"I'm your father, and I'm going to give me a pension no matter what" I: Roll, you're still looking for your son. What's going on here? How exactly was this daughter treated by her father? Why did he say such a thing to him so fiercely, did he really have no filial piety at all? Let's take a look at this together!
Ms. Chen, Aged 45:
I am a lady who married from Guangdong to another province, and it is also a very far-away kind, from my current family if you want to return to your mother's home, it will be at least a few thousand kilometers, so everyone knows how far I married, and the choice of marrying far away is not because of love, nor because of money, but to escape from the original family! I know that it seems impersonal to say such a thing, a place where I grew up, why do I hate it so much?
My father once came to me and asked me to help him retire, but I refused, I didn't even give him the fare, and I don't know where he went! Seriously, I really don't like this father, a lot of things have to start from when I was a child, I am the youngest in the family, I have an older brother, our family only had two children at that time, but both of us were brought up by him, it can be said that I was not brought up by him, I was raised by myself, my mother died unfortunately because of difficult childbirth when she gave birth to me, everyone knows that in the past medical treatment was very underdeveloped, and then the family was so poor, there was no money to take to the hospital.
So my mother was gone after giving birth to me, and I heard that my head was too big at the time, and he used all his strength to give birth to me because he consumed too much physical strength. There was also a lot of blood left, and when he brought me into this world in peace, he died tragically. Every time I hear someone say this, I feel particularly ashamed, especially sorry for my mother. If it weren't for giving birth to me, he wouldn't have left so quickly, and maybe he's living very happily in this family now! After my mother left, the obligation to raise two children fell to my father!
But my father treated me like a stranger, and no matter how I was doing, he didn't care, as if I wasn't his biological child! When you were a child, because it was too cold, I didn't pay attention to keep warm on the cold, and finally I had a fever, a fever, super serious, even the road can't be seen clearly, but my father knew, he not only did not take me to the doctor, but also let me do particularly heavy work, saying that as long as I work and sweat can cure the disease, so during the time when I had a fever, he let me do super physical work, carrying water and sand is all done by me, everyone knows that when the child is sick, physical strength is very bad, Immunity is also very bad, especially if you need to rest!
But my father didn't care about my body at all, and fully met his requirements! Later, I really couldn't stand it, fainted on the ground in the process of transferring water, fortunately was found by a passing grandmother, so he sent me to the hospital, when the hospital doctor measured my temperature, said that I burned to more than 40 degrees, if I am not sent to the hospital, maybe the brain will be burned out! At that time, I felt a special panic after hearing it, but my father laughed and said after hearing it, what can be a problem, isn't it a fever?
It would be nice to sweat a little more, not to mention that he usually ate so much, and wore so thick all day, I didn't know that he would have a cold and fever, he said that he was still quite reasonable, and from that moment on he didn't leave a good impression on me! As soon as he thought of his brother scratching a little skin, he was anxious to die, and it felt like he wanted his life! He would look around for medicine powder to rub on his brother! You see this is the phenomenon of son preference, how serious is it? Every time when school starts, he tells me in my ear, what should you do when you don't have money to study? I was so tired every day, I worked a lot, I made less money, and every time I heard him say this, I felt that he was hinting at me, telling me not to go to school and let him free up the money.
Brother read alone! Since he didn't want me to read it, then I chose to tell him that I wasn't going to read it! He was happy when he stopped because he knew he could save money! So I worked at home for many years, and when I reached the age of rural society, I chose to go out to work and earn money! Because I was thinking about escaping from this family since I was a child, after going out to work, I worked hard, although I had no knowledge, but I could earn money by experience! So I entered a company that can learn technology, after working for a few years, I learned all the experience I should have, I opened a small business by myself, I didn't expect to be quite successful, the more I do the better!
Soon I bought a few houses of my own in the city and a car that I particularly liked, things I hadn't told my father, but I don't know where he got it! So his attitude towards me suddenly changed a lot, he never cared about me since I came out of society, he actually knew these things and called me every day to ask me if I was busy at work, tired, how was life! This is obviously to please me to give him a pension, but I just don't appreciate it and tell him it's okay, live and not die!
I thought that with a cold attitude to him, he would give up, did not expect him to be even more excessive, actually ran to my home to ask me to give him a pension, saying that he was my father, no matter what, I wanted to give him a pension! At that time, I laughed, before I got rich, you didn't know that you still had my daughter, and now that I'm rich, rich, and capable, you know that with my own daughter, you really don't deserve to be a father! So I said everything I'd wanted to say to him for more than 10 years
！ When I was a child, when I was sick, you ignored my body, and when I was studying, you pulled down in my ear every day, saying that you had no money for us to study, so I chose to drop out of school to do farm work at home, what heavy work was done by me, my brother was on vacation, you didn't let him touch the bowl, was he your treasure, I was your tool for summoning? When I was not out of society, at home, what good food was secretly given to my brother to eat, and told him to eat outside and then go home, so as not to let me find out that he was eccentric, you have always been very eccentric, don't you know? Now that it's time for retirement, you actually remembered that I had known why you had gone?
You still roll, find your baby son to give you a pension, I am not your baby, I am not worthy of your pension, I am not obliged to give you a pension! After saying these words to him, he left, and many people said that I was wrong to do this, after all, he was my father, no matter what happened to me when I was a child, I should not do this to him, after all, there would be no me without him, it is true that there would be no me without him, but did he raise me?
Did he ever treat me like a daughter? He was only responsible for giving birth to me, but not for raising me well, how much damage he caused to my psychology, did he know? When I was young, every child needed fatherly and maternal love, but I knew that no one in me could get maternal love, but I should at least get a little bit of fatherly love, but no!
I understand this lady's approach, in today's society, not all parents really deserve our respect and filial piety! Many children suffer certain traumas in their hearts when they are young, all because of their parents, so when they grow up, there will be many phenomena of disrespect for their parents, which cannot be blamed on them at all, and it depends on what he experienced when he was young! So don't comment when you see others not honoring their parents, because you don't know what people have been through.