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Speaking of the parent-child program "Where Did Daddy Go" that year, let everyone know a lot of little stars, such as Sen Di, Wang Shiling, stone, in the show, Tian Liang and Ye Yiqian's daughter Sen Di with a pure appearance and the heart of a female man, by netizens called "wind-like woman" and "strange loli".
Now that seven years have passed, Mori Di is 12 years old, and he already has the sense of déjà vu of a farmer who has a female first-born child. Recently, her mother Ye Yiqian posted a WeChat conversation with her daughter SenDi on Weibo, and said with the text: Every sentence is ending. It can be seen that Ye Yiqian is very helpless, and many netizens have seen this screenshot and are also sighing, bluntly saying that the change in sen disc is so big.
Let's take a look at the screenshot of their chat:
Mother Ye Yiqian sent a message to ask Sen Di: Is Nezha good-looking?
Sen Di only replied with two words: good-looking.
Ye Yiqian asked again: Are you moved?
Sen Di still replied with only two words: OK.
The old mother Ye Yiqian continued to ask: Where is the best to look?
Sen Di still replied succinctly: "Finally there."
Ye Yiqian asked again: Do you like Nezha or Ao Bing?
Sen Di still replied with a word like gold: I like it.
Finally, Ye Yiqian used the killer skill and asked Sen Di: What to eat at night?
Sen Di still replied very calmly: I don't know.
After this Weibo was exposed, it quickly triggered onlookers and comments from netizens: "Sen Di is a new generation of topic terminators", "It feels like a spare tire and a goddess are chatting", "Every cell of the body is written to refuse", "A woman like the wind can also become high and cold!" ”
After all, in everyone's impression, Sen Di is still a little girl who loves sports, has a sunny temperament, and is full of Lolita, how can she become a high-cold royal sister who cherishes words like gold in the blink of an eye?
Some netizens said that Sen Di really grew up, it should be that Sen Di does not want to talk to his mother, the child has reached the rebellious period, and it may be possible to change someone to chat with people to talk more. Another person said: "Who can imagine that the nagging woman in the previous show has become such a cold appearance and become a topic terminator." ”
This statement has resonated with many netizens, many netizens have said that the state of Sen Di is too real, many children later chat with their families like this, but if it is replaced by chatting with friends, it is another scene, on the one hand is cold perfunctory, on the other hand is hot enthusiasm like fire.
Some parents even left a message, "This is simply a portrayal of yourself and your family, and Sen Di is the second self!" There are also people who lament the great change in the sen disc, how did they not expect that the little doll had become such a cold girl now.
Objectively speaking, netizens guess that there is also a certain degree of reference, children to adolescence, there will be communication barriers with their families, and even some rejection of rebellious state. But isn't there a problem with Mother Ye Yiqian? Is her way of communicating with Sen Di completely desirable?
In fact, many adults are less likely to talk to children, "What did you do at school today?" "Did you behave well at school?" The answer to these two questions is usually: "Nothing!" It's just like usual! "Very well-behaved!"
There are also many adults who don't know what it is to chat with children. The conversation between him and the child is always: "Is the homework finished?" "Did you practice the piano?" "How many points will you get today?"
In Chinese families, there are few harmonious dinner times, bedtime time and chat time. As a result, you will find that the child is almost dumb in front of you, not only is there little to say, three sentences can not ask anything, over time, you are more and more strange to him.
Oh, we parents can go back and examine our "chat skills": what magic do I use to make my children willing to tell me? In fact, to put it bluntly, these little tricks are not difficult at all, and you can do it too!
Ask "small" not "big"
Children are different from adults, they have a hard time understanding abstract questions, and they have a hard time answering them. Therefore, if you want to understand your child's profile in school, you should try to avoid "abstract" and "large-scale" problems.
You can ask, "What classes did you take at school today?" When the child says nature, music, Chinese, you have a chance to follow, "Oh! So what is the nature class taught today? The child will then answer your question: "Teach meteorology!" Bored to death! "Oh! Did the music lessons get a little better? ......”
Start with someone else's business
To know how your child is at school, you can resort to roundabout tactics. During the chat, we asked her, "Who's the naughtiest person in your class?" "What did he do to make the teacher angry?" "What about the teacher?"
From "talking to others" is a good way to chat, we can get a glimpse of what kind of position he is in, what kind of views he has on the behavior of his classmates, and then understand what kind of physical and mental state the child uses to deal with things when we can't see it.
Don't "deny", just "empathize"
When adults chat with children, it is easy to find that adults often like to deny their children's feelings. For example, when the daughter says, "Nature class is boring to death," the better way is to answer, "Oh, nature class is boring, can you tell me what makes you feel bored?" ”
Maintaining a neutral tone and empathizing with his feelings can often allow you to know more of your child's thoughts, understand his needs, and help him solve his dilemma.
Fourth, as long as "listening", not "preaching"
To let children speak their hearts with confidence, chat easily, and be sure to practice "no evaluation, no teaching". Speaking out is a great relief and pleasure for them, and it is important to keep a friendly listening when they have not yet understood the truth of the matter or have not yet figured out how to deal with it!
Many kids are very eager to chat! But I often can't find an adult who can chat. We parents must reflect on our own bodies in order to let our children speak freely and say everything.
Language brings unexpected powers. Your child needs to feel love in your light-hearted words, not when you know you have love in your heart but are powerless to express it verbally. Therefore, Xiaobian recommends that you take a look at this book "High Emotional Intelligence Chat Technique".
As the saying goes: "A good word is warm, and a bad word hurts people in June." The mouth of a parent is a double-edged sword, which can not only pave the child's road with fragrant flowers, but also make the child's road full of thorns. Every child is born is a blank piece of paper, the words and deeds of parents are pen and ink, adding different colors to the child's life, and the words of parents are the street lights on the way forward for children.
In the book "High Emotional Intelligence Chat", the author chooses the language case of chat, so that everyone can feel the power of everyday discourse, because in the eyes of many people, the ability to chat is more important than the ability to debate. Education is not achieved overnight, but with the child's life, this is a long and arduous process, I hope that our parents can have some patience, use more positive language to communicate with the child, can set a good example for the child.
I remember the saying "As long as the mouth can speak, pigs can go up the tree!" "People who can chat can always make others and themselves happy, and want to know how to chat to make people they like happy?" How can I talk to the satisfaction of my boss? Make the family happy and make the child obedient? Hurry up and read this book of High Emotional Intelligence Chat.
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