There is an interesting question on the Internet " Can you accept that your other half is much less educated than you?" This controversial topic has caused a lot of discussion.
Some people think that we paid attention to the door in ancient times, which is not only the shackles of old ideas, but also its certain truth, people with different academic qualifications have different insights, different ideas, different tastes, and even different outlooks on life and values, they are difficult to run into, and the final result may be the breakdown of marriage.
But some people disagree on this, they think that the power of love is great, if you really love someone then you will tolerate everything about him, not to mention, some things are not insurmountable gaps, maybe the gap in knowledge is not so important in life.
To tell the truth, in real life, the idea of "door to door" has been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and many people will undoubtedly compare with themselves when choosing their other half, but perhaps reality will always surprise us.
Probably not many people have heard of the daughter of "Falling Peanut", who was admitted to a prestigious university but married to an illiterate farmer with no regrets in her life, and the love between them once made many people admire.
Born in mendi, the family was in trouble
In 1933, this was an ordinary and extraordinary year, a year in which the Communist Party of China and the Kuomintang reactionaries still did not stop the war, and the Kuomintang reactionaries had launched three encirclements and suppressions against the Red Army, but all of them ended in failure.
In contrast to China's internal troubles, the Japanese invaders stepped up their aggression against China, and in this environment, Xu Yanji was born in Beiping in January 1933.
In fact, compared to many people, Xu Yanji was lucky, after all, at that time, China was invaded by the great powers and then carried out successive years of conquest, and its interior was already extremely empty. Ordinary Chinese people live in the depths of the water, more people do not have enough to eat, and countless people die of hunger.
Xu Yanji was born in a scholarly family, and her father, Xu Dishan, was a famous novelist and essayist during the Republic of China period, with the pen name Luo Peanut. A short essay he once wrote, "Falling Peanuts", was selected into the primary school textbook and became the memory of many people when they were young.
Xu Yanji, who was born in Beiping, was resurrected for a very good time at an early age, when she was carefree, did not worry about eating or wearing, and his father would give her enlightenment education. In 1935, Xu Dishan went to teach at the University of Hong Kong through hu shi's recommendation, and Xu Yanji spent a short happy childhood in Hong Kong.
Who ever thought that the sky has unpredictable storms, people have bad luck, in August 1941, Xu Dishan died suddenly, at the age of 49. But in her later autobiography, it is mentioned that although her father existed for only a short time in her life, his tenacious spirit was deeply implanted in her bone marrow.
Only four months later, when japan invaded Hong Kong, Xu Yanji fled back to the mainland with his mother and brother Zhou Lingzhong, and since then, their family has been wandering around and making home in all parts of the world, which has had a great impact on Xu Yanji during this time.
Admitted to the university, and then suffered misfortune
Until the end of the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, in 1946, the family settled in Nanjing City and settled down slightly. Xu Yanji is also very competitive, even if she has experienced so many setbacks along the way, she has not forgotten to study, after settling down, she will continue to go to school, and finally the kung fu pays off, she was admitted to Beijing Agricultural University, and she spent a happy college time in the university.
However, "the heavens will descend on the Si people, and they will first suffer their hearts, strain their bones, and starve their bodies", perhaps they are jealous of talents, and soon after Xu Yanji suffered a major change in his life. At that time, many intellectuals were persecuted, and Xu Yanji was not spared, she was arrested and imprisoned, and she was pregnant at that time.
Before entering the prison, she had already married her college lover Wu Furong, and originally thought that the two people had lovers and eventually became dependents, even if her life fell into an underestimation, she finally had a person worth relying on, but she was obviously too naïve, and she underestimated the sinister nature of people's hearts.
In that era of self-danger, shortly after entering the prison, she received a divorce agreement from her husband, Xu Yanji, who has always been strong, gave in this time, but what she did not expect was that the other party was so desperate, not to mention the one-day husband and wife, which was simply "husband and wife were originally the same forest bird, and the great disaster was about to fly separately".
Grief-stricken, she agreed to the divorce agreement, and because of the unfair treatment she received in prison, she also unfortunately miscarried, and the child in her belly was gone, which was like the sky fell for her.
But Xu Yanji thought of her father at this time, she couldn't give up, she wanted to be like her father, she couldn't be defeated by life. Although she was devastated, she did not give up hope in her heart.
Marry a farmer with no regrets
After six years in prison, Xu Yanji was released from prison, and in order to stay away from the city that made her heart ache, she planned to defect to her brother in Shaanxi.
When she had completely settled down, her brother suggested that Xu Yanji marry someone, first, she was also old, and second, she could only settle down in the local area after marrying. At this time, Xu Yanji, who had seen through life, told her brother to "just find one at random", and then she married a local farmer, Wei Zhende, under the introduction of her brother.
Two people don't say that they are not very well matched, it is simply two people who can't be beaten by eight rods, and they should have different life trajectories.
Wei Zhende is not only nearly ten years older than Xu Yanji, but he also already has a child, and what is even more incredible is that he is illiterate and illiterate. And Xu Yanji is not only an upright college student, after a famous writer, but also has a certain achievement in literature.
Just when everyone is not optimistic about these two people, the truth is unexpected by everyone, these two people not only did not live together for a long time as many people speculated, but they loved each other after marriage.
Wei Zhende knew that he could marry her for many reasons, he tried to take care of Xu Yanji in life, he didn't have much knowledge as her, so he silently helped her behind her, and Xu Yanji also regarded Wei Zhende's children as his own, until the end of his life Xu Yanji did not regret marrying a farmer like Wei Zhende.
brief summary:
Maybe that's the power of love, or maybe marriage is supposed to be, because marriage is always a matter for two people, one person embraces the other, and can sacrifice a lot of themselves for each other. Many people envy the love between the two of them, but they don't know that such love may be all around us, and they just perfectly interpret the true meaning of love.