Preface
Before writing an article on "Why Older Leftover Women Don't Get Married", I analyzed the reasons why I didn't get married, so I received a lot of private messages from readers backstage, telling me about the reasons why they are still older and the similar situation of older friends around them. However, from everyone's letters, we can see that a large part of the reason is that the older girl is not married, in fact, she is still waiting for love.
Women's world is soft, whether it is a 20-year-old young girl or a 40-year-old leftover woman, no matter how good they are, how indestructible their personality is, how prosperous their careers are, but when they face their feelings, they will involuntarily turn themselves into a soft kitten, be put in their arms, touched, whispered, and promised a bright and permanent.
Older girls just want to wait for an exclusive love, regardless of age, not in a hurry, find a loved one, fall in love, and love each other.
Liao Yimei: "Everyone is very lonely. In our lifetime, encountering love, encountering sex, is not rare, it is rare to encounter understanding. ”
It's easy to love someone, you can fall in love with someone every minute and second, and as soon as the hormones in that body come out, sex becomes an easier thing. But the most important thing about a desirable love is to understand each other.
The love between the famous writer Wang Xiaobo and his wife Li Yinhe is what I particularly admire as a reader of both of them. Li Yinhe graduated from university, Wang Xiaobo did not graduate from junior high school; Li Yinhe worked as an editor in Guangming Daily, and Wang Xiaobo worked as a worker in a street factory full of old mothers and disabled people; Li Yinhe was famous, while Wang Xiaobo was unknown. When everyone was against them being together, they came together resolutely because of their deep understanding of each other. Li Yinhe understood all the love letters he wrote, the ideals in his heart, and his maverick behavior of the world.
Wang Xiaobo, 40, wants to quit from Renmin University and concentrate on writing. The family is very angry, only Li Yinhe is strongly supportive, because she knows that literature is his life, and if he does not write novels, he will become a walking dead. Moreover, she encouraged Wang Xiaobo countless times: "Write well, and the Nobel Prize in Literature will be yours in the future." ”
Wang Xiaobo also used the same attitude to support his wife Li Yinhe, who studied homosexuality, accompanied her to the men's toilet to do field research, accompanied her to interview, collected information, and wrote a gay monograph together.
The best love is not a loner meets another lone traveler, two people understand each other, understand each other's talents, understand each other's weakness in their hearts, and understand each other's firmness.
So what about older leftover women? Because of my age, I did not get married and have children like other people around me, and I went through the same process, and I was pointed out, became a cake before and after tea, and labeled as an "older leftover woman". However, after Qianfan has read it, she still has a girlish heart and wants to meet a love that is understood and understood, what is wrong?
Zhang Xiaoxian: "People are in a hurry, hurry up, catch up right, and establish the best good ending." ”
Zhang Liangying's song sings: "Finally wait for you" "Find someone who loves you and want to entrust the end of the day How many people who can accompany me on a journey are willing to walk through my life is even more rare Whether it is unforgettable and not so important, I just want to experience the taste of love in the plain, and finally wait until you are okay, I have not given up, happiness is not easy, it will make people cherish more."
The TV series "Let's Get Married" tells the thirty-two-year-old carambola Huang Haibo, played by Gao Yuanyuan, who is indeed a thirty-five-year-old and stumbling love story. Starfruit had been hoping to meet the right person through blind dates, but later found out that the right person was around.
Every love has experienced the torment of painful waiting, and after surviving it, it will encounter something called "fate". What is fate, that is, among thousands of people, there is no one minute earlier or one minute later, and it just so happens that you meet the right person, which is fate.
For love, we should always have hope and keep a new heart, after all, marriage is the most important thing in life, and love is also the most important factor in marriage.
Life is long, loneliness is inevitable, always take love as a faith worth waiting for, no matter how long, no matter how far, until he slowly comes to you or runs to your side, as long as he comes, love will come.
All the girls who are still single at the older age, hoping to be alone, can wear a mask as usual, eat and drink as usual, and travel as usual to see the scenery, because every day "the sun also rises." ”
If you are lucky enough to meet someone who can understand you through a mask, it is a very rare thing. If you come across it, I hope you can cherish it. If good luck hasn't come yet, don't worry, because "slowness is the best reason." ”
I hope that all girls can meet someone in this cold world, understand your sadness, understand your weaknesses.
Protecting you, loving you.