suck or stick out his tongue to lick your fingers. If so, feed your baby quickly, and after eating, your baby will become quiet.
2. Flatulence
Flatulence is a common cause of crying in babies, usually after feeding, crying is more urgent, crying for a while. If this is the case, you can massage your baby's abdomen, or let him lie flat on the bed, then grab his feet and do a cycling motion, which will soon relieve flatulence.
3, sleepy
Babies don't actually have the ability to fall asleep on their own, and when they're sleepy, they need their mother's appeasement or sleep. The baby is sleepy: yawning, rubbing his eyes, no energy, poor concentration. The solution is to take the baby to a quiet environment and then pat him on the back to soothe him to sleep.
4, pull stinky stink
If your baby's diapers or diapers are dirty, you will immediately feel uncomfortable, such as frowning, body twisting, and kicking on the quilt with your legs, which is the baby telling the mother that I need to change the diaper. Just change the diaper and your baby will be able to recover immediately. Your baby's skin is very sensitive, and if it is not changed in time, it is easy to develop diaper rash.
5. Uncomfortable
If the baby is crying and not playing, and there are some small movements, it is actually telling the mother that "I am not comfortable". At this time, the mother should carefully observe the baby's body, such as touching the baby's forehead; see if there is a fever, look at the baby's skin, whether there is a rash; whether the fingernails and fingernails are split, whether the threads on the clothes are wrapped around the baby, and so on.
6, scared
For example, a sudden bright light, a sudden sound, a stranger suddenly intruding, may scare the baby. At this time, you should pick up the baby, let the baby test on his chest, listen to the mother's heartbeat, stroke the baby's hair and ears with the other hand, and then tell the baby "Don't be afraid, the mother is here."
7, too cold, too hot
If the baby is irritable and flushed when he cries, it may be too thick to wear. If the baby's limbs are not moving, the hands and feet are cold, and the crying is not strong, it may be that the baby feels cold. The mother can judge whether the baby is hot or cold by touching the baby's back, whether it is sweating or chilling, and appropriately increase or decrease clothing.
8. Ask for attention
The baby's crying is gentle, seeing the mother, or hearing the mother's voice is not crying much, as long as the mother leaves, it will continue to cry, this is the baby is "asking for attention". At this time, you must put down the things in your hands, pick up the baby, stroke the baby's body, hum the song to the baby, and let the baby feel your presence.
Although the baby's crying does not mean that it is a bad thing, parents still have to face up to his needs, and the experience is slowly accumulated.
Never use the "cold treatment" method again
There was once a "stop crying" technique circulating on the Internet, that is, when the baby is crying, do not hold or take care of the baby, and then hold it when you are not crying. In fact, this method is very "cruel", completely detached from feelings, and even less conducive to the establishment of parent-child relationships. This mechanized "cold treatment" method will make the baby grow up to be cold inside and have no feelings for people.
Don't skimp on your arms, hug when you want to, because soon the baby will grow up, and when you want to hold, the baby doesn't need it.
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