Many people feel like a changed person after entering middle age, and work and life seem to have lost their direction at once, which seems to be more obvious in middle-aged people in the workplace.
When people reach middle age, no matter in any way, they have basically been stereotyped, and what they want to do and can do are generally within a limited range, unlike young people, who have unlimited possibilities. Therefore, it is normal to feel confused, confused, or lost, empty.
But life goes on, and middle-aged people have no reason to stop themselves.
Middle-aged people need to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, which is very important.
Positivity is a gesture of life, and optimistic people will always maintain their youth.
Finding fun, meeting happiness, and being able to be happy, this is the skill, it is the cultivation, it is the realm.
In this regard, I particularly recommend the saying of Mencius and Zeng Guofan, two ancients, that "a gentleman has three pleasures".
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Mencius, a famous thinker, educator, and representative of the Confucian school in the Warring States period more than 2,000 years ago, said in the book "Mencius": Gentlemen have three pleasures, but wang tianxia does not exist with him. Parents exist, brothers have no reason, and one is happy. Look up to the sky, do not bow down to people, and erle also. Educated by the world's talents, Sanle also.
The three pleasures of Mencius of Yasheng, in today's words, are complete in heaven and the family is safe; the second is in the heart is clean and the heart is calm; and the three pleasures are teaching and educating people and cultivating talents. This is Mencius's life expectation, but also a spiritual realm and value pursuit.
In the Warring States period in which Mencius lived, "gentleman" refers to a small number of people with high social status, so these three pleasures of a gentleman are difficult for ordinary people to do. However, Mencius's saying that "a gentleman has three pleasures" is an ideal pursued by many people.
People living in today's society have given new meaning to the understanding of the gentleman, but it is still very difficult to obtain all the three pleasures of Mencius.
For middle-aged people with rich experience in social life, compared with Mencius's "Three Pleasures of gentlemen", I think it is very necessary, especially the first and second music, if it happens to themselves, it is very good. As for the third pleasure of "educating the world's talents", most people can't hope for it.
Parents are alive and well-being, of course, it is a kind of happiness; it is also a kind of happiness to be a person and do things with a clear conscience. There are these two kinds of happiness, ordinary as you and me, what do you want?
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More than two thousand years after Mencius's death, in the late Qing Dynasty, a famous politician, theorist, and literary scholar Zeng Guofan appeared, who was the founder and commander of the Xiang Army, and together with Li Hongzhang, Zuo Zongtang, and Zhang Zhidong, he was called the "Four Famous Ministers of the Late Qing Dynasty".
Zeng Guofan is a figure with great influence on China's modern history, and for more than a hundred years, he has been an inspirational example for many civilian children, and more and more people have shown a strong interest in his lifelong study, self-cultivation, and behavior.
Recently read "Tang Haoming Commented on zeng guofan's diary", and was deeply impressed by the diary of Zeng Guofan Xianfeng on September 21, 999. In this diary, Zeng Guofan, who was forty-eight years old at the time, wrote: "The night think gentleman has three pleasures: reading a golden stone, fluttering far away, one music also; the grand prize talent, tempting rijin, two music also; industrious and resting, three music also.
Taking pleasure in reading poems aloud, taking pleasure in guiding people to advance, and taking pleasure in relaxing and resting after hard work, Zeng Guofan's "Three Pleasures" give people a feeling of being more self-contained, more grounded, and more practical, as long as they are willing, it seems that everyone can do it.
But if you think about it carefully, Zeng Guofan's "gentleman has three pleasures" is not easy to do seriously.
More than a hundred years ago, Zeng Guofan was able to have such a high level of understanding and practice it, which is indeed worth learning from my generation.
In my opinion, it is indeed a pleasure to have time to read more books and improve my cultural accomplishment and spiritual temperament; to be able to help others to make them progress will definitely feel satisfied and happy; and after doing my best to complete my work, it is even happier to rest well or do something I like.
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Whether it is Mencius or Zeng Guofan, their "gentleman has three pleasures" theory provides us with reference.
Life is a lifelong affair, and a person should not be depressed and mentally depressed at any time. Stay enthusiastic, do your best, be positive and optimistic, and believe that good things will keep happening!
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<b>Picture and text| Chu Yanfeng</b>
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