On December 24-27, 2009, the first Hebei Provincial Civic Virtue Education Forum, jointly sponsored by the Hebei Provincial Committee of the China Democratic League, the Hebei Provincial Committee of the China Democratic Progressive Party and the Hebei Traditional Culture Association, was held in The Hebei Hall of Shijiazhuang, and Ding Jiali, a famous film star who starred in a series of film and television dramas such as "Breaking into the Guandong", also came to the scene as the main teacher.
However, to everyone's surprise, after the 50-year-old movie star came to power, he did not make some high-profile remarks but burst into tears in public, boldly disclosing his past experience of improper style and four abortions.
She said, "I also have a daughter, and I hope that my daughter will not make my mistakes." The reason why I made an irreparable mistake was that I did not know how to be a girl, how to be a daughter-in-law, how to be a woman, and how to keep a good woman's way in the past. ”
After a moment of surprise from the audience, her sincerity and good intentions won a round of applause.
Ding Jiali's life experience can also be described as ups and downs, full of legends, after winning six times in her career, she has achieved remarkable results, emotionally she has cheated, she has also been cheated, married and divorced, and it is rumored that she once knelt down for love but was finally abandoned.
Ding Jiali's emotional misery seems to have been foreshadowed from birth.
In 1959, Ding Jiali was born into a poor and patriarchal family.
Because her father was very patriarchal, coupled with the fact that the newborn Ding Jiali had a skin disease, the family did not have extra money to treat her, so when Ding Jiali was still young, she sent this "money-losing goods" to a family in Shandong.
Because of such an experience since childhood, Ding Jiali has been independent and scary since she was a child, and she has always had her own opinions, even to the point of willfulness.
After graduating from high school, her adoptive mother let her study medicine, and although her adoptive parents were all actors at that time, in that era, as a critic actor, the income was not high, and the job was not very stable.
But Ding Jiali was rebellious, and the more her parents didn't let her learn acting, the more she had to learn acting.
However, her later career glory proved that she was born to eat the bowl of actors.
In 1986, the first film he participated in, "The First Woman in the Mountain Forest", won the Best Supporting Actress Award at the 7th Golden Rooster Awards of Chinese Film. Later, he won the Golden Rooster Award many times for his film "New Year's Eve" movie "No One Applause", etc.
In those years, Ding Jiali won the award softly, and the cooperation with her was Ge You and other well-known domestic actors.
As the saying goes, her career is triumphant and frustrated, and compared with her brilliant achievements in her career, her emotional road is particularly bumpy.
After graduating from university, Ding Jiali was assigned to work in the Chinese Drama Theatre, and in the process of working, she met Hu Guangchuan, who was also an actor.
The two gradually fell in love, Ding Jiali began her first relationship, and later the man became her first husband.
At that time, It was Ding Jiali who took the initiative to ask for a relationship, and the man said to her: This matter is very important, have you thought about it?
But at that time, Ding Jiali was completely immersed in it, leaving everything behind and forgetting herself.
But she did not expect that after stealing the forbidden fruit, she was actually pregnant, and to Ding Jiali's surprise, her boyfriend's attitude towards her changed greatly after this incident, saying to her, "You ruined the best time of my life." "If you don't love yourself, others will look down on you."
The forbidden fruit is like a bitter pill coated in sugar, and the sweet taste is gone in an instant.
Ding Jiali was pregnant before marriage, and lived a life like a year, while filming, while worrying about public gaffe, suffering from insomnia, and her hair fell down a lot.
Later, she had to sneak to a health center in a small village in Beijing for curing the palace
Later, Ding Jiali recalled, "That feeling, it was like someone with a blade sliding a big hole deeply in the palm of your hand, and then holding the pliers and constantly shaving your flesh, which was particularly uncomfortable." I begged the doctor to spare me, and I said I was wrong, I was wrong! I was lying helplessly on the operating table, I was so embarrassed, I lived in my 20s, for the first time I felt so ashamed. ”
Ding Jiali originally thought that this incident would make her and her boyfriend part ways, but she did not expect that her boyfriend knew that she had a miscarriage and then accepted her again, and the two later married, and after marriage, the two also had a daughter Duoduo.
