I've seen a question:
"What do you think life is at its best?"
Some say it's financial freedom, some say it's the sweetness of marriage, and some say it's arbitrary.
Among them, one answer is the most popular: "All external satisfaction is inferior to the safety of the self." ”
Life is hard, and most people are busy seeking outwards and neglecting to soothe themselves.
I want more and more, I get more and more, but the real happiness is less and less.
It turns out that the so-called ideal life is confusing and deceiving you.
The best state of life is not to have a successful career, not to live a happy life, but to do these three things.
Are there any such people around you?
Do not do things to ask for credit for the first place, busy all day to compete for the east and west, but whenever there is a chance to fight a little, he will never fall.
Even if you get it, you won't be satisfied, thinking you can get more.
However, on the other hand, their lives are often not satisfactory.
Because once delusional thoughts are rooted in the heart, they can never be filled.
In this regard, one of Shandong's top ten birthday stars, 116-year-old Zhang Cunhe is notoriously open-minded.
Someone asked him what was the secret to longevity?
The old man said with a smile on his face: "No dispute, no grab." ”
Once, when he was separated, he was given a small house just around the corner.
The family did not want it, but Zhang Cunhe gladly accepted it.
He told the children:
"In life, you can't get rich by relying on what people give you, so you can earn it yourself."
It seems to be a simple sentence, but it tells the truth of life.
It's not yours, it's useless to fight, it should be yours, and it will come if you don't grab it.
In the TV series "Yongzheng Dynasty", Mr. Wu told a story to hint at the fourth master:
An old man gave birth to a large number of sons, and then the old man was old and wanted to hand over the family property to his son.
But there was only one key, and it could only be given to one son.
In order to get the key, the sons exhausted all means to fight for your life, and the old man had a headache.
Only there is a son, who never competes with his brothers, but only silently follows his father.
In the end, the old man deliberated and decided to give the key to his son who did not fight.
Mr. Wu commented: "This is called contention is not dispute, non-contention is dispute, and the husband cannot fight with the world without dispute." ”
If you don't argue, no one can compete with you.
Reality always backfires, and the more you scramble, the more you get nothing.
Life is trivial, there are too many chores.
If you strive for perfection in everything, you will empty yourself, and in the end you will not be able to gain more than you lose.
The English poet Rand said: "I do not argue with anyone, and I despise anyone who fights." ”
The hardest thing in life is to force, and it is comfortable not to argue or grab.
Truly intelligent people have a calm and calm pride, because of the effort, gain and loss.
A reader once asked Cai Lan: "Some people say that you are affectionate. ”
Cai Lan replied with a smile: "They don't even know what it means to have a wind flow, and they don't deserve to talk to me", and then laughed three times.
Indeed, Cai Lan's life is not understood by others, and I would rather say that he is funny than that he is funny.
Cai Lan's annual comment open day makes people laugh uncontrollably.
Netizens asked: "How to have someone you like?" ”
Cai Lan asked rhetorically, "Man, is it for you to have?" ”
Another person asked, "How does Mr. Cai view death?" ”
Cai Lan said mischievously: "I haven't died, I don't know." ”
It is hard to imagine that all kinds of witty and interesting answers came from the mouth of an 80-year-old man.
However, what is most interesting about Mr. Cai Lan is not just his remarks, but his life.
In addition to being a writer, Cai Lan is also a famous foodie and travel enthusiast.
He often travels the streets of the world, looking for food to treat his taste buds.
He likes to carry a vegetable basket, stroll around the market, choose the fruits and vegetables he likes, and carry a full basket home.
Cai Lan is like a curious child, who can always find infinite fun in life.
Once, Cai Lan saw a wooden carving in an inn where he lived in Hokkaido and liked it.
Inquiring about the works of deaf-mute artist Masamitsu Takiguchi, he followed the road to find the artist's shop.
In the shop, he carefully observes each piece of work, not sparing any corner.
He also patiently communicated with Mr. Takiguchi with a pen and paper for a long time, listening to mr. Takiguchi tell his story.
On that day, Cai Lan not only bought his favorite sculptures, but also spent a pleasant time.
Cai Lan said: "Compared with the entire universe, we are only a few decades, a moment of things, I hope I am happy." ”
Life is like a white colt passing through the gap, suddenly, happy is a day, sadness is also a day.
Instead of frowning, it is better to be happy.
Only by living a fun life can we smile and have a happy life.
The so-called life is just a game of self-amusement, and pleasing yourself is the final outcome.
I like tagore's quote:
"The little lights in the house are out, but I am not afraid of the darkness, because there are always stars in the sky."
There are hills in the heart, and the sky is full of stars.
In this life, whether you want to or not, whether you accept it or not, you will experience many twists and turns.
Under the pressure of life, having a rich heart is the confidence to soothe life.
In a wet market in Yuyao City, Jiangsu Province, a woman pushes her modified cart every day to sell daily necessities.
When a customer comes, she patiently and kindly receives, and when no one cares, she silently reads a book.
She is the "wild female writer" - Chen Hui.
Chen Hui's life was full of twists and turns, she was raised and returned to her parents when she was young, and later suffered from a stubborn disease and lingered in the hospital bed for many years.
After marriage, just nine months after the child, Chen Hui divorced and became a single mother, and because of the pressure of life, she began a stall career.
For a while, her heart was empty and full of fear of life.
Later, in addition to setting up a stall, she tried to enrich herself by reading and writing.
For Chen Hui, writing is her way of confronting life.
While setting up a stall to make a living, Chen Hui read and wrote books, not only filling the void in her heart, but also publishing two best-selling books.
Nowadays, Chen Hui no longer needs to survive by setting up stalls, but she still goes out every day, and she enjoys such a pyrotechnic life.
Sometimes, when readers see her cityscape appearance, they will cast a disdainful look.
But she never cared, still selling her own goods and reading her own books.
In the words of Chen Hui: "The degree of happiness in life does not depend on the circumstances of life, but on the attitude of life." ”
True happiness is not glamorous, not beautiful, but strong and full inside.
Strong hearts do not panic, just like them:
Even if Mr. Yang Dai is arranged to clean the toilet, he can face it calmly and optimistically. Lin Huiyin can live comfortably and consistently even in a simple thatched hut. Even if Mu Xin is imprisoned three times, he has never lost his love for life.
All this is just as Zhou Guoping said: "The best state of life is rich quietness." ”
If the heart does not move, the wind and rain will not be there; the inside is full, and there is no need to grieve.
People with rich hearts can find the happiness they want even in the most ordinary life.
Writer Huang Biyun said:
"If one day we are lost in the crowds and spend our whole lives in mediocrity, it is because we have not tried to live abundantly."
At the end of life, I am most afraid of being overwhelmed by the world and living in the same way.
Busy running is only called survival; living out of the self is life.
Life can be like a falling leaf, fluttering with the wind; it can also be a sailing boat, sailing to the ocean.
What kind of attitude you write, what kind of answer sheet will you hand over.
For the rest of your life, may you live the life you yearn for and smile the most beautiful appearance.