I don't know if the ex will find out that I turned over the TA's circle of friends today?
WeChat should not display information like Renren or QQ space, "Who viewed my homepage", right? I remember that after looking at the weibo of the ex, I foolishly searched for questions such as "will this be known by the ex" on the Internet, fortunately many people have asked similar questions, and it is easier to find the answer.
Whatever the reason for paying attention, the above phenomenon at least shows that breaking up with an online TA is often more difficult than breaking up with a ta in reality.
In order to prevent yourself from being tempted to call your former boyfriend (girlfriend), after reading this article, it is recommended that you download the Drunk Dial app first, then enter the TA's phone and set it for a long enough time to return to sanity before canceling.
Drunk Dial is one of the "cure" apps used by Fusion tech reporter Kristen Brown after he was broken up by his boyfriend. Although she used BlockYourEx to block her ex-boyfriend's Facebook, Twitter, and Gmail accounts, and deleted photos of her former love in PictureToBurn, the sequelae of the lost love could not be eliminated in her mind or on the Internet.
Active users of social networks often face a lot of trouble after a breakup, and existing technology cannot effectively solve these problems for users.
In a study on how to dispose of "digital possessions" after a breakup, researcher Steve Whittaker pointed out these problems. In order to keep the post-breakup men and women from being stinged by the information of former male (female) friends that pop up from time to time, Whittaker's initial solution was to invent something like a "Pandora's box" that would seal all the content about the ex in one place. According to this concept, Shryne, who was dedicated to "honoring" his predecessor, was born.
Shryne is like an online memorial where you can submit photos of your ex, personal information, what you want to say to him, and more to Shryne. The sense of ritual brought about by this "memorial" does help to heal and announce a restart after the breakup. But this approach does not guarantee the complete elimination of traces of the predecessor:
When together, couples post sweet photos on various social networking sites, send intimate words to show affection; once the relationship breaks, the breakup will be sad, if it is not long before one party accidentally sees the other party and begins to show love, and the protagonist is not himself, the second injury will strike.
Even if you have deleted all the information related to your ex, you also control yourself not to "hand cheaply" to search for various accounts of Su TA (these things are difficult to forget for a while, and you can't replace all social network accounts because of the breakup), Weibo, QQ and other social networks are very careful to select "people you may know" for you, and the avatar of your ex is often placed in a very conspicuous position. Memories are recalled again.
An article by Mashable lists more examples of what has plagued Digital Possessions:
Danielle Sepulveres, 34, said her iPhone automatically corrected the relevant letters she typed on the keyboard to her ex-boyfriend's name. In addition, her Dropbox will occasionally send her an email to remind her to organize photos, most of which are of her boyfriend. Whenever I receive an email reminder when I have 3 days of insomnia in the middle of the night, it is another wave of sadness. Tom, 40, said he once ordered flowers for his girlfriend online and filled in her girlfriend's name (Sandra). And a few weeks after they had broken up, the florist suddenly sent a promotional email "to Sandra Love & Kisses Bouquet and tell her you can't live without her." ” Ali Bergstrom, 38, said that after breaking up with his fiancée, the ads he pushed on Facebook were dating sites for a while, and engagement rings and the like.
While digital networks make people more and more closely related to each other, they can also inadvertently bring 10,000 harm to people. When digital memory is closer to human brain memory than we think, perhaps every move in the network needs to be a little more cautious.
After a breakup, you can delete phone calls, unfollow, and change passwords, but the data generated by your online activity is even more familiar to yourself than you are, and even if you have chosen to forget your ex, the digital world will always store your memories there. However, this is also a bit like tattoos, since you have made up your mind to get a tattoo, you have to accept the reality that you can't get rid of it. Since you can't help but show affection, you must face it after the breakup...
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Title image from the movie "Before the Degree"