Author: Insight Annabésu
Putting limited time into the most important thing in the moment is a kind of maturity.
Earlier, I saw someone on the Internet asking, what are the characteristics of people with mature hearts?
Someone distilled a nine-character motto: don't compete, you can see openly, you can put it down.
In the affairs of the world, there is always powerlessness, and often things backfire.
Blindly competing with life will only increase the trouble; only by learning to shake hands with oneself and make peace can one attain the liberation of the heart.
01
Don't compete with your body
Round Table Pie has a program that talks about age and the body.
The words of guest Ma Jiahui are quite touching:
"When you get older and you feel the changes in your body, you start to envy the energy of young people, and you also learn to recognize your body."
Think about it, when we're young, we seem to have endless energy.
At the age of 20, you stay up late to play games, wantonly overdraft your body, and feel that it is most important to be happy;
At the age of 30, for friendship and face, you push the cup at the wine table and feel that networking is the most important;
At the age of 40, in order to give your family a better life, you are exhausted and feel that making money is the most important.
But as we age, the physical examination report that lights up the red light always reminds us:
In the second half of life, the body is disease-free, which is a great blessing.
My father has a very good friend, Uncle Liu, who worked hard in the business sea when he was young, went south and north, and saved up a rich family foundation.
At the end of last year, Uncle Liu was admitted to the hospital because of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage, and retrieved a life from the ghost gate, and not long after he was discharged from the hospital, he heard the news of the death of a zhijiao.
Since then, he has quit all liquor stores, entrusted most of his work to the team, and whenever he has time, he will go hiking, fishing, and self-cultivation.
Uncle Liu said that when he was older, he had to bow his head to his body and pointed to it to accompany him for more time.
There is a saying that is very good: "Not to compete with the body is to acknowledge the limitations of the body and no longer squander health." Putting limited time into the most important thing in the moment is a kind of maturity. ”
When you are young, you must learn to work hard and leave no regrets;
In the second half of life, we must learn to do what we can and stop at the right time.
02
Don't compete with fate
I've seen such a story.
Once upon a time there were two monks, each living on the hill next door.
There is a small stream between the two mountains, and the two monks will go down the mountain at the same time every day to fetch water from the stream.
Over time, they became friends.
Unconsciously, 5 years have passed.
One day, one monk did not go down the mountain to fetch water, and another monk waited for him for a long time and finally returned disappointed.
He waited for a few more days, but he still didn't wait, and the monk was very worried about his friend, so he went over the mountain to see him.
When he got to the mountain, he saw his friend practicing boxing with another person, and the two of them talked and laughed and looked happy.
The little monk asked sadly, "Why haven't you carried water for so long?" I thought you were sick. ”
His friend pointed to a well not far away and said, "I spent 5 years digging this well, and A while ago I finally dug out the well water." I will never have to go down the mountain to fetch water again. ”
The little monk froze in place for a moment and finally left silently.
If you think about it, the experience of the little monk is not what happened to us in life.
When we were young, we called on friends and companions, thinking that meeting was forever, but in the long road that followed, friends always went all the way and lost all the way.
Maybe the three views are no longer consistent, or maybe the roads are different, and the people who were once close are scattered in the vast sea of people.
There is a saying that everyone can only accompany you for a while, and eventually they will be separated.
Life is ushered in, and gathering and dispersing is an inevitability.
When they say goodbye, they cherish each other; when the fate is gone, they will smile and bless.
03
Don't fight fools
Someone once asked Olympic boxing champion Zou Shiming: "In life, if someone stepped on you, what would you do?" ”
Zou Shiming smiled and replied, "Of course, if you put up with it, if you can't do it again, you will apologize to the people." ”
A short answer, witty and wise.
In life, we will meet all kinds of people, will encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory things, entangled with them, will only hurt themselves, learn to bow to stupidity, is the great wisdom.
Netizen @ Uncle Zheng Xiao once drove home, and was scraped by a car on the road.
He got out of the car to check it out, found only a slight scratch, and prepared to leave.
At this time, several young people came down from the other car, scolded and grinned, and asked him how he drove?
He was about to open his mouth to retort, but he smelled the wine coming from his face, and he immediately chose to apologize with a smile on his face, and then quickly drove away.
Later, when I talked to my friends about this, everyone praised him for being able to endure, but he smiled and said:
"I was in a hurry to go home, and if I went to the police station with them and delayed the time, my family would be worried."
Moreover, the other party drank wine, once it provoked them and did something out of place, it was myself who suffered at that time, and it was not worth arguing with such a person. ”
I think so.
Many times, not getting entangled with bad people and bad things is not instigated, but unnecessary.
It's not silly to laugh and give in, it's not to take the little things to heart.
There is a saying, "Always compete with your peers, not with fools." ”
Fighting with stupidity will only make your head bleed, and learning to bow to stupidity is the best fulfillment for yourself.
04
Don't compete with the ordinary
I have always liked a sentence written by the writer Diane:
"From the beginning to think that there is only oneself in this world, to understand that their talent is actually only enough to be a good ordinary person, and then people grow up." 」
When we were young, we all had many dreams, thinking that we would meet a golden life, and when we grew up, we understood that 90% of the life in the world will eventually return to the ordinary.
The writer Shi Yi once wrote a story about his father.
His father's dream as a child was to become a pianist, but after a lot of effort, he never succeeded.
One day, he asked his father, "Do you feel pain and regret after disarming your dreams?" ”
The father smiled and said, "At first I was unwilling, but in the end I was relieved." I tried hard, but if I didn't succeed, then I would be qualified to be an ordinary person. ”
My father went on to say that after accepting that I was an ordinary person, my life had changed a lot.
Although I don't dream of piano anymore, I try my best to do my best, I take good care of my wife and children, I visit my parents regularly like an alarm clock, I take my whole family on a trip every year...
Finally, my father said a sentence that he still remembers years later:
"The courage to admit and accept one's own ordinariness is the true sincerity of life."
This father's life is not a microcosm of most of our lives.
Because of the mediocre talent, it is doing a little hard work, but the good guys can make themselves worry-free;
Because the figure and appearance are not outstanding, so I meet a similar person and live a life without waves.
Maybe he will have a child who is a little stupid but very kind, and he may not be able to enter a prestigious school when he grows up, but he has a particularly cheerful personality and is filial and filial.
Wang Guozhen once wrote in "The Charm of The Ordinary":
"I don't despise the ordinary, because I'm one of the ordinary. My heart is printed with the wishes of ordinary people, my eyes are printed with the sorrows and joys of ordinary people, and what I seek is the answer that people are seeking. ”
The maturity of a person deep into the bones is to accept his ordinariness calmly.
No longer have too high expectations, take every step of the way steadily; no longer be ambitious, but do your best to embrace the present.
Accept the fact that you were born ordinary, do not tangle, do not cling to, in order to enjoy the happiness of the years in the complicated world.
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Zhou Guoping wrote in the book "Life Is Not Competitive":
"An important aspect of life wisdom is to distinguish what you can control."
Know your limitations, no longer overdraw yourself; admit your powerlessness, and learn to look down on gains and losses.
Only by living in the moment can we walk freely and smoothly on the road of life.
Give it a thumbs up, be the master of your own destiny, and don't give in to it; if you can't, be a friend of fate and don't compete with it.