But obviously this abortion experience did not make Ding Jiali repent, she is a good scar to forget the pain, and after marriage to her husband, because after marriage her husband traveled for a long time, the lonely Ding Jiali always looked at some unhealthy yellow things, made her heart itchy, and finally could not resist the temptation to have a relationship with others, did not think but accidentally became pregnant, and the other party was also just married.
When pregnant, Ding Jiali found the man, but the man said: "How do you prove that it is mine, you and I are like this, won't you be with others?" You don't respect yourself, why are you looking for me?"
For this child Ding Jiali of course did not dare to want, so she once again went to the abortion herself, just after the operation and immediately took the train to the ice and snow of the northeast to shoot a drama, in the field of minus forty degrees, a shooting is a day.
The scene was filmed very badly, Ding Jiali knelt in the snow, the snow soaked the cotton pants, and her stomach hurt badly.
The big hospital examination said that it was subacute pelvic inflammatory disease, which had become chronic, difficult to cure, and would be accompanied by life, which was the consequence of abortion.
Ding Jiali thus fell ill, as long as she is tired, or a cold, she will feel that someone is pulling her waist hard, especially pain.
Later, she confessed to her parents about the two abortions, and the parents were particularly angry.
"You are so disgraceful, you will definitely be punished in the future, we are really disappointed in you, you just fell the child like this, you know that he is also your flesh and bones, and he is your life." 」
Her dad was so angry that he sucked his own mouth in front of her.
For this child, the husband knew that after the face was blue, the two began to separate, and finally divorced Ding Jiali when the daughter was still young.
The daughter was sentenced to her father, but the man was in the ascendancy of his career, and he had time to take care of his daughter, so the daughter Duoduo was sent to her uncle's house and was often beaten by her uncle.
Ding Jiali is almost indifferent to this child, and her daughter has become an "abandoned person" like Ding Jiali when she was a child.
In 1990, Ding Jiali, who had been divorced for 3 years, met her love again, a university lecturer.
At that time, Ding Jiali did not know how to biyun, and when they were together, they had two abortions in succession, until the second year after marriage, giving birth to their son Guoguo.
After marriage, because of a failed marriage, Ding Jiali cherished it very much.
But the so-called cause and effect is good reincarnation, who has the heavens spared? After Ding Jiali remarried, she experienced her husband's cheating, and she was the third party of others after all, and her husband, who was a teacher, actually cheated on female students.
In this prosperous age, Ding Jiali's heart is no longer young.
This was flat for several years, until 1999, 40-year-old Ding Jiali and 29-year-old Sun Honglei met in the drama "Curie couple", she met Sun Honglei, who was much younger than her, and once again fell in love.
No matter how badly outsiders are optimistic about this relationship, she still fights hard to pay for this relationship.
At work, in order to fight for the role of Sun Honglei, who was not famous at that time, she went around to ask for a relationship to do something for him, and even Venus later broke the news that Ding Jiali had kneeled to the director in order to ask for a role for Sun Honglei.
In life, Sun Honglei took good care of himself, personally delivering hot soup and hot rice.
She plunged into it, just like the love of a few times when she was young, and she didn't want anything else, and she couldn't listen to anyone's words.
But obviously, she is just a springboard before Sun Honglei became popular, and this relationship has come to an end with Sun Honglei's popularity.
When they broke up, Sun Honglei once said to her bluntly: "Look at yourself, look at me again, do you think we deserve it?" ”
Ding Jiali's life has been brilliant and uneventful, warm and impulsive, willful for a lifetime, she did not wake up until her old age, "I have not received a man's real care in my life, this is because of myself, I do not love myself, I did wrong, did not keep my duty, did not keep the woman's way, only to have their own results." ”
Young people in modern society are open-minded, abortion is not a new thing, but girls must remember that self-love can get his love